Don’t answer the phone. You should be angry. He is being a complete asshole. You deserve better.
Don’t answer. And he should tell her that she is gone and then tell you. And then maybe still play him asking a bit. She needs to be gone completely. Delete her number. Blocked from Facebook. The whole lot.
Harden up. Act tough. If he wants you then let him really show it. You don’t have to do anything
I don´t feel that much angry, I feel more hurt than angry. I don´t want to have much contact with him until he tells her that he doesn´t have feelings for her. My ex or whatever he is at the moment, has a really low immunity because of the cancer treatment, so when he gets the flu he become very sick. (it´s super frustrating, but there is not much to do about it). I understand that he needs to tell her in person, as everyone should do, regardless of seriousness or not, fooling around or in a long term relationship. He said he has been responding vaguely to some texts she has sent. And will go up there as soon as his feeling better. I said that it´s important that he does this as soon as possible, as this is not okay for either, and I can´t fully commit when she has a foot in the picture.
It seems like he´s a bit stressed out that I am so straight forward. And I have told him I want to take it slow. I think that have made him quite curious. I use my time when he tries to reach me. As you may have notice, when he can´t reach me he calls several times and texts.
We have always had this sweet thing where we would send each other good night texts and maybe chat a little over texts before we say goos night. Tonight when I went to bed I got a very sweet good night text from him. Not exactly like it used to be, but very similar. I haven´t seen that in quite some while. He has this cute nickname for me that he has had from the beginning of our relationship, he left that out and he used plain smileys, not hearts or kissing smileys and stuff like that. But otherwise it was pretty similar to what we used to send before. It´s a good thing, but at the same time I don´t want to put to much into it.
I am little concerned that he will choose this other girl over me. Like change his mind and wants to be with her instead. What do you think?
How are you now?
Let him think that you are going. By hanging on you are still giving him an option. If he chooses her then he is a dickhead for leading you on and calling and texting. He wants everything. And has it the way you are acting.
Considering he is sick then give him until he is better. If he doesnt get rid of her straight away then walk away.
Tell him you are gone and you will find out what he really wants. Don’t let him treat you like that.
I am a little insecure right now. Think I did something stupid. We had a nice conversation on the phone earlier tonight, and my stupid mind and insecurity and jealousy about the whole situation got the best of me and I started talking about the situation we´re in. That I´m not comfy being all flirty and loving when she is not completely out of the picture, that it´s a hard situation and I feel like he´s with both of us and so on.
He said that he was not with the both of us, that he´s not flirty or anything like towards her, just answer vaguely if he answers her. He said as soon as his a little better he´s going to sit down with her.
I felt like a complete jealous insecure nag tonight. I don´t know if he got irritated or not. He is in bad shape today and they have had some problems with his uncle going to a mental hospital today, so it probably wasn´t the best time to bring it up. I feel like I have screwed things up. I don´t want to loose him again, but I just couldn´t help myself tonight. I regret it so badly.
What do I do? How can I make it right? How do I make him want me more? I feel like I have really messed it up. He said that he would call again tomorrow, but I don´t know.
He said over and over again on friday night that I am the one he wants, and wants us to be together. That he has no feelings for this girl and only wants to be with me.
I am freaking out!
Why?
Keep calm
Cause I feel like I screwed things up with the end of the conversation last night. I just felt like a jealous insecure nag. I am just scared that he has changed his mind about me and us now.
How else would anyone behave? If you were completely calm then he would wonder what the hell was going on with you.
All is fine
You think so? I don’t want this situation to ruin things. I haven’t said much about it. Tried to focus on us and not talked much about it. But last night I couldn’t help myself. I wasn’t mad or anything like that, I talked calmly about it. And he assured me that he was going to talk to her as soon as possible. But I felt the conversation was so awkward, didn’t know if he got irritated or not. He wanted to go lay down on the coach and it was a weird ending to the conversation. He said he would call me again today, but I haven’t heard anything yet. I don’t want him to feel that I am jealous and can’t trust him. I am
Scared he will change his mind about us. What should I do?
Had to go for a walk to clear my head. It’s so hard!
Will it ever be normal and good again 
Of course life will be good again. Work on yourself. On your own progress. Never mind what he is doing.
He says he wants to be with me. He says he has missed me a lot. That he has been sad. That he can’t find the kind of connection we have with anyone else. It’s just so hard that he has been with that girl. It upsets me. How can I block it out?
I don’t know what to think. He seems to be really into me. Calling and texting. He’s still quite sick. Today he has been coughing up blood. He seemed a bit better yesterday, but today he’s worse again. He called me around noon today, told me about the coughing blood and stuf like that. Then this evening I see some stuff on Facebook, some of his friends are playing some games or something tonight. I saw him liking this Update, and I immidiately got the feeling he was lying to me and that he maybe was going to his mates house. So I called him, I made up some other excuse to why I called. He was caughing a lot and he said he was laying on the coach watching tv. He said he thought he most likely will be sick all the weekend as well. I tried to be nice and make him feel better, but he seemed a bit out or irritated. It just felt wrong for me to call him. Like he didn’t like it. He then said we would talk later or something. I don’t know what to think. I don’t want to screw things up. But it’s hard to deal with that he has been with someone else. Did I screw things up by calling him? I was just trying to check in with him.
So scared that it will never work out again and that he will change his mind again.
Give him time. Give yourself time. And so panicking and jumping to conclusions.
All will be fine. But you have to let yourself be more relaxed
He seems very interested. It seems he wants it to be us. Today he has called me three times. He’s still sick and are going to the doctor tomorrow. We haven’t been able to meet each other yet, so I don’t know what expect. He calls and text a lot. I find that calming but at the same time I am terrified. I am afraid that he will change his mind and that things will go downhill again. I am afraid to get my hopes up and for it to be crushed again. I really love this man, and I can’t picture my life without him in it. I really want this to work. Hopefully he will get better in a few days so we can meet. I am very scared of losing him again. What should I do when we meet?
How do I make him chase me more?
He is chasing. He is ringing often. Don’t get greedy. You are lucky he is calling at all.
Be a bit more hard to get and he will chase more. Don’t always answer the phone and so on.