She might come to that conclusion before then? That it’s me that she wants
End of feb and then you will have a clear head of what your next move should be, it will be a hard lesson learned but worth it.
How can she forget about you? Have you forgotten about her! if a song comes on she will think of you or when she sees your name on a bill.
If she begs you tell her no, keep the conversation to 10-15 minutes, be positive upbeat and don’t talk about the relationship.
So if she begs via text? Shit I was doing well. One little slip. And 8 days lost. So stupid. And to think that I had won so well earlier. Don’t let me do that again
Exactly if gives them time to miss you not have you as a back up!
It’s all about time, slow and steady wins the race.
It could possibly take longer but after the 30 days if you feel ready to have her in your life without feeling rejected or hurt, send a letter or an email.
Is time not slipping away?
Ok. Thanks caz. I suppose it was just today that she knew I wanted space so for her she didn’t know any different.
How are you this evening.
Ask her to respect your wishes of space until you are ready, you need to become attractive to her again, start getting fit and looking after you, honestly we have all done it, the minute you feel like you have to text her, get on her and talk it out.
I’m here to listen. I know exactly what you are going through.
Day 15 for me and I am slowly getting better ![]()
So if she begs then politely say something similar like what I sent earlier. I’m so annoyed with myself
Yes, that’s if she constantly keeps texting.
If she texts just the once don’t respond but if she keeps doing it send the text like today again and if she texts back do not text.
Have I blown it? She might never take me back. She might not like me at all
Don’t beat yourself up like I said we have all done it.
Did she text back after you sent the smiley?
No she didn’t. She will forget about me. And move on. I messed up
You haven’t blown it don’t panic!
You have to be a little bit selfish, she does not hate you if she did do you think she would text??
All she wanted to know was that you were still there, so this is also why the NC is good you don’t feel rejected or unwanted
That’s true. But now it’s suddenly 38 days because of one smiley. Ffs. Suppose. Not the end of the world. She might be back in a week texting like crazy like today again. Guess she learned something today too. The seeds of doubt might be planted in her mind.
It’s not and you will be quite surprised how quick it goes!
She learned that you were not responding right away and that’s why the constant texts she is panicking abit.
You need to stay strong work on yourself, stop worrying about what she is doing because trust me it eats you alive, let it go.
What’s meant to be will not pass you by.
Thanks. Yeah she went into complete panic mode. But I am scared that as time passes she will just think that she is better without me and can live without me. But today gives me hope actually. For Her to panic like that and then try to make up with that text gave a bit away. She still cares
She did because she is scared to lose you.
It will only make her more intrigued with you as she will no nothing of your life.
Of course she still cares you had a long relationship, nobody can just switch off.
True. And hopefully by the end of February he will be gone and we can start again. New start. She will be finished her exams then too. She will probably want to travel. That would be so tough if she had something booked.
It’s all about time now, she might not even be with him now, always look forward and never look back