We were together 3.5 years had a lovely relationship apart from when I drank (I’ll let read my topics) basically he walked away in August 2014, I went back to my family in Ireland, he then got in touch at the end of sept 2014 saying he was madly in love with me, so we flew back and forth and then he said in December that he wasn’t in love with me he still cares but it’s done and all water under the bridge, so I started NC 16 days ago.
It is good that hes been around and text, always have hope!
You have to do this for you…you need him to see he can’t emotionally use you
Im so sad to hear that. I will read your topics. Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my posts and helping me. Yeah I know I have to do this for me. And I am working on it. I just want him to care. I get a bit worked up when stuff like him showing up and the texting out of the blue, and I truly believe that it will workout. But then all the thoughts, all my paranoia thinking about him and other women, missing him and so on - I lose all hope.
So you can see that we are all in the same heartbroken boat, I’m on Day 16 and feeling better and doing things for me for once. Thank you if you read them.
Always remember he does care, he’s showing up and texting because he wants you around but hasn’t faced his own demons yet but hopefully with his counselling her will.
Don’t ever lose hope it is a lovely emotion to have.
I will try not to lose hope, but it’s hard. I really took these incidents that occurred as a sign from him. I was trying not to put to much into it, but I sort of did anyway. I must have meant something? I just really want him back. Well I haven’t spoken to him since he sent those text on Tuesday night. It’s Friday today, I guess I just have to stay put. But it’s hard. I’m wondering what he’s thinking and who is with - if he have found someone else and so on. I know these thoughts is making me crazy but they keep sneaking in anyway. Do you think I will hear from him again? I am wondering if he thinks of me when he’s not hearing from me. Just hope he doesn’t think I am over him when I don’t stay in touch.
Do you think there really was something in what he did? Showing up and texting? Yeah, I really hope that he´s wondering about me as well. It just feels like we have been broken up for a long time, but it´s only two weeks today. I just hope he dosn´t think I have forgotten about him and don´t love him anymore since I´m not staying in touch. That he would become interested in someone else because he think so?
I know, it´s just so hard not to. I get so carried away. I just want him back so badly. I haven´t heard anything from him since tuesday, is that a good thing or a bad thing? I really do hope is not moving on that quickly. Or that he is already caught up in another girl.
I will try to be strong and not contact him. It just feels like forever since I saw him. When he showed up here on sunday evening, I was glad that I wasen´t home because I´d like to get some heads up before he choose to come here. I don´t want to look miserable and stuff like that. And at the same time I am a bit sad that I wasen´t home, because I would like to see him, and it would be nice to know what he really wanted. I guess I am putting to much into it, it´s just my head is spinning out of control.
I am just afraid that he has made up his mind for good. I am thinking about the text I got where he wishes me the best bla bla bla. That it might have been the end for him?
I know it´s stupid, but I am from time to time wondering where he is, who his with and if he`s texting some other girl. I just can´t help myself. I would be devastated if he is already checking someone else out.
He hasn’t made his mind up yet if he’s text you and showed up.
My ex text me the same thing after we just broke up and he came back and wants to try but it didn’t work because of all the negativity that surrounded us.
It just felt that he had made up his mind. And then suddenly he was here and texted. But I haven’t heard anything since then texting on Tuesday. Is that a bad sign? I am trying to improve. I have the time off my daughter this weekend. I really want to go out with friends, but there is hardly anyone available and I am scared of running into my ex since it’s a small town and just three places to go out. And I keep wondering what he is up to or who he’s seeing. I know it’s stupid but I just can’t help it.
I will work on me. I am trying to focus on other things.
OKAY, so here is the latest update.
I went to a friends house this evening, it´s a guy friend, he has been interested in me before, he asked me over for coffee. I thought to my self, what the heck and went over. After an hour another guy friend of his showed up, this other friend of his is married, but I know him a bit from some years back. It was so much fun hanging out with this guys talking and talking and drinking coffee. Time fled by and four hours later I went home. I got a text from my neighbour saying my ex had been at my place again! He had come by around 10.30 pm. He haven´t called me or texted me about that, so I wonder what he was up to. I didn´t get home until 01.00 am. My neighbour is convinced that he´s checking up on me. This is really strange to me, he has never done that before. And now, he has showed up twice unannounced. I haven´t been home when he has been here. I got a little bit irritated and flattered if it´s actually true that he is checking up on me. So I broke the no contact and texted him, wondering if he had been here. He said yes, he had been to his friend house and went by my house afterwards. I asked why he didn´t call or text me, he said he was out of power (really?). And then we got into this kind of akward text conversation. Nothing big, just asking each other what our plans are for the weekend. He was a bit curious to what I was doing, and I asked him a bit as well. I tried to be a little lay back and polite on the texts. He was some flirty and some not. I was al little flattered that he might be checking up on me, so I was kind of in a flattered mood if you know what I mean, so I kind a feel that I maybe gave a bit to much away in one of the text I sent back at him. I´m not sure. I was trying to end the conversation several times. with have fun tomorrow, oh there are always somebody that is driving, sounds fun - enjoy, but he kept answering. So I sent a simple smiley in the last text, and since then I haven´t heard anything.
So what do you think of this? What does this mean? Did I ruined it? I should probably not have contacted him, but I could not just overlook that he is showing up unannounced several times. I don´t find that okay, even though I am a bit flattered. I am so confused. What´s the meaning and purpose of this? And is he putting me in the friend zone?