So it’s day 8 of no contact, still nothing from the ex… I’ve been praying every night, to give me strength & hope… I won’t give up 
but it still hurts everyday… Off to work now…
Ok so I’ve been thinking all day, I have abit of a plan 22 days from now. One big problem was getting her schooling done (college). Long story I can tell you after I get off work but it would be a good idea for me to book a tour of the college that’s SHE wanted to go to, and I can take her, but is it bad to break no contact & contact her and ask her for a few mins of her time and see if she is free in about 3 weeks time cause I know we still need s
So I have even thinking all day today and I have devised alittle bit of a plan but wanna know if I can break no contact and still act casual about it. I wanna contact her and say “would you be free in about 3 weeks time, I wanna make something up to you but as friends only”. I wanna take her to that tour of that college she did want to go to and not the one I picked for her, it was one of the main problems in the end of the relationship we had, long story but I can tell you after work all about it. I think that’s when the “false friendship” comes in to hand. But I wanna know if I can do and break no contact and just say that to her & then continue no contact, advice please!!
go ahead and contact her and let her know. dont get your hopes up in case its not what your hoping for. then when your done tell her you both need your space and that you will contact her when your ready. then you finish no contact and then you talk to her again and do false frriendship. good luck
I’m not trying to get my hopes up but I do need some advice, in your own opinion do you think I should contact her and let her know or should I wait it out.
its all up to you, if you think that you can keep your composure when talking to her and have been for a while no contact then why not. else just wait a while before contacting.
Can you come up with a better way to ask it, like I know what I’m going to say in the beginning which is “hey sorry to bother you but do you have a few mins to talk”. But I don’t wanna tell her that I’m taking her to this tour so can you come up with a sentence I can use so it doesn’t seem to needy? To make her think “wow he’s taking this okay”. Anything good would be okay if you can, please!
And I’m sending through text
And also I started watching the relationship rewind but going to watch the rest when I get home, is it any good? Worth to watch?
nvm heard relationship rewind is a scam, but as to my other question… anything you can come up with to go about it a good way?
I really dont think you should text her or contact her in any way or form. Right now, she needs space. There is no doubt that she’s missing you so don’t worry about that at all! I honestly thinks it’s too soon for you to get back in touch and if she isnt contacting you, she probably isnt ready to spend time with you either; she might end up feeling like you’re pushing her and it will make you seem desperate. It’s too early to take it to the fake friendship level so just give her some more time to miss you.
It’s so hard how do I even know that she misses me…
I know But it gets better. Maybe not now but eventually, you’ll have a day or maybe a few hours where you feel okay.
She missses you, trust me! I know that it feels like she probably doesnt, but she does. No one goes through a break up without missing one another.
So I can’t just text her and be like sorry to bother you but I thought I’d see how you were or anything?
No - it’s a very bad idea! It will make you seem desperate and she’ll want you even less… She needs space from you now. The best thing you can do to win her back, it to continue the no contact.
I really don’t get how this no contact can work though, I really don’t I’m going crazy over her cause I think if I continue this no contact, I’ll lose her forever…
If you’ll feel better and it will give you some peace of mind contacting her, then go for it. She needs to really miss you and she wont miss you if you keep contacting her. You didnt do anything to push her away, she just doesnt have the feelings right now and they wont come back by you pushing her.
You know her best so do what you feel will win her back, but i really think that you should keep from contacting her for right now.
Hey Aaron. I am in the same boat as you so do not feel alone. I dated for 10 months, got into a fight a few weeks ago and when I reached out last weekend she said it was over, she was seeing someone else, and that she no longer was “in love” with me, but cared for me.
I know what you are feeling. I’ve been on NC for only 6 days and it is brutal. I have no idea if it will work, but I have to trust it. I tried begging and pleading and that didn’t work, same as you, so at this point what is there to really lose by trying NC? In 3 weeks can send the same message you plan on sending now…and you might even think of a better one in the meantime.
Thanks for the advice guys, I do appreciate it. It just really hurts my heart not waking up next to her, hearing her voice, seeing her smile… Feeling her touch, feeling those big hugs she used to give me… Just everything in between. I wish there was a way to get all of that back… And this no contact thing, is it scientifically proven at any rate? I just don’t get it, I know you say I need to give her time to miss me, but wouldn’t she know that she would miss me anyway if she up and left me and went back home? Wouldn’t she know the consequences of everything that she did to leave me.
how did you find out its a scam? I never was able to purchase it because I never had a debit card. you should read my story to see how horrible it is atm. I lost my husband forever. and was hoping that would have helped. as for you, you should say something like hey long time, I was wondering if you’d like to go and tour the whatever campus with me, something along those lines and see what she says. dont get your hopes up in case its not what you want. good luck