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August 30, 2014 at 10:39 pm #5585
Steve,
Last week was intense because I took serious steps in do or die! I died but the pain took one week long! It did not take any longer! Right now I was talking to a girl about date! She knew my ex and said that she is not interested in dating! She is the girl who I saw in the party last night!
I think you should not let it get any longer! It’s already been real long! You know, it a bit different for some of (us) guys. We can’t date when we are waiting for someone! I loved to date and have sex but could not play it cool! Now, I am much better because there is no other options! So I think before I text! The fact is that I am not sure if I can date or get into a relationship so soon!
I believe a.z. is involved in that 48 hour sex now!
Come on a.z., let the poor guy take some break!
Boys! I will be glad to hear from you!!
August 31, 2014 at 4:39 am #5620Hi everyone,
I’m so pissed off again these past few days. The letter is still not marked as seen on fb so he could have deleted it without even reading it and there’s know way for me to know. He has been active on fb and posted a really funny video he took off the ice bucket challenge so he seems really genuinely happy!
I hate feeling like this, it seems like I’m the only one not making any progress here. I don’t think I’ll ever meet anyone else now and it feels like I’ll always feel this way.
I really want to do something stupid and see / call / text him. I know I can’t, but I’m so lonely without him. I can talk to him in a way I can’t talk to anyone else… I really wish I had handled all this differently from the start and we’d be together now! I just want to cry
Dara – Your posts are the only thing making me smile lately. Shouting after that she lacks class was brilliant 😉
August 31, 2014 at 4:45 am #5622Also, I want to change my profile name on this website to ‘S’ because I’m getting a little paranoid that someone might recognize me… Does anyone know how to do that?
August 31, 2014 at 7:50 am #5628Sinead,
He has read it! I assure you! I can’t believe it! I remember you said earlier that he deletes texts without reading them but that cannot be true about an ex and if it true, you should consider moving on!
Don’t worry about the name! There are many Sineads around the world especially Ireland. Plus, not everyone is psycho to look for profiles on GYEBP site!
Oh! Thank you for your compliment!
For me it’s all over now! I knew it long ago! The doormat that I was will take millions of years to be forgotten! She really had low class behavior and I was really compromising by wanting her back!
August 31, 2014 at 8:11 am #5629Dara,
I don’t think he deletes texts without reading them that must have been someone else whose ex does that… (At least I don’t think he does!). If I was going to text him, what type of text would you recommend I send?
August 31, 2014 at 11:09 am #5643Hi all!
I’m glad to hear that most peeler are feeling better about things on here!
Dara
Your messages always make me laugh! Your ex seems like a really negative piece of work. I’m glad that your taking the steps to date and move forward as much as you are.
A.z
I hope the date was amazing!!
Sinead
Stay strong! You can do this. Try not to obsess about it- do things to distract yourself. I’d also suggest stopping his Facebook notifications from reaching your news feed until you guys get back onto better terms. I know it hurts seeing the happy stuff he posts! It was the best thing I did for my personal growth and ex recovery.I’m personally about 3 weeks in to officially no contact and I feel much, much better. I’ve really come to terms with the fact that him cheating and being terrified of my kids are things that I don’t need in my life at all. He still pops into my head but the feelings aren’t loving or longing, they’re mostly a mix of regret for starting anything with him in the first place and knowing that he is going to regret his decisions later when he grows up past his game playing stage(I say this because of how he was adamant about loving me but being scared etc. If its true he’ll kick himself later). I have to see him next weekend at a get together mutual friends are having and I’m not even slightly tempted to talk to him, never mind trying to win him back! I don’t think his gf(the girl he cheated with) is going to be there so that’ll be nice. Fake smiles are not my thing and I know she’ll try to rub things in my face the first time I meet her. It might be better to just get it out of the way though… Kill them with kindness, be sickeningly sweet 😉 I don’t like games so if she starts it I’ll shut her down. I’m also still talking to the ex from a few years ago that popped back up wanting to see if things could start up between us again! He’s made some great changes in his life since we were last together and so have I. I’m making sure we move slow but I’m liking the idea of trying again more and more! I don’t want to start anything serious with him until I feel like I’ve put everything with the most recent ex to rest the way I need to.
August 31, 2014 at 11:13 am #5644Sinead,
Please don’t consider it impolite if I say that I am not sure about your story but I think it’s not fair to be in a relationship with someone who does not even care about reading a random text from an old partner. I don’t think relationship might ever work.
I guess we are common in hating this rejection and that has been annoying us the most. A couple of days ago I talked about breakup to a friend. He said that he has a friend who used to break off the relations and this time it was his ex girl who has done it to him. He’s been “dumbstruck” since then!
From the comment here, I can imagine that you are good looking (gymnastic girl), high esteemed and a hard to catch girl but this time you’ve met someone who has been more fierce than you in this regard and its hard for you to accept it.
Back to your question:
Remind him about a memorable moment you had spent together and ask him if you can meet to have a coffee together at (a) noon! Take the initiatives for a casual meeting!
Sinaed, assuming that the email/letter/text that you wrote has not been read yet is really painful! If you don’t get any appropriate response consider walking away. I can’t imagine the depth of this pain! Should be really rough!
August 31, 2014 at 11:36 am #5647Thanks Loraina and Dara,
Dan (on the reconciliation board), just told me that if we are not fb friends he may not have gotten my pm. We are not fb friends anymore, but I’m not blocked either so I thought I could still pm him and he would get the message.
I don’t know what to think now… I’m kind of glad he may not have read the letter so I can send a casual text now; on the other hand if he had read it he might have contacted me by now.
August 31, 2014 at 11:38 am #5648Loraina,
I am glad that you are thinking less emotional or not longing for him. Someone who cheat will probably cheat again. Moreover, this distrust is hell a lot of load to bear. Congratulations!!
I think those funny stories about myself trying to date won’t repeat again. This time, I am sure that there is no reunification with my ex. So I will not waste my energy on doing funny stuff to find a topic to laugh at. The part of my brain that wanted my ex and “manipulated” my conversations with other girls is dead now! LOL
Whatever you do Loraina, best of luck!
August 31, 2014 at 12:01 pm #5654Sinead,
Im pretty sure he got your fb message. Me and my ex arent fb friends but we were chatting on fb last week. As long as you’re not blocked the messages will go through.August 31, 2014 at 12:02 pm #5656I’m thinking of sending this text ‘OMG I just saw something that totally reminded me of you – so random!!! It put a smile on my face though :-)’
What do you think?
August 31, 2014 at 12:46 pm #5663That’s fine but I suggest you to elaborate that something. For example name the event/festival/movie/news/whatsoever so that he also make connections with it!
I was thinking of a question instead of, “It put a smile on my face though :-)’”
Like, “Can you believe that the guy responsible, entertainer, manager, speaker, etc. for that event/festival/movie/news/whatsoever lives near our apartment, is a colleague, my father’s friend, dated my friend, is an astronomer, is a cop, was a drug addict, is a living saint, etc.?
Maybe my suggestion is a bit more active! 🙂
Best of luck!
August 31, 2014 at 1:32 pm #5668How about this –
‘OMG I just saw a play that totally reminded me of you – so random!!! It really put a smile on my face:-)It was animal farm, at the end I asked if there should be a snake in it? (Seemingly not!).Then I realized WE wrote that…Mr Maloney said it was excellent. Was there a dove and vulture / hawk too? Do you still have it?’
Its 2 text messages long, does that matter?
August 31, 2014 at 2:27 pm #5673I sent it…
August 31, 2014 at 2:28 pm #5674Instantly regret it! Worried now!
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