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[Joe]

Loreley,

Don’t give up so soon my dear!! 16 days is nothing.. and I know exactly how you feel. Trust me, there are forums full of people suffering just like you with similar stories. Our bodies are all made up of the same stuff. The feelings your experiencing are nothing more than chemicals in your brain making you feel certain ways… And we’ve all either been there or are currently there.

Stay focused on NC, focus on yourself, focus on your personal goals and most importantly, figure out that you really don’t need him in your life. Like how you feel on those good days you mentioned; figure out what makes you feel better on those days. once you figure that out, then figure how to feel that way all the time.

My rule is absolute and complete NC for 3 Months….. Bet you hear from him much sooner than that. Know how to respond if you do!

Where are you from? How old are you?

Check out my story somewhere on this website… its interesting.

Joe

[Robot 3]

Joe,

Glad to hear that this plan worked for you! This song somewhat (except the first 10 seconds) depicts your case. LOL

[Loreley]

Hey @Joe, thank you. I am 23 anyway. I come from Indonesia. Here’s my story if you wanna read it a bit:

Well actually I dont know either what to do if he really come back to contact me. Because I know I am not happy with him and what kind of guy he is for these last two years.. But I do love him.

He didn’t try to contact me at all these 17 days. He just said “Even you dont wanna talk with me anymore; I will still visit you the end of december.” He is living in Germany. I don’t know what to do. I don’t wanna hope.

[Robot 3]

I have a little recommendation for you two ladies (WHENA and loreley)–do NC until your ex contact you and ask you for another try–there is no other way. Also, don’t show up on this site. Commenting on or reading stories here is an explicit sign of obsession–trust me!

[Joe]

I agree with Dara

[Loreley]

Well. I will try to stop all of these things then and will keep do NC. Thank you Dara and Joe.

[Daniel]

Hi dara dude! How have you been?

To the new blood. We know how you feel. You can vent out here from time to time. But this is an obssesion. We were obssesed to this site before so much that this became our world. But now look at us most of them are gone and able to move on with their respective lives. Just come here if you really really need to. Goodluck! Survive! You can do it. We’ve been there and still alive haha.

[Robot 3]

Hi Daniel,

This was a retarded decision–that I chose one addiction over the other. A normal classical breakup takes 3-6 months to heal. I elongated this period.

What I feel? LOL! I don’t want to see her ever again. The idea of her reminds me of the doormat I had become. It reminds me of her unfair criticisms that I accepted to save the f**ked up relation. It also reminds me about my obsession of NC and this site. I can’t imagine how my brain was addled! LOL! Anyway, I think this should be last stage of 100% recovery, hopefully

By the way, I feel a lot better than before–don’t make negative assumptions about me. I also experience more ego boosters lately than months ago! No! No! Not in the form of asking numbers anymore!

I hope you are also doing great, Daniel (and are busy banging some hoes)!

Thanks for asking about me. I wish you the best!

[Daniel]

Dara,
I agree with you but it makes me wonder if we didnt resorted to this during out broken moments. Would it really heal us faster? If we havent found kevin’s site?

Good for you bro! I slept with someone for the first time since the break up!! Feels great but also brings back some mories of my ex but ive reached the peak of moving ob. Its remembering the past without feeling pained or hurt hahaha. Hope you’re alo banging hoes dude!!

[Robot 3]

Daniel,

I think it helped in the first weeks but later it made us addicted. Remember that girl–a.z.? She ended up with 1562 comments and eventually she got herself pregnant (just joking a.z.). You know Daniel, sometimes I feel like, “was it me who made about 450 comments here?”. I think this site has made us take this breakup more serious than it should have. I’m sure it had some side-effects on us.

Oh! I’m glad that you got laid! I hope you bang more hoes! I did not get laid since two months ago but I enjoy with what is going on.

[Val]

Hi Guys, glad to see that most of you are doing well… I’ve got some situation which i would like to share and if you guys could give me your valuable insights/comments. It’s been exactly 3 months of NC and I wasn’t counting down, just happened to came online and realized it 3 months too. Hahaha… During this period, she had only drop me a text a month ago of trying to get two of her stuff back, however I did not reply her. In a way, I was frustrated that she didn’t even ask how im doing and only asked for her stuff. And while I’m with my rebound, she actually deleted all my pictures of me and my ex in my cellphone. After the deleting incident, my urge/desire/missing of my ex is increasing daily. Every new nice place I’ve been to, I could either visualize with of us being there together in future, or places that we’ve both been to before, I would hallucinate an image of her. This few months, events have been occurring similar to last year’s, only difference is without her around anymore. What’s wrong with me missing her increasingly recently man?? And should I try contacting her?? I’ve been in a rebound, had my fair share of partying, getting girls’ number but not contacting them, been on a couple dates but not feeling any chemistry and only hoping that it was my ex beside me instead. I still want her back in my life. Do you guys think I’m actually in a right state of mind about wanting her back and what’s your views of the overall happenings?

Thank you for reading and commenting.

[WHENA]

THANK YOU EVERYONE I FEEL BETTER NOW THAN BEFORE..

I WAS HOLDING THIS :

FOCUS ON BEING A BETTER YOU INSTEAD OF LOOKING FOR SOMEONE BETTER THAN YOUR EX, A BETTER YOU WILL ATTRACT A BETTER NEXT. 🙂

Don’t be bitter be better 🙂

GOodluck everyone..

[Robot 3]

Val,

I guess it’s 3 months since you saw her in front of the bar–right? I somewhat remember your comments here.

I think you should convince yourself that it is over for whatever the reason is–fair or unfair. Unless you don’t tell yourself that it is over and now I should adopt a new lifestyle there won’t be much changes. Just a little work on your mind! I truly liked Joe’s recommendation–every time you think about her recall one of her bad characters. They are all hidden deep in your head but there are a lot you can find. After some time, you’ll hate to see that person again. Your mind tries to trick you. If you know the trick–take countermeasures! Making yourself feel what you want to feel is a long term project but it is your choice.

You what I feel these days?–I’m sexy and I know it (just an illusion but it works so good LOL)! I don’t feel rejected anymore. I don’t feel like I should get as many numbers from different girls to prove myself I am still wanted. My self-esteem is much better now–yet not as good as the day I met her.

Enjoy this music folks–I’ve been enjoying it lately!

[Val]

Hi Dara, Yup, I was the one who got shitfaced in front of the bar without help. Hahaha… For some unknown reason or feelings, I am still caught up with the emotions of wanting her back. I want her back in my life, not that I need her to be happy. Although there are things that she had done which hurt me, I still couldn’t look into her negative aspects and use them to hate her. Just aint in my DNA I guess??

Yeah, I’m getting my confidence back as the day passes yet aint as good as before. Sometimes I wish I could see her as I’ve not seen her for a long time, yet I think I might run away if I do. Damn it sure is complicated and confusing. Hahaha…

Really wondering what should I do next and hoping I could have an ending like Joe’s. Hahaha…

[Joe]

Val,

Although my situation ended up with what I was originally seeking… my situation is far from what I want. Yes, she came back and Yes, she says she loves me and Yes, she wants to be with me. However, I am now completely unsure if I want the sane.

As much as I missed her and as much as I would have done anything to get her back (including hurting myself). It took time and the advise of others to realize that what I wanted and loved wasnt really her…. It was the idea and image of what I wanted of her and from her. She was part of that image so my brain confuses it with wanting and loving her. She turned me into a doormat and ran all over me.. even now that we are talking again.. I can still see it in her behavior and conversations.. subconsciously she is still trying to work her way to the upper hand and turn me back into the doormat. I don’t think shes doing it on purpose… I think its just who she is subconsciously. Trust me.. I am being very strong and remaining strong within myself and giving myself the respect I deserve and she reacts to it.. I see her noticing the change in me and how I wont become that doormat.. Sometime she thinks its just me being an asshole. in reality, I’m just giving myself the respect.

Honestly, in my opinion… getting the ex back is first about NC… 100% pure NC. No contact, no seeing them, no running into them, no facebook, no instagram, no magic letter (sorry kevin).. NO NOTHING!!! To them you are dead.. They cant find you even if they tried to look!!

Second, you have to get over them.. Know that you can live on without them. Make yourself number 1!!! Better your life… date others… move on and be happy in your new life.. I’m not sure why or how but somehow the universe seems to just work that way. For some reason just when you get over someone and are feeling great… That person somehow seems to find their way back into your life.. I know that’s not the case with everyone… but you’d be surprised how often it does happen..

NC should not have a time frame.. it should just be NC and you move on!! thats it.. if that person comes back then they come back.. You need to move on regardless… if and when they come back… then you make the decision if you want them back or not.

BREAKING NC, BREAKS ALL CHANCES…. (REAL NC, not pretend NC)

Dara, A.Z., Daniel, Mordicai, Sunshinegirl, ALL,

Whats up!!! I hope you all are doing well.. A.Z. I hope your feeling great. I’d love to hear an update from you guys.. Do you have instagrams/facebooks or whatever. I thought I remembered A.Z and Dara saying something about facebook. I wanna see a pic of you guys! lol!!

My writings above (to val) somewhat include an update about my situation.. I’d love to hear your thoughts..

Dara,

One thing you and I would always agree about was that we really missed Sex with our exes.. Well I finally got it. and man!!! something about that girl… she might be crazy but she can really make me happy in that department.. I know why I was missing it so much… But I am holding back much more than I would have in the past.. I really dont want our situation to be based on sex again..

JOE

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