I know I shouldn’t worry about what he’s doing, but it’s easier said than done. Those awful thoughts keeps crawling into my mind, especially at night. It feels like someone is taking over my mind some times. Am I over thinking the fact that he showed up here without calling and the text from him?
It’s a lot easier said than done but you will drive yourself crazy otherwise.
You know him better than anyone but him texting and showing up are not signs of someone who doesn’t care or love you
Do you think he is trying to see if he can ease me back into he’s life? I am probably over thinking this. I just want it to be some meaning in it. Why would he do this otherwise? And the texts he sent had a flirting undertone, he was very curious about where I had been and what I was up to. It wasn’t the most interesting text conversation, but it was something. And the vague answer on Sunday when I asked if he stopped by to get his t-shirt. He answered with: something like that. I am afraid to get my hopes up, just to end up crushed. I just really want this to work out. Two days before he blew up he said that he couldn’t imagine his life without me, that was so glad he had me and loved me. And then all of a sudden he just blew up.
To me he’s keeping you around as he is terribly confused and not sure what he wants!
There is hope there but you have to do NC to find out exactly what it is he wants
So I should just continue the no contact and hope that he will figure it out? He is dealing with a heavy depression, I know people struggling with stuff like that pushes people away. He tends to do that when he is struggling.
He knows we can´t just be friends, we have talked about that before. So when he comes to my house and text me, there´s got to be some motive behind it? I don´t know, it just feels hopeless, i don´t want to lose hope.
What if he just moves on and forgets about me, or that he has already moved on? That I won´t hear from him again…
Do you think the text he sent me that friday that he was sad to, but wishes me the best bla bla bla, was his way of ending things for good with me? I am so afraid that my respond was a mistake. I don´t know. I am freaking out over here. Over analyzing.
No because he wouldn’t have shown up or text again, he needs space and so do you, STOP over analysing it does not achieve anything.
He will return but in time
Okay, I will try to calm down. I appreciate your advice and calming me down, I tend to freak out sometimes - especially at night. I have been out running for two hours today, maybe that will help me get some sleep.
I wish I knew what he was thinking. What do I do if he´s already meet someone else? This is the most scary thought ever. I don´t know why, probably that he will lose his feelings for me and find this person a better woman than me, and never look back. I feel a bit obsessed on what he´s doing, who he´s with and so on at the moment. Keep wondering if he has posted anything on his facebook page - since we are not friends there I can´t see everything. He is not the kind of person who post that much on facebook anyway, it could go months between posting something.
I must sound like a crazy person, but I love him so much.
It’s ok we have all freaked out but I have learned that it does not achieve anything, the way you are feeling will pass, always keep putting one foot in front of the other.
He will not move on that quick, he’s still texting and showing up at yours, he’s questioning what uiu are doing. You will never know what he is thinking but you have to stop putting yourself down, you had a relationship and went through a serious illness with him he cannot forget all of that.
You have to take care of yourself first not because you will get ill if you keep going the way you are.
I know. I am just so miserable. I feel so empty, I haven’t cried much, I just feel so powerless, so distant from the world. Hard to describe. I want to improve myself, and I try my best everyday, but I don’t feel I am getting any further. I really hope he doesn’t move on and not that quickly. He got to feel something as well. Him showing up and texted me the other day might have been a coinsidence, I don’t know. It just felt like a little sign. Why would he do that if he didn’t mean anything by it? I haven’t heard from him since. I can’t stop worrying about what he’s doing this weekend. He said that him and his guy friends would have poker night on Saturday, that’s all I know. Can’t stand the thought of him seeing another girl this weekend… Do you think he might be thinking that I have moved on because I don’t stay in touch?
Sometimes I feel the need to drive by his house to see if his home, but I never do it. How can I shake this feeling of him being with someone else off?
He won’t move on that quickly if he does it will be a rebound as he will be just trying to fill a void.
You really have to start picking yourself up and moving forward, it’s difficult but you need to be happy & positive
You need to stop being so paranoid and scared.
You have to let him go in order to get him back.
You have to accept the break up and start by healing.
I am really trying, it’s just so hard. I really want to drive by his house, call him, text him, just everything today. My mind is going crazy. I won’t do it, but the ache inside me is just twisting by the idea of him being with someone else. And that he might be at this very moment. Yes I know I am freaking out. What if he thinks that I have moved on since I don’t stay in touch? Am I hoping for something that won’t be fixable?
You are absolutely right, I just don’t now how to let him go. I miss him so much, he is very important person to me. I really thought I was that for him to after everything we have been through. I don’t have parents, I am 26, but I have a daughter which is 3,5 and I am teacher and part time student. So my ex has become so much more than a boyfriend to me, I consider him family since I have none and he’s my best friend. It’s hard to let go.
He needs to think you have moved on to make him realise.
I understand the hurt, I went through exactly the same with my ex with his cancer I thought it bonded us for life but he became more selfish.
What purpose are you serving yourself by driving yourself crazy thinking he’s with someone else? Nothing because you cannot do anything if he is.
I know, I don’t now why I do it. I think it’s because I think that if he is or will he will forget about me and that there is no hope for us. I know it sounds silly, it’s just how I feel. I really thought we have a special bond after going through this together. And maybe we have, but he is struggling with his depression and fear of getting sick again. We have been each other’s rock throughout this, I have been there for him day and night. I will keep on working on me. Do you think there is a chance he is considering getting back together due to the way he’s been acting lately?
You will feel that way, I do from time to time but I know I have to give him space instead of being needy and desperate, I was his rock through everything but he still choose to walk away.
Have you forgot about him?? No! So he won’t be able to do to the same.
There is always a chance but you need to step back and breathe
I’m so sorry to hear your ex-boyfriend changed so much and choose to walk away. Is this a long time ago? Do you stay in touch? I will keep up the no contact. I am not contacting him and I will try my best to ignore him. It just doesn’t feel hopeful at the moment. I felt a hope on Sunday when he called and said he had been to my house, and I felt an even higher hope on Tuesday when texted me out of the blue. But it seems like I’m putting to much into it. Do you think?