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dn’t call her.. wait for her to call you ..cuz she looks like she is giving u idea that she wants you or catching your attention..if she the one who reach you ,you dn’t need to be afraid if she call a police.
Joe and Daniel
I’ve learned a lot from my break up too. Before I find it hard to accept and digest but now, I am so free to do whatever I want. I love being single more. And I am much smarter than before. I wouldn’t settle for any less than I deserve. And Joe is right, if you find something you don’t like about someone, don’t push through. RUN. AS. FAR. AS. YOU. COULD. Don’t even think that he/she will change. Just settle for someone who meets your standards. Right niw, I know so much what I want in a partner ☺
Dara
Your bitchy ex strikes again. I believe she is just trying to seduce you by getting your attention. But don’t trust a devil in disguise. She’s trying to see if you are still affected with her presence. And don’t look down on the floor because the devil is smirking knowing she won. Just look past through her as if she is just some kind of thin air. Knowing that she had introduced you to her new friend means that she isn’t over you. So I think you win. Just continue ignoring her. And don’t try any contact again. IT’S A TRAP.
Whena
I’m glad you are doing well about the NC. Us guys here have spent 6months moving on and we are all better without the ex. Once you’ve fully moved on from him, I assure that you’ll feel the happiness and independence you’ve never felt while with him
I WANT TO MOVE ON @RAED BEC. HE HAVE GF NOW WHEN I SAW HIS FACE TO FB OR ANY APPLICATION TO MY FONE MY HEART IS HURT ,WOAH I FEEL DOWN ,I FEEL DEPRESSED I DON’T WANT TO THINK OF HIM BUT THERE IS A TIMES THAT EVEN IM NOT THINKING OF HIM MY MIND STOP AND I SAW HIS FACE.THINKING HE IS HAPPY TO SOMEONE ELSE THAT HE IS NOT MIND NOW..HUHUHUHUHU
I USE TO THINK ITS REBOUND BUT IT KILLS ME MISSING HIM BUT WHEN I THINK THAT HE IS BUSY WITH HIS GIRL MAKE ME FEEL HURT AND HATE HIM , WHILE ME IS STILL SUFFERING HW TO FORGET HIM.
Whena
Then that would be a whole good reason to never want him back. Does he care about you? Does he think about you? Does he even respect the so-called 3 month rule of a breakup? You know what the answer is. I know it is hard but I am telling you, you are a lot better without him. Stop thinking about someone who no longer cares about you. And love yourself.
WAAAH THANKS FOR YOUR ADVISE ITS EASY TO SAY BUT HARD TO DO IN REAL NOT TO BE AFFECTED ANYMORE..
Whena
I know it is hard. We’ve all been there but I bet you it would do you so much good to cut him off of your life. Thank me later ☺
@RAED YEAH YOUR RIGHT..
BUT WHY THERE ARE SOME GUY EASY TO FIND A GIRL AFTER BREAK UP? IM SO DISSAPOINTED FOR THAT.
WHENA,
You prefer to be heard right? Don’t use capital letters–it’s hard to read. Don’t you feel insulted that he is dating someone else? Simply move on! Don’t come to this site either for a while. Think about how mean and disrespectful he was to you and your relationship!
RAED,
Thanks for the advise. I’m fine! I know what I am doing! Not much feelings left for her. I didn’t have plan to date anyone but that incident made me text some girls and ask them if we can hangout. I guess I am going to meet someone this Friday. Though at this moment I’m not sure that I want to meet her either. LOL
A.Z, Dara, Daniel, Mordicai, All!!
Yesterday, starting at 9 pm I began receiving non-stop private calls on my cell from the ex…. I posted a few weeks ago that these calls have been coming in; however they haven’t been consistent. calls every few days and then nothing for like 2 weeks. Last night however was different; call after call after call. She even started calling my work cell phone; which confirmed 100% that it was her. I’ve never given that number out to anyone besides her.
Anyway, I don’t know what to do. I haven’t answer any of the calls. My point is “if you want to reach out and talk to me, then do it. Don’t play games and call private and not leave a message.” Regardless… I don’t wanna talk to her. I still feel weak and I know I’ll fall right back into it with her….AND BECOMING THE DOORMAT!!
Ohhhhhh…..part of my wants to talk to her and see her so so bad!!!
What do you guys think!!!
Joe
Joe,
I think your ex is a psychopath!
“If you want to reach out and talk to me, then do it. Don’t play games and call private and not leave a message.”–I share this point of view with you!
Likewise, I think my ex is also a psychopath too! She was the one who guided me towards becoming a doormat and now she wants to see the doormat again. I will never make anyone especially my partner a doormat but she did!
Well, sometimes some guys are good looking or they just got the luck. Remember me saying about my rebound? It felt good to have someone liking me after my break up, kinda ego boost, yet after one week of being together, I’m beginning to feel that its a bad idea as she is very needy, feels like she is in the same ‘vibration’ as I am after my break up. Guess people of the same vibration will attract one another? I’m beginning to feel that I got into a relationship too soon and for the wrong reasons. Hence its back to full pledge single hood. Hahaha… Till now, its been 5 months since my ex broke up with me, 3 months since my last contact, 2 months since she ignored me while I got shitfaced at the club she was at and even reached out to her for some help, and all I got was only a text from her a few days ago that she was asking for some of her stuff back. I was at least hoping like a “how are you” message first before asking for her stuff. Was I wrong to even expect a greeting message first instead of anything else?? Some times I just wanna forget her, yet its been hard to do so man… Although I’m still in NC, it feels like I’m back to square one missing her and thinking of how life would be now if we had still been together. Has anyone had similar situations before and what did you do about it? Any thoughts/comments would be great. Thanks guys.
Val,
I don’t think about life without her anymore because it’s already been life without her and the breakup and the post breakups were really ugly. I am simply happy that at least I could criticize her by calling behavior childish, impolite, naive, etc. and it was a great improvement for me because before breakup I was like a doormat allowing her to criticize me and all I could do was to apologize. F**k those days!!
One of the things that she criticized me a lot was that I had gained weight. One of those ego boosters was that I had shed some weight and the “naked me” would get numbers in swimming pool. I didn’t really care about making friends but I preferred getting laid with least effort–not even taking the pain of acting polite.
Another ego-booster was getting numbers in buses. Imagine a scenario that I was in a packed shuttle and girl sitting close to end. A couple of meaningful eye contacts convinced me that I should talk to her. I would get down on the same stop and after introducing myself I would ask for her number. Maybe some or most of them tried to act polite but the fact that 100% of those that I talked to gave me their numbers elevated my ego. Then I was thinking like, “f**k you (ex), you called me unattractive several times and I get numbers so easily”.
Anyway, back to your original question, ahhh I am recollecting it. Even during the date I was thinking how retarded this girl is, trying to act smart asking me questions to know if I want her for sex and if they asked me bluntly I would say “yes, sex and trying new things is my goal of life”. Fortunately, now I act social and more like a gentleman. I mean a lot more!!
Whena
Just refer to Val’s answer because I think it would be a complete answer you were looking for. Either there was an affair between your ex and the girl even when you were still together or it is a rebound meant to be for serious relationship later on.
Val
Oh. So you were the one who got flatfaced in a bar where your ex is and she isn’t even concern. I think if that happens to me no matter hoe hateful I am towards my ex, she would still help me. Maybe.
And I agree with you. I’ve had rebounds after the break up and it is really an ego booster. But after sometime, I realized that I am again bound for another failure and I want something serious. Rebounds make you feel good for a short while then after sometime you’ll come to a point that you’ll realize that it is not exactly what you want and it is just giving you false sense of security and happiness.
Dara
I knew you are attractive since your Day 1 here. Your psychopath ex wants to play games again. It is good to be single because it gives us right to meet someone new. I envy you, man. Ha ha!
Joe
What a creepy ex. Maybe she wants you back? But if she really wants you that bad, let her make herself appear in perosn to you and plead that she wants you back. Ha ha!
RAED,
LOL I’m just okay! Really! Maybe I am a little flamboyant in presenting myself but I meant to say that I’m just acceptable and there are many many people at lot more attractive than me! I’m simply one of those “not bad” guys–nothing more.
My ex played some sort of mind game with me and it was my first experience with this kind of mind game. Her trick was like this: she would change the tone of her voice conveying that she’s annoyed. No direct protest! Then I would start apologizing for annoying her assuming that, “I’m sorry” would make her happy solve the misunderstandings even though I was sure that I had not done anything wrong. After I apologized she would start criticize me directly accusing me of being guilty. There were many times that she told me thing like, “see you, you know that you have guilty but I don’t know why you don’t take any lessons”. On the contrary if I tried to defend myself and avoid saying sorry, she would say, “you are so selfish that you don’t even apologize for you misbehavior”. eventually, I apologized again. My brain was f**ked up and I did not know the right approach towards this kind of mind game! Now I know–break up!!
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