I won’t confront him. He’s just acting strange to just wanting to be a friend. And he knows as well, that we can’t be friends. He was in a very good mood though. I don’t know. I am scared that he doesn’t mean anything by this. I am working on me. But I can’t help thinking about it as well. I really do want him back. Just scared to be put in the friend zone. I don’t want to see him with anyone else.
I hope he knows that by showing up, flirty texts, calling several times, sending several messages, and he only wants to be friends, that it would be impossible to get over him. I would think it would difficult for him as well. It’s very confusing. I’m painting my living room tonight, keep focused. I think your ex will be back Patrick, she is definitely testing waters.
I think or rather hope that she is. Time will reveal all.
I have patience
As you say time will tell. But it´s a good sign that she is messaging you. How long have you stayed in no contact now?
I was just thinking about how my ex have acted lately and he´s gotta want something? But at the same time he´s hard to understand. The only thing I am worried about is that he dosen´t mean anything about this. But friends don´t act this way. Especially not towards there ex?
And when he started to talk about his new boxer, I didn’t know what to say. So I laughed a little. Quite strange.
I might have been wrong about his actions after all. When we wore broken up the last time my ex slept with this girl. Now I just found out that she has become friends with one of my ex friends, which he hangs out a lot with. It doesn’t sound like a coincidence to me. So my ex is clearly seeing her.
And I am embarrassed to say this, but I did something stupid. I totally lost it when I saw this, so I wrote: Congratulation 
, to him on Facebook chat. I know I can say that I typed the wrong person if he asks about it. It’s happened before, typing to wrong person. He’s been calling me, don’t know if he had seen it or not. I haven’t picked up, as I am afraid I am going to loose it completely. The last time we were broken up my ex did not act like he does now. He was more distant then and when he contacted me it was nothing like now. And then he came to my house after three weeks to pick up some things. He said he wanted us to get back together. He said that he had flirted with this girl and slept with her, trying to get over me. He said he wasn’t interested in her and had no further contact with her. But clearly there is something going on again. That’s highly a coincidence.
What do I do? 
Okay, here’s the latest update. He sent me a message on Facebook chat since I didn’t answer the phone. It said: I have a lot to say and a lot explain, but if you don’t want to talk to me, that’s fine. I then called him back. He was out for a walk by himself so he could talk to me. He said he had been struggling a bit with his depressio. That he was hopeless sometimes. He said that he had heard that I was seeing someone, which I’m not, a little while ago. So he had been sad about that. I told him that I was not seeing anyone. He said he has been fooling around with this girl again. He even brought her to his mates house last Saturday. He said he has no feelings for her, and that he has just been with her to fill the void and because he was mad at me. He said he missed me and didn’t want to let me go. I said that if he wanted to move forward with this girl that I was not going stop him, and that I was very sad that he had been seeing her. I told him I missed him too. He said that he missed hearing my voice and missed being with me. That he had thought about me a lot. And the times he have shown up here he has wanted to talk to me but been afraid to do so. So he said that he was going to tell this girl that he wasn’t over me. And he wants us to try again. I said that I would like that to, but we have to take it slow and that he needs to be sure. Cause if he wants to be with that other girl then he gotta go ahead and do so. He said: “how can I wanna be with her when I miss you so badly and all I can think of is you”. So it seems like we agreed to give it a try. I don’t know what to think. I am devastated that he has been with this girl again. And I don’t know if I can trust him and what he’s saying is the truth. I feel nauseous and overwhelmed. My heart is racing, it almost feel like I am having some sort of anxiety attack. I don’t want to be stupid, but at the same time I want him back. But I am not up for competing with someone else for him. He said that he had to go put his son to bed now and go to bed himself. But he asked if he could call me again tomorrow and if we could stay in contact. I desperately needs some advice on how to handle this. I feel extremely jealous of that other girl. I feel devastated, I feel relived and I am creeped out, because I have had this feeling that he has been fooling around with this girl, so I was right. How can I make this work? How do I handle this other girl? And how am I going to interact towards him?
I feel for you. That’s pretty shit. But look. We are all in the same boat. It is a psychological thing that makes people do that.
If you want to try again then go for it. He has to stop contacting that girl.
But take it really slow
I’m just so out of it. Don’t know what to think. I feel like crap. I am little concious of whether or not he means this. I just don’t know what to do. I want him back of course, and I said that we would have to take it slow then. I asked what he was going to do with that girl, what he was going to do with her. He said that he would go up there over the weekend and tell her that he doesn’t feel anything for her and that he can’t get over me. Do you think he’s sincere? How do I handle the jealousy towards this girl? I feel like the trust is low right now.
You would get over it all in time. Don’t jump back in to a relationship straight away.
Give yourself time now to think. He has hurt you. So you owe him nothing now. Go and be with another man. That might help you. This is a crazy suggestion but it might help you.
I don’t know if I could do that. I don’t know what to do. I really hope he’s sincere about this. It’s really hurtful that he’s been seeing her. I don’t know how I am going to trust him. I said we needed to take things really slow if we’re gonna try one more. I hope he knows that he had to end all contact with this person. I was very strict about that. He said that he would call me again tomorrow, saturday.
How can stop picturing them together? It really hurts my feeling that he brought her to see his friends. That means something. When I wrote to him: Congratulation :), he seemed to know exactly what I was talking about. Hence him trying to call me and the message he sent on Facebook.
Don’t know how to handle this. Haven’t heard from him yet today either.
Well he hasn’t called me yet, and it’s almost 17.00pm in the afternoon. Starting to doubt this whole thing.
It’s just so hard to handle that he has been with this girl again. And even more frustrating that he can’t tell her right away since my ex has his son this weekend and they have his uncle and aunt in town staying with my ex and his family. And top it all he called me and said he had got the flu after sitting outside for almost an hour talking to me Friday night freezing. It’s so hurtful that he did this. How do I handle it? And how do I make sure he gives this girl notice? I said that he can’t have any contact with her if he wants to be with me. I don’t want to screw things up. It’s just my trust level is so low at the moment, and I feel my jealousy level is rising. I don’t want to loose him but I am not bothered to compete with someone else. Still I don’t want my jealousy towards this girl coming in the way at the same time I want him to know I’m serious about it.
You were split up when he was with her. So you have to try to block it out.
Ignore him now. Make him feel like shit for a while. He deserves it. Don’t reply to him or answer calls. He doesn’t have to wonder why.
That’s how you deal with it. If he feels he is losing you then he might change. But at this stage forget him. He was contacting you whilst with her. Treat him like crap
This is keeping me up at night. I am trying to block it out, the vision of him with her. It’s just devastating and I really hope he understands that. I really want to talk to him in person, so as soon as he’s better from the flu we should probably meet. Do you think he’s sincere about wanting to be with me and that he doesn’t have any feelings for this girl?
Do you recommend staying in sort of no contact? He always calls me several times if I don’t answer right away. I guess I could at least make him sweat a bit, with not answer right away and stuff like that. We spoke again on the phone tonight, for about 20 minutes. He is still in bad shape of the flu. I told him that he should tell this other girl as soon as possible, he said he was going to do that as soon as he felt in good shape to go out of the house. The whole thing with this girl makes me so insecure. And I think the worst part is that he took her to his mates house, introducing her. I feel that is a big step! He says that didn’t mean anything, and that he has no romantic feelings for her. What should I believe? We talked about meeting up Tuesday evening, if he feels better. I do want to talk to him in person, I am just afraid I will loose my mind before that.