Please, I really need some advice on the latest incident.
Okay, whatever…
Sorry not having the best day myself!
There is a lot going on and I can understand your so mixed up I will try my best to help you, I will give it a good read now and get back to you 
Thank You so sorry to hear your having a bad day.
Just need to write out my frustration, I feel so hopeless today. I don´t understand what I am doing, is there any point in hoping we will get back together. I just feel that I am at deaths door, it´s never going to be us again. Just want to go to sleep and stay there. Some friends asked if I wanted to go out with them, I am considering, but I´m afraid I will meet my ex, as he is probably going out this evening as well.
That’s up for you to decide if you want him back and this is what the 30 days does.
Get up, shower, put your best dress on and get out with your friends, smile through the pain and if you do see him keep walking! Have confidence
I really do want him back, it just feel hopeless at the moment, I don´t know why. It´s just a feeling I got. I will go out with my friends, and if he´s there I will just have to deal with that. And I hope he has the respect for me that he wont be flirting or making out or go with another girl home. I would have that respect for him.
What do you think about him showing up again unannounced yesterday evening?
Him showing up unannounced is him possibly trying to talk to you and see how you are doing! If he wanted to be just friends he wouldn’t do that! I don’t just call unannounced to my friends.
Go out and smile with them catch up on old times, talk about stupid things you used to do!
Yeah, I will have a good time. I had a good time yesterday with this guy and his friend as well. Haven´t heard anything from that guy today, we did flirt a bit some years back, right before I got involved with my ex. This guy has been sending me some text from time to time the last couple of months nothing major really. And last weekend he texted me to fins out why I did not come by his house the week before as I said I would. He seemed a bit interested, and it was really nice and fun yesterday, definitely chemistry. I texted him an hour ago to ask if he was going out, he said he was not sure yet and asked if I was. So i said I was considering it as well and was not sure yet either. Haven´t got any respond. It´s nice to get a little bit of attention from an another guy, but I think I am handling it wrong. I am still in love with my ex and I want him back, this other guy is a nice person, probably a bit shy, but I am not interested in him like that I think.
It´s strange that my ex has shown up twice unannounced in a week. That doesn´t make sense. Do you think it was okay for me that I confronted him about it? That he had been here yesterday?
Do its what you need! if you don’t feel to start anything don’t! But do go on a date to start getting your confidence back…
It is strange that he is showing up but also a god sign keep remembering that, personally I wouldn’t have broke the NC, he knows your still around and he has all the power. Let him chase you now
Yeah, I was really unsure if I should contact him or not yesterday. But I did. Probably a stupid move. Asked him if he had been here, he said yes, I asked why he didn´t call or text, he said he was out of power. I don´t know if I should believe that or not? And then we texted a bit, probably a stupid move. If I could take it back I would not have contacted him. Do you think it ruined much?
See your learning by saying if you could take it back!
You just have to go full NC now and when he shows up again unannounced which he will you do not ask why just simply ignore.
It won’t ruin it if you do the NC, remember become unavailable to him and let him chase you
Yeah I will definitely try to do that. I am not sure he will show up here again, he´s tried that twice now without any luck. Do you think he will do that again?
I will try my best. I was very short and polite on the texts. And tried to end it several times, but I know one of my text gave a bit to much away. Do you think that would matter?
Oh he will in time! See this as positive…
It won’t matter when you completely switch off now
Well I haven`t spoken to him since that night he saw me out driving and asked where I had been. He is the one that has contacted me last sunday when he showed up here and tuesday when he texted. I just thought to myself yesterday that it´s not okay that he just shows up, so that´s why I contacted him. I was not sure if I should or not, but my feelings got the best of me. I think I have been pretty “good” considering. He is the one that has contacted me mostly when I am in no contact. I contacted him once to figure out the stuff he have here and the money he owes.That didn´t go well, he got really angry, but he called back some hours later and was in a better mood. And I texted him last night to figure out if he had been here. The other times he has been contacting me. I really should just had let yesterday go, and not contacted him, but I can´t erase it either.
Do you see this showing up as positive?
If I see him out tonight I am going to smile and look really happy. And believe me, I am making sure that I look very good tonight. I just hope he has the respect for me that he wont be down some girls throat or leaving with one.
So svarer to run into him with another girl tonight when we go out. Sick to my stomach.
OMG! Really? She’s a rebound please do not panic or stress!
No no, I hvavent seen him with anyone or meet him. I was just thinking about it. What if, if you know what I mean? I would like to hope he has the respect not to do that in front of me if we meet each other out. My mind keep making me crazy.
I can see that I has some misspelling in the first post there, my point is that I am so scared that I will run into him with someone else if I meet him.
Phew! Ok do not worry about what he is doing!
For example what if you were at the bar and was taking to a guy you know its complete harmless but what if your ex saw! never let your mind run crazy…think logically