Can i get her back?

She starts at the end of february until the end of March. Thats pretty Close to easter. If you were reading the Chat with pheonix, remember what tea Lady told me

God this is so tough now. She will get angry. And she knows that I have seen it because it’s whats app.
I felt really good for the past hour or so. I even saw that you repeated my comment about looking after number 1 and started thinking that this site is really good and i feel good and i am important.

It’s so brilliant that she is texting and sending photos! She really wants you to be apart of this.

But remember you are not her support network at the moment only yours.

OMG that’s crazy the tea lady was spot on, I might need to see her :slight_smile:

How are you feeling?

You should go to tea Lady. She lives in such a beautiful place. In the grounds of crom Castle. (Google map it). And i have yet to meet anybody that has not been astounded. As i said, years ago I went there. She told me things and they all came true. But she only told me about 5 years ahead. Including that I would be living here with her. Why did she stop there? Did she know that I would be back?
She is a lovely woman and whether she is right or wrong even the Chat whilst drinking the tea is so soothing

Let her get angry! Was it fair on you when she broke your heart and you were angry when she didn’t respond, she needs to see the consequences of her actions. It is so difficult but I’m here, keep talking, see if you had no contact at all you would still be feeling better, she keeps bringing you back to square 1.

You are important always remember that, your words have been a comfort to me :slight_smile:

Keep taking to me

I feel strange. I feel so happy for her but sad that I can’t be there with her. And I feel worse for not replying. That will hurt her. I can feel it already…the disappointment from her

I will nip out for a cigarette. Be back in a few minutes.

I’m defintely going to look into that!

I have been to see someone in August and he told me he will be back in 5 weeks or 5 months which he did after 5 weeks! also said that I will have a difficult decision to make in 15 months between 2 men my ex and another.

Nothing like a good chat over tea, wish I was there with you now with tetley and Kimberley biscuits! :slight_smile:

You will feel sad as this is something that you should both be celebrating! She is trying to involve you but she needs to understand you can’t as your not together.

If it hurts her that you don’t reply I don’t mean to sound horrible when I say this but that’s a good thing for you, it will really make her think.

I know. I can sort of see that. But it hurts me. I want to celebrate with her.
This is good isn’t it? Or is it her trying to be friends?

When are you home next? Easter? I can give you her number? Plus you get to see beautiful west cavan and south fermanagh

Of course it hurts and you want nothing more to hug her but do remember after the smiley incident and she didn’t reply and how you felt?

This is really good like you said she told you nothing of her life and know she’s back in contact and telling you things.

This is the thing the NC helps to establish if she only wants friends or relationship as she will either get angry so you know by the emotion she still loves you or she will text and say “I thought we could have been friends”

I won’t be going back may as I need to get settled back here! but that would be brill if you could give me her number.

KEEP STRONG

I think that she will text the “i thought we could be friends” message soon. What would that mean?

That would mean then that she just wants to be friends? But friends don’t get angry with each other. I am a bit excited right now I must admit. But it doesn’t really mean anything.
I wonder if i was the first that she sent that to?

I think she will text that but testing the waters to see how you feel about everything! The fact that she hasn’t respected your text about time and space she really wants the lines of communications to be open.

Do get excited because this is all so positive but play it cool.

I’d say you where if I’m honest :slight_smile:

So you are saying that she is testing to see what is going on? Sort of beginning to Panic?
I don’t mind about the time and space. I hounded her for a Long time. I’m just not looking Forward to angry texts or her saying right that’s it, get out of my life for good.
I wouldn’t know what to do then

Exactly she is panicking! She’s wondering what the hell is going on.

Do not worry if she says that she will be trying to get a reaction out of you.

You have asked for the space and time because you are not mentally ready to see her and just be friends, the ball is in your court.

Ha. I like the way you used that. “the ball is in your court”. Ok. I won’t fall for the efforts to get a reaction.
I have to say that without you here I would have buckled by now.

I really have a good Feeling about you and your ex. I had an Image of us Meeting. Can’t really remember where or what we looked like.

It is you have the power not in a cocky way but you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, she will react badly but that’s because she cares and your not responding in seconds to her texts, see your getting stronger.

I’ll always make sure I won’t let you buckle and I’m happy that I can help in anyway.

I hope so because he is all I want but I want me first to be the caz he knows and loves and I’m getting there day by day.

Who met? Me and you?