Aww I’m so sorry to hear that!!! What happened if you don’t mind me asking :(. And so do you think I should give it another week or just do what cassie said? Once again I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your husband 
that’s not good news!
Hey,
Its been less than 3 weeks and you should definitely continue NC.Do not contact her.
I know its tough but everything you feel is just normal.Actually the first month of NC is the most difficult part of the plan.Do not stalk her on social media.Leave everything about her for a little while and concentrate on your self.Make positive changes in your life.
You know what? most of the times when it comes to breakups the dumper’s reasons are FULL OF CRAP.So stop thinking about what her mom did, why your did that,and everything she said when she broke up with you.The real reason is loss of attraction.
So many factors may cause loss of attraction but don’t worry about anything.If you made a person fall for you once,there is a good chance you can do it again.
But don’t contact her.Everything you tell her,every time you contact her,if you show her how much you care,if you tell her you miss her,if you ask her how she’s doing etc etc,will push her further away.
You need sometime to heal from the break up,you should become a happy confident person without her in your life.
She needs some time to forget about the negative memories and the needy picture of you so she will remember the good memories and she will miss you.
The most important part of NC is about you not your ex and only you can make yourself happy.So no matter how difficult it is,go out and try to have a better time.Hang out with your friends,go to gym,set up new hobbies/goals,buy new clothes,GO ON DATES,do anything that makes you feel better.Work on yourself and MAKE POSITIVE CHANGES in your life.She needs to see the positive changes in you and your life so she can convince herself to get back with you.
If you are friends on social media,use it to show her that you are having a great time and you’re doing well without her.
Do not stalk her on social media.If you can’t stop yourself,deactivate your account for a little while.You are more important than your ex.
Break up pain is associated with the same part of your brain as drug addiction.Thats the exact same pain.Every part of your brain orders you and begs you to take even a small dose of your ex.By stalking her,even looking at her photos,you are taking the dose so stop taking it and you will feel better soon.
You should be really patient.Getting an ex back takes time and by following the plan,you will increase your chances.
Here’s a checklist for ending no contact.
-You followed the no contact rule for at least one month.
-You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup.
-You have made a few positive changes in your life.
-You are absolutely sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
-You have gone on at least one date during no contact.
-You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you.
-You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.
Subscribe to kevin’s email series.it will really help you especially during NC.
Avoid any negative thoughts and focus on yourself.If you were in any kind of serious relationship,she will not be able to move on anytime soon and she will miss you.
Best of Luck
cassie has good advise on her shoulders, so i’d go with what she says, to make my story short click on my name and topic and you can read my story there. 
Ahh crap lol, before I read everything I was going to text her today and see if she had time to talk for a few mins after I got off work, I was going to keep it casual then continue with NC but it seems everyone thinks I shouldn’t D:
Yep. Let her reach out to you and then play it cool. I know games seem silly, right?
Just doesn’t seem logical to me. I don’t know lol. It feels like she will just forget about everything if I do the 30 days… Then it’ll be to late…
If it gives you peace of mind, then go ahead and contact her
I just feel if I do contact her I won’t get the answer that I’m looking for & if I don’t contact her for 30 days I feel that I’ll lose her forever, it’s a lose lose situation… I don’t know anymore.
Okay, I’m doing it… Wish me luck…
What did you text her?
All I said was “hey sorry to bother you but was wondering if you had a few mins to talk. Not now but after I get off work”. She hasn’t texted back but ill leave it at that
I’ll keep you posted. But gotta get back to work
I’ll leave it at that. one thing I notice from a lot of peoples post is that they complain during no contact and they’re depress stalking their ex’s and they miss them so much that they have to call or text or something them. then they do and get no reply and then they get desperate. I guess its normal to feel this way, but I guess people arent reading the article right either. you both probably need more space.
Yah I know sorry, I won’t complain to you guys anymore 
your fine this is what this is for, my intake on this is that everyone is feeling the same way yet no one is having luck with the out come, so something needs to be changed in order to have a better outcome, now what it is I really dont know. if anyone has any thoughts on this and how to fix it feel free to let us all know what to do.
No, this is a place you’re allowed to complain so just out with it!!
@aamls- I somewhat agree with your statement: “everyone is feeling the same way yet no one is having luck with the out come,”
I read the following post where the guy was 100% set on getting his girl back, but after several weeks, and if you read the entire post you see the attitude change, he was content with seeing another girl. I wonder if that is the point of the entire system. Right now I find it strange to think that in a few weeks I will be over my ex and ready to get her back. Seems like conflicting thoughts and if true is that what I really want? Do I really want to be over her?
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/mission-get-the-girl-back/
@bguarino wow your so right, but I still wanna keep fighting for my husband, even though he doesnt want me back. now im confused and dont know what to do. wow and here I was thinking that this is suppose to help you get your ex back,lol
All I can think of in defense, is that the opposite (stalking, begging, etc.) approach will 100% not work.
She texted back saying " you can text me but I’ll be with tab" which is her cousin . What do I do ?? Do I say I’ll wait till she’s alone?