@aryyan thank you again! and your welcome 
Be the girl that made him pursue you. Sure guys want to treat their girls like princesses but acting like a baby or a miserable woman is another thing.
I’ve been on limited contact, eventhough this is looser than NC i can tell that my ex notices the lack of attention that I’ve been giving her since we broke up. I was clingy before until we got back together so now that we broke up again this would look strange to her because I’ve never done it before.
I’ve been having hints on whether she still wants me back or not but I don’t want to assume just yet.
Change for yourself, not for him. It’s hard but try as much as you could. Changing for one’s self is more sincere than changing for someone else, because the latter won’t last.
How to make him pursue? I dont know that much about guy and they have different mind
Thanks for the info! Yeah maybe she was just trying to see if I still care for her. I hope so, because I do, so much. It’s either that or she’s just using me to get what she wants, in which I know she’s not that type of person. I’ve known her for 7 years.
My question is, we’ve broken up for 10 days now. If it’s true that these hints mean that she still loves me, then why did she tell me about 9 days ago that she does not love me anymore and she would even accept if I find another girl? That’s what made me devastated. It was like she really does not love me anymore to the point that she would not even feel hurt if I go on and find someone else. And if it’s true that she still loves me, why won’t she show it to me? She knows how much I love her, and another thing is I’m the dumpee not the dumper.
Thank you thank you thank you so much. You don’t know how much this means to me. Your boyfriend is a lucky guy for having a thoughtful woman like you.
Men want women who are independent because we want them to depend on us too. And when an independent woman does that, it feels good because we were able to gain trust from someone who’s strong to make her feel secure.
Cheer up, be a strong woman! Go out to the world and show your man what he’s missing. Don’t ever show him that you’re miserable without your ex (eventhough deep inside we sometimes are)
Through that, he will see the good in you. It will somewhat make him remember why he fell for you in the first place.
And I don’t understand this hot and cold behavior. After a day or so of not texting she would text me first, asking some random question, she would even ring my phone. But when I text back, she would not answer anymore. I don’t get it. If she somewhat tries to pursue me through text, why won’t she respond after I text back? My response is in no way showing signs of neediness. I always keep it short and to the point.
And could it be possible that she’s checking if I still care for her or if I’m seeing someone else but does not want in any way to get back with me? You know, just checking.
Lol. I don’t know if that’s possible or not.
Right now im doing my NC for 6 days. Tomorrow will be a week i didnt contact him, update my fb or any social media. I suddenly remain silence. Before i did my NC, he text me and say hye you. I didnt reply till now. And he also didnt check me or text me or find me in any ways. I dont know why he doesnt want to text me or find me. He doesnt miss me at all or maybe he is now in honeymoon stage with his gf because they seem pretty happy tho.
I tried to be strong. Since i remain silence from phone till social media, i dont know how to show him that im “happy” and “fine” without him (eventually, im not). I will post my things and i will text him after 21 days nc maybe?
I want to get him tho. I really do. But if he doesnt care about me what should i do? I dont know how to make him think that im better
Showing him that you’re not happy and fine without him is a big no-no. That is a very obvious sign of neediness. Believe me I was like that before. I’ve been begging to much even to the point that I would pretend to have some serious health issues but that only pushed her further.
Do you feel that his gf right now is a rebound?
If she talks to me like she does with her friends. Does that mean that she only sees me just as a friend?
Im not sure its a rebound. She is his bestfriend for 3 years and same college with him. A week after we broke up, he changed his profile picture with her. Now its been a month they been together. Its very soon indeed but she is his besfriend and not new perspn. Hence, im not sure whether its a rebound or not.
Right now i didnt update anything about me in public and i didnt text him either. So i guess he doesnt know any new update about me. But he seems like he is happy without me and rhats why he doesnt text me at all? I dont know what guys think
How would you describe your relationship with him when you guys were still ok?
We were in relationship for 8 months and we were love each other, mutual, closed and we shared everything. Everyday we text and we ensure that we will send selfie each other. We were so closed but during my relationship, there are few girls obsessed with him including his bestfriend. I used to ask him anout them and he said i shouldnt be worried because they are his friends and he treat me different from others.
We did have big fight twice. One during july and another one was end of october (before breakup). He said he cant stand anymore with these fighting and he said he felt numb and his feeling was empty so he said he wanted to remain friends. Of course i was begging him and all but he said dont force him. He really hurt.
After that less than a month, he with his bestfriend till now as a couple
@krista27 @Tee-roy What do you two think I should do? I read your other posts (krista27) and it gave me hope and makes me want to try harder. I feel like him snapchatting me everyday if pretty good. Other people have said my situation looks more promising than I think.
i was wondereng if any of you can give me some advice on how to proceed. my boyfriend and i broke up 2.5 months ago. we had dated for 7 years. I’m 22 and he’s 23 so we met when we were really young which is why he broke up with me. he said we can’t know for sure if each other is “the one” unless we explore what else is out there and he wants to be 100% confident and sure its right. we have been in LC always initiated by me but he does always respond. i saw him this weekend for brunch and he told me he isn’t ready to resume our relationship because he feels its too soon and the reason for our break up was to explore other options and we haven’t given ourselves enough time. he told me he does one day and eventually want to recreate our relationship, but he isn’t ready now and doesnt want a relationship with anyone else. he just wants to be single for now. when i asked him when he thought he would be ready he said its impossible to say if it will be months, years etc. but his gut is telling him in some months. he still wants to talk occasionally and hang out and catch up until he feels ready but i think its too hard for me 
should try NC? for how long? its hard for me to move on knowing he said he wants to recreate this one day but it could be years for now and i can’t wait around either. i love him so much. what do you guys think?
i know its hard, but let him space and time… meanwhile u try to enoy , go out, meet new people.write him a text every now and then or if he does first- answer him, without asking him if he has made up his mind.let him know you havent moved on,but let him know you dont have a problem by spending some time apart… eventually he will realize what he is missing and will want you back. my oppinion
thinks for the reply @tami420. how long do you think it will take him to realize what he is missing? he seems very sure of needing some real significant time apart…
Hey guys,
Just remember, if your ex contacts you first or if you are the breaker upee, take it slow and see where it goes. Also remember to not act clingy, needy, desperate, etc. You get the picture lol but most importantly, have faith, stay strong and things will come your way when it is at least expected. Also thank you all for the comments on my post, I am so glad everybody has come to me for advice
it might take him few months. But meanwhile you shouldnt be devastated, asking him and pushing him about his decision. He needs to see you are capable of being single, but not that you moved on without him… just to be ok with u being seperate it will make him want you back more. Would you be so nice and look at my post about recent break up, and give me ur oppinion,since u had a long relationship and know how they go ?
@krista27:
my last post was about me seeing my bf today. could you check it out please and let me some advice please?
@tami420 i think everything you said made a lot of sense. i would not contact him until his birthday. it will show him that you are independent and are trying to make positive changes but if you contact him in 3-4 weeks it will still show him you’re interested. text him and say happy birthday and try to engage in friendly conversation. if he seems interested, ask him to meet for coffee. if he doesn’t, end the conversation and wait another few weeks before trying again.