Strange alright that she text me like crazy today if he was still on the scene.
What happens if they declare their love for you during nc. Is that mission accomplished? Just wondering
It is and she wasn’t taking no for an answer even after you asked for space.
If she does this, you can reply and ask her what she wants? She has to be the one to come back
I see. So if she makes the move then job done. Otherwise she would go into no contact then. Ha. That would be funny
Just thinking again about this. The word rule is strict. Every situation is different. Going into this no contact mode is for yourself to heal first and foremost. Everybody is different so putting a strict period of time is daft in a way.
I just want her to realise that I won’t be there for the chit chat. I need to heal. I messed up a bit today but call it day 1 again or day 8 or whatever. I won’t make contact anyway. I won’t reply to messages of how are you and so on. But one must feel the situation. Playing mind games with somebody should not be the intention. If she wants me back then she will have to figure that out herself. That may take a few days or weeks. Or never. And the never is the thing.
But I don’t want to be a friend now either at the moment. That might change in a week or 10 days. I’ll feel it out. I’ll brush that off as a minor blip but the point was made anyway. She knows now that I’m not here for chat anymore.
Good night
@caz15 morning.
I feel bad today. Weak; as if i have made a mess of things. But I did have her acting crazy yesterday. That’s got to be good.
Lets see what the next week brings. She probably won’t text for a Long time. She might run to him. But one positive is that she got so angry and texting like crazy and then tried to make it up with an old joke. She is definitely thinking of me. Definitely. At least she knows from yesterday that I Need space. She doen’t know what is going on either.
I bet that over the next few days she will start to think more of the good times that we had. She thinks now that I am gone.
Thinking about what she text; “I think you msiunderstood some things”. Would she have been hinting that it wasn’t serious with that guy. That would make some sense. Perhaps that is all over?? That’s why she got crazy. She is alone now.
How are you?
@patrick d morning,
Ok so you are going to have your bad days but you can repair this. See even you are starting to realise that is does work, she did get angry and tried to repair it with a joke as not to upset you.
If she is alone now that’s a positive as it will really make her think about you a lot more.
I’m doing ok day 16 for me
Yeah. I see that it works. She was thinking about me. That was good. And trying to make it better with the joke could be trying to diffuse the Situation (as a friend), but the outburst of Anger told a tale. Somebody who wouldn’t care wouldn’t do that.
She still has Feelings. I’m sure of that.
Day 16. well done. Monday will have you in the 20’s. The home straight! contact again before valentines! What way will you Approach that?
She does care and still has feelings like you said if she didn’t care she wouldn’t have got angry.
You have got to keep it up!
I know its the longest we have ever gone, I’m going to give it the 30 days & if I still don’t feel I’m ready I will give more time 
Good for you. You Sound positive today. That’s good.
I think she still loves me. I will give her time now to Forget the bad times. Think she is already. The joke showed that. And sitting alone studying she will think more then. I meanwhile have to do things for me.
Do you think from what she did yesterday that that was a really good sign?
I’m feeling more positive bexcuse I’m concentrating on me and not him.
Of course she loves you! You cannot just switch off feelibgs, I see it as a really good sign because she text! I haven’t heard from my ex at all
He is probably wondering what is going on. Some men are just scared/stubborn. When you make contact he will reply. And when he hears of all the things you have changed he will be mad after you. Especially when you Sound positive.
another month is not Long really. I’ll give it time. I will get strong and she will love it. Her exams will be over and we can do things together. But maybe she will have the new man still. BUt he mustn’t mean much judging by yesterday.
To be honest I don’t think he is, I asked him 16 days not to reply to me so I can move on, I don’t think he will question at all what I’m doing.
Exactly a month is not long and you will feel stronger for it, he is or was a rebound as her head & heart were not in it if they were you wouldn’t have got texts and then angry texts, the tables did turn yesterday.
They turned surely. She will now start doubting everything. She will now start to wonder what could have been.
Silly question maybe, but will you want him back after the 30 days? And of course he cares. I still think sometimes of Girls i was with for just a month or so. And I didn’t give a shit about them. He cared about you and loved you. Of course he is thinking about you. A lot probably.
Have faith
Definitely! And once you don’t text or call this will drive her crazy as you are not begging or pleading to get her back. You need to get the power back.
I 100% want him back but he’s very stubborn and listens to his family a lot! I hurt him too much and I honestly think it’s done
but hurt fades. I hurt my Girl a lot. Similar to you, drinking and getting angry. Annoying her friends etc. If i didn’t do that, everything was fine. Jealousy was a big Thing.
I should look at it like that. She will now wonder why I am not contacting and begging. She showed her colours yesterday. She didn’t mean to but did. But I didn’t Show mine, even with the Smiley.
I guarantee you that you will get him. And me and her and you and him will meet someday back on the Island. Trust me.
Heres hoping! she will be going mad thinking why as he not been in touch and you need to use this to your advantage.
I have done all I can now to prove to him so we will wait & see but I am using this time to work more on myself and get back to the fun loving, bubbly girl he knew & fell in love with.
That’s the attitude. You will do it. I have a good Feeling about you 2. You Sound great today
And even though I handed back some power last night, I have her on the ropes now. I have the power Overall. If this Weekend passes with no contact then she will Freak out again.
The ball is in my court the old woman said (see my Chat under not my ex - dream telepathy with pheonix)
I do get a good Feeling about you. Trust me
I feel brill, I start my new job on Monday, I’ve been walking and have lost weight and getting toned!
You are getting the power back by everyday you don’t text or call. She will be wondering over the weekend, she’s scared your moving on.
I have a very good feeling about you both thank you he’s the love of my life and I pushed him away.
Remember keep strong and positive!
I’ve been doing a mathematical graph as to were things are. The graph was developed based on what has happened and projecting that into the future. Assumptions have been made e.g. that he is a rebound.
Although yesterday was a slip and the trend went down, it will be rising again continuing on the projection albeit with approx. a day lost. It was a slip but wouldn’t be enough to Warrant a complete reverse to the start as she is not back in the same Frame of mind as 9 days ago and neither am I.
So looking at the trend, I am expecting contact again on thursday of next week. That will be the day that her Feelings for me overtake her feelings for the new man.
Then on the Weekend around valentines it will come again but stronger; looking for a Meeting perhaps.
We will see. But just thought I would share that
He is a rebound 100%, it was a little slip yesterday but you have learned from it and starting to get stronger.
I wish I had one of those graphs lol.
Thank you for sharing but she does love you and needs time to come to that conclusion.