wao divjun my situation is just like yours. The only thing is that my ex does have a new girl.
I need someone to talk to so that I can share my experience of this situation.
My friends are kinda tired of the topic.
Heres my email: [email protected]
I think you are wise to maintain NC until your ex shows that he values you. Otherwise even if you did get back together you would be repeating the same cycle. Im going through the same thing with my ex, and honestly I have no desire to go back to that.
Stay strong.
@lolita my friends are even tired of hearing this over and over again!! I ll write to you shortly. 
@litredfrog
I dont know how much time will he take to realise my value and what he has done. Its my day 11 of nc still no progress. He contacted me a couple of times but no sign of him realising mistakes or missing me.!
So… today i got a call from him. I didnt pick and got a text right away saying “div??i miss you. Pls tell me if you’re not going to talk to me”
He called twice again then another text “i am scared please say something” then he called again. I didnt do anything.
He texted my brother’s gf as she is mine friend too. He asked her to call my brother and ask him if div is fine or not. My brother told her that i am fine.
Then no text or calls feom him. I disnt respond to any.
Was it okay?
hey i think you did well sticking to nc. the soft side in me would have relented hahaha
Lol
Was it okay?
I ll break nc when he says sorry with all his heart and wants to get back together. 
well most importantly is that you yourself have become a better person so imo you can break nc anytime after that?
Well, i became a strong person even without starting nc. I ha e been going through all this for a lot of time and it has made me stronger. I wont settle for any less than i deserve. Though i love him and miss him like hell but i am controlling my emotions for now.
yeah sometimes i feel like i deserve better too.
gosh she just asked me ‘how’s ya day’ on fb
Dont reply
Continue with nc
U already got a great start 
Btw, i dont know why you both broke up and for how long you both were dating.
You should update your story soon
We were together for slightly over a year. She had a few past relationships but I was the first one who met her parents etc. Our relationship was headed towards a long term kinda thing. Then towards the end of the year we became distant. We were busy with school and then we also lost our intimacy. We were classmates but she didn’t like me showing affection and stuff. Might also be due to the fact that we see each other everyday? I was planning to use the time that we have after we graduated to reconnect but I never got the chance.
Long story short - apart from those reasons listed above she also found it suffocating in the relationship.
We still care for each other so we’re still friends. She even asked be to come by her house to visit her parents during the Chinese New Year (we’re asians).
Keep it up guys!
@mj you should stick with nc at all times, this way she’ll miss you.
Sometimes we don’t realize what we’ve got until its gone.
Update on my situation:
My ex is spending the weekend at the beach with his new girl. He says shes not his gf but for her he is her bf.
he posts a lot of pictures in snapchat but only there. His family still believes we will get back together someday but he sure as hell seems like he forgot about the 3 years we spent together.
@lolita and @mj you both should do nc. There is no other way of making them miss you and getting back together.
Well, i didnt hear anything from my ex today 
Good thing you still have their support!
Her dad was very happy to see me hahaha
DIVjun you’re. Awesome to do this as long as you have and didn’t break NC when someome suggested you to. So what if he called at 3 in the morning… its great to let them worry about you… you also give me strength to know what to do when their texts begin to get emotional. When he said I’m scared!!! Yeah I bet he is scared to lose you:-)
@divjun sometimes i think no text from them is better
@divjun remember everything you said to me? You and I are in very similar situations. Either way you look at it, you’re dealing with what I am dealing with.
You said you guys were both 20? My ex and I are 18 and 19. Now, I am not one at all to say that you are never too young to love. I do believe at our age you are capable of finding the one. The only obstacle with this situation is that we are all trying to figure ourselves out. You can’t have a strong healthy relationship with another person, if you can’t have one with yourself.
Obviously both of our exes are extremely unhealthy and very confused about what they want in their lives. Guess what? That isn’t either of our faults at all! That’s theirs! I know you and I are still trying to find ourselves too.
What I am saying, stick to NC 100%. No breaks. No nothing. Do not talk to him for a month, if not longer. Not just to grasp his attention to make him realize, but for YOU. This is YOUR time. Be honest with yourself and ask, “What time have I truly invested in myself since we started dating to this point?” I bet your answer will be, “I haven’t invested any time in myself…”
Take this time for you. Find out what you like. Who you like. Evaluate your relationship. Make a decision on who you want to spend the rest of you life with. Keep up with NC and do not give in. Seriously, right now, you are more important.
@ellie96
I totally agree with you. Me and my ex are the same age as you guys. Its true that right now we are all figuring out our lives.
I know the advice wasn’t for me but i loved it!
In a way it made me feel better
Thankyou!