I agree with @atea1234 do not contact him until his birthday comes up and make some positive changes in your life. It will make you feel better! Best of luck to you @tami420
@krista27 can you give me any other insight on my situation?
@atea1234 do NC, even though you mentioned that one day he will want to recreate the relationship so for now work on yourself and have faith and it will all work out in the end. Believe me my boyfriend said the same thing to me and look what happened! I have him back, so like I said work on yourself and make yourself happy in the meantime.
@atea1234: good luck to you & me 
@krista27: thank you for wishing me luck, i apreciate it
thank you both so so much ! i was planning on contacting him today to wish him to get better since he’s sick… but its best if i dont. so i will definetly contact him on his birthday wishing him wishes and ask him if he is doing okay. hopefully he’ll respond and with the next text i will try to make him curious about me and my life,hoping he will want to meet up soon for a coffee . Doing positive changes already! 
Going back to school everyday, walking 15 minutes two times a day, starting to hang out with friends again (tho same friends as he has) and already making plans for the upcoming weekends . Also started meditation to chill my thoughts and head which was bothering him kinda of the most…
again thank you both for support and help
Ok so during this limit contact she was always the first one who would text me, things like that. It’s been 10 days since our break- up.
Initally, I would see signs that she still has feelings for me, but would never bring up any topic about our relationship. Why do you think that is? And when she talks to me, she would do it like she does to her friends. Should I be worried?
thanks @krista27. how long do you think i should go NC for?
@atea1234 I think you should go NC for at least 30 days and see what happens during that period of time.
@tee-roy probably the reason why she avoids the topic of relationship is probably because maybe she doesn’t want to get into it too soon.
So I’ve been caught that I’ve been checking her whatsapp account (I know… my bad) as well as the guy that i was getting unreasonably jealous over.
Here’s the story (Please help me decode this situation):
We met a while ago and she after she looked at her phone she asked me a question which I knew “that guy” would only ask. The guy is 10 years older, of different nationality, does not speak english that good, a workmate and he’s our higher- up (He’s a doctor, we’re nurses). So I checked both of their whatsapp account immediately to check if they were both online, and they were. I could not express my surge of emotions during that time, I asked her who was asking her and she just answered never mind.
After both of us got home I sent her a text saying that my chest feels heavy. She asked why. I lied and told her that probably because of my 2-week old cough. Immediately she replied “Get some rest, go to sleep, stop constantly checking my WA account. lol.”
She did not get mad at all. She was instead laughing at what I did.
In addition, her finding it funny, she said:
“You’re checking if we’re both online at the same time right? Lol. You’re too obvious. hahaha. :p”
Like how did she know? How did she know that I was checking both of their accounts and not only hers? What is she playing at? I really don’t understand girls sometimes.
After all these she just said: “Just go to sleep and take some rest.”
She was not angry or anything.
I admitted to everything. It’s better that she knows than hiding anything from her.
DECODING NEEDED. I badly need interpretations for this situation from you @krista27, since you’re a woman, atleast you’d understand. Thank you so much in advance.
Like she would only know that I was checking on them if she would check on my account too to see if I’m online right?
@Tee-roy well in a sense its good that she didn’t get mad at you for checking her account online but at the same time I realize that you still care about her deeply. I’m assuming why she reacted the way she did is because it seems that maybe deep down she still cares about you but maybe she’s hiding her true feelings so she’s acting out differently to hide her emotions from you. You know her better than I do so I’m just guessing thats how she is feeling.
Congrats!! Can someone give me advice on my situation? Hes telling me to move on but his actions say otherwise.
@krista27: I think I screwed up. Here’s a re- post. Hope you’ll be patient enough to read through my story.I need help translating again. I feel like poop right now. I’m so depressed.
It’s been exactly 12 days since we broke up. We’ve been together for 7 years. But during the last few weeks before she broke up with me, I noticed she was becoming colder, she would not hold my hand, or even kiss me.
We’ve been through constant fights, big and small during those times.
Fast forward a bit, she broke up with me because she said that she doesn’t love me anymore. That the feeling completely disappeared because our relationship was just about fights, which made her fed up and eventually lost all feelings for me.
She told me that if I wanted to change, I should do it for myself. She even told me that it’s okay if I find someone new and hoped that it would be okay for me if she finds someone new as well.
How would you weigh this situation guys? Specially gals. I do not want to believe that she is really over me. But from the way she talks. I think she really is.
During those 12 days of break- up.
We’ve been on limit contact, which is kind of new to her because before I was not like this. I showed her I was “okay”, but would not text her, so basically she was the one texting me first. She would text and laugh over her own mistakes (I think somehow she knows I find her funny whenever she sings the lyrics wrong), and would tell me that I look like the fat guy dancing.
Everything was I THINK going fine, small hints here and there, until I screwed up today. We were together yesterday and I found out that she was exchanging messages with a guy that I was jealous over (although she’s not into him and he’s not into her, I was just jealous over that guy) at whatsapp. I did not want to admit that I was hurt because she was with me and she was busy over the phone with that guy (They were talking about work), so when I got home I texted her: “Thanks for the company, my chest feels a little heavy.” She asked me why, and I lied that maybe it was the cough that I’ve been having for the past 2 weeks. To my surprise she replied: “Get some rest, go to sleep, and don’t stalk my whatsapp account. hahaha.”
She figured out I was checking if they were both online at the same time. I did not tell her anything that that was the one I was trying to find out, but somehow, and I don’t know how, she knew, she felt– I don’t know!
At first I denied but finally admitted I was still jealous and was checking on her account. She just laughed over it. Did not get angry or anything. Until today, I got restless. I asked her if it was the guy she was chatting with whenever I see the both online, and asked her if she already has feelings for him.
This was her reply (she suddenly became cold after figuring out about last night and today):
“It’s clear what I told you the last time, that the feeling is gone. So please, don’t force yourself and don’t let anybody else get involved in this situation. And no, I don’t share anything special with that guy.”
I asked her if for her she feels like the feeling is really gone, that if she feels like it is never coming back. She said “Sorry, but yes.”
The last thing I texted her was: “I’m really hurt right now, I just really want to love you better, to take care of you much better, but I just can’t because you don’t love me anymore. I did not text anything after that. She did not respond either.
I’m beginning to think it’s hopeless. With the way she talks. That’s why I need someone who might still shed some light to this. Maybe I’m just missing some points.
Thank you. And I’m sorry for the long post.
Bump
@Tee-roy wow I’m sorry to hear this, I know you love her but if she says that the feelings are gone, your best bet is to not answer her if she does text you. Right now you need to change some things in your life to be a better person and if she decides to be with you, then thats a different story. Whatever is meant to be will be. Be the good one and do good things for yourself.
hey Krista … congrats on getting him back … I hope everything will be amazing …
but can you help me and give me your opinion on my story?
@krista27 congrats on getting him back.I know it feels great
my ex got back with me for a month and the ask for a break because is not sure about us and his feelings have changed
I hope everything goes well in you relationship. Don’t let him go again