I know she does love me. I can see that now. She can’t…yet. But it’s Close. The maths don’t lie! HAHA.
And oddly, I had a gut Feeling or a Vision or whatever that i spoke with pheonix about. The maths and that vision are perfectly in sync. I didn’t force that. I found out after. Isn’t that strange?
That’s really strange but it’s working for you.
She will be back
Hi Caz. How are you now?
Go out and enjoy yourself after work tonight. If you feel down then I will check here from time to time, but you seem to be doing very well today.
I have gotten a lot better as the day has gone on. I will continue with nc until i see fit to stop. If the other man was off the Scene and she needed help regarding studying or something I think i would go in false friends mode. It worked before! Went to help when she was sick and 3 weeks later she was telling me she loved me.
Pheonix said some nice things. Said that I have the power and that the Smiley was no big deal because it was 5 hours later. I will subtract a few days off for that. lol
And whatever happens with either of our stories, we should Keep in touch. We will meet in Baile Atha Cliath some day. For miwadi of course!
I’m sure one of us will feel like shite over the next few days at some Point. That’s what this is for.
Hey Patrick,
I’m up and down at the minute! I feel its too late and water under the bridge, I’m definitely going out tonight, just going for a meal and soft drinks.
I’m so glad you are feeling better about it all, your right to do it until you feel right and to support her if she’s struggling with false friendship.
You do have the power and will gain more over the next few days!
we will definitely keep in touch 
I really want to text him today I miss him 
Do NOT text him. Think of how bad I felt because of a Smiley. You have come this far now. You can Keep going.
Stick the full 30 days, come back a new woman and he will throw himself at you. He still loves you. Not the old bad you, but the you inside. The strange drunk you that came out every now and again is gone now. That was the you he didn’t love.
Stick to your guns of 30 days. It’s for you and not him. Bit like when Clarke kent had to go to the arctic and become superman again. lol
My Situation is a bit different because she has already reached out over 2 days and let some of her Feelings be known. But then again, she might still have the new man so that confuses things. But she mustn’t care for him. She would have left that angry Chat as it was yesterday. The inside joke told a lot. And I bet she knew what she was doing too. She was reaching to say that she hasn’t forgotten; even the Little things.
Your man will come back. It will take time. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Have your letter ready.
I know I don’t want to go back to the start but I miss him.
He knows I don’t drink anymore and I proved that to him when I saw him over the 4 months after we broke up and he wanted to try but he did say 3 weeks ago it wasn’t go to work as he didn’t feel the same anymore after telling me in September he was madly in love with me so I’m terribly confused.
She is definitely reaching out to you, she wouldn’t have go in contact if she had any feelings for him.
Tell me, were you still Feeling negative and desperate and needy when you last spoke to him. That rubs off you know. That will be the difference the next time. And on a day when you feel really really good with yourself, write the letter or rewrite it. Feelings can come through I believe.
Oh my god thinking about it I was, I was still angry that he broke my heart and he had his new place and job and getting a new car, I told him I hated him (sober) then the next day I was horrible by text.
Then 16 days I apologised about my behaviour towards him and said I just want to leave the pain and hurt behind and not keep looking backwards, he read them and didn’t respond and I’m on day 16.
Plus he wanted us to stay friends with benefits but I couldn’t do it
Ah now. That changes everything. Of course he wants you. He wanted Sex 2 weeks ago. Your negativity was dragging him down. Scaring him.
Now go out and celebrate that. Forget him for tonight.
But believe me, he wouldn’t want sec if he didn’t want more.
He loves you still. Can you see it now?
Have faith.
Chin up. It will work.
Thanks Patrick
But I know him so well and I think it was just sex he wanted as he said before a while ago it took him 37 years to find me and I’m the best he ever had.
I can see that my negativity scared him and I couldn’t be the happy bubbily person around him.
I’m having a good day just trying to see the reality of it all.
Feeling pretty down tonight. So scared that I’ll never get her back. She might just stay with this other man for good. He’s probably the now.
Please don’t feel down, it is so natural to feel this way.
But you have so must positivity the last couple of days with the texts and everything.
He is just a rebound she wouldn’t be texting you if it was anything serious
Are you sure about that? What if she just sees me now as an old friend? An old friend might text. But wouldn’t day they are worried maybe. I don’t know. You’re a woman. Explain the messages please
How can she see you as an old friend? Do you see her that way?
She text and you didn’t respond and then she got angry, not being funny but I don’t get angry with my friends if they don’t respond! I don’t say I’m worried about them if they don’t reply.
She’s is in love with you but is figuring a lot out in her mind and wants to make sure you are there when she’s ready.
Honest opinion she’s considering you both give it another go.
You think that really? Or just saying that to make me feel good? I got a feeling something had changed.
But the other guy? Maybe you are right. She might think that I’m going
The thing though is that it should be me that is ready. I messed it up?
Yes I do really think that because I left a relationship to be with my now ex and never once texted my ex ex! I was done and had moved on, she’s texting you whilst with someone else is a very big sign!
I’m not here to make you feel better but realise she’s not done.
You take the time now until you are ready and when you are go for it! yes you had 1 mistake but you know now it’s all about you.
Be strong
1 mistake? Smiley? I’ll push on now with nc for another while. Thanks caz.
Btw, check out the weird stuff myself and pheonix are talking about. We started a new topic because we hijacked another one