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Okay! sunshinegil, sex increases the IQ level! I suggest you to have sex as a preparation for your exams! 😀
Daniel,
I will try to date ASAP! The first step is the shed the fear of rejection. If you (and I) do it, we’ll be rewarded with sex! 😀
Sunshine,
I see. Its okay to wait for a man thats worth it. If that is what youre thinking.Dara,
I know man! Rejection is fatal! But the reward is too great to passs up haha!Hahahaha… guys reading this was amusing and hilarious!
Sunshine girl don’t worry, it’s easier to get over someone if you haven’t had sex with him I didn’t believe that until now. Me too I was in relationship for many years and no sex until my current ex, then it was really really good and according to him (and he’s had sooooooooo many gf before me) I was the most beautiful and just the best so I’m taking his word for it hahahahaha… I can’t believe I’m talking bit dirty here so not me, not me at all! hahaha…
For men: the best way to get over someone is to get over someone else!
For women:the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else!I guess dating after breakup is slightly easier for women than men! For women (in general) they have to accept it! For men (in general), they have recover so well that they can open and end a healthy conversation with another woman!
Dara,
I don’t think it’s good to just sleep with someone else for that purpose, to forget an ex 🙁 …
How about you meet someone in a cafe, or a gym or a library if bars and clubs isn’t working out for you change the place where you would meet nice girls, you may meet better girls too in those places…
Rihanna,
I have been only trying gym lately!
I don’t like the idea of bars/clubs because I don’t like going there alone! I am a loner shark! 🙂
Well in dating. Its easier dor women. They oly wait and it will be their choice if they enter a relationship. For men. we hunt we make the efforts and rejection is part of it. If the girls want it they get it. If the boys want it its 50/50.
Rihanna –
Thanks for the comment and yes i think it would be harder if i had sex with him 🙂Daniel –
For some reason, i feel like it’s easier for a guy to get back with ex-girlfriend than a girl to get back with ex-boyfriend. I feel like guys can get a girl by chasing (from the experience that one of my ex managed to get back with me), so there’s actually something a guy can do nice to a girl. While a girl can only attract a guy – in this situation, who said breakup, so I feel like there’s nothing we girls can do about it. Sounds more risky.While you’re talking about meeting ones in gym/library, etc. I have another question here. I’ve always been confused a little bit about the dating culture here(i’m in the states now). It seems like here people go on dates first, and then go dating, and so on. In China, we don’t do like this. We started by dating – girlfriend and boyfriend – kind of serious.
My ex and I met through a friend (our only mutual friend) when he came to visit her. And then he started to message me every day, and after a month, we went to a game in another state together (I invited him) with my classmates, after which he told me he liked me and then we started dating and he asked to change his Facebook relationship status (fast?). More like a Chinese way here.
Anyway, I was wondering that, as mentioned in the checklist for NC, I’d better go on a date or several dates. But I don’t know where to meet guys or have guys ask me out? And maybe people don’t do that because they see me a Chinese student? Idk, my daily life is really simple – go to library, go shopping, go gyms, no bars or other stuff 🙂
Friends,
Yesterday, I decided to meet my ex before she leaves this town! I think that the opportunity to see her at her office is gone and yesterday was her last working day. In order to see her I have some options
1-Go to her house and knock the door:
Last time, she did not open the door and her roommate did it. She knew that I am the door. I’m afraid that for any reason (like listening to music through headphones, she does not open the door). Personally, I don’t like second rejection. Moreover, I don’t want to be seen there. 3 mutual friends live in the same apartment!
2-Text her and invite her for a place. I believe the fact that she is going to go will effect this situation and she will probably reject it. She probably does not want her feelings get turmoil.
3-Write her another email and ask her to meet. This one is good that I can write more but she may reply it after days or don’t reply it.
4-write a facebook email to her best friend and ask what my ex is doing lately. I know that the idea of talk to a friend is not really good but I will help to know how to approach within the next week.
Any suggestions or idea is appreciated!
Hey,
I think going to her place is not a good idea.And writing to her friend is not a good way (I personally don’t like it at all ).I would try the text message it is instant and she definitely will read it.And IF she doesn’t reply to your text,she wouldn’t reply to the other options as well.
But i think you should do it and don’t worry about anything as long as you are not being needy,everything is ok and i’m sure she can sense that.Dara –
I agree with the text option. It’s more casual and cool. I believe you are in a great stage right now and she will notice that! 🙂
Dara,
I don’t know what to tell you… I think texting might be your best option… but don’t ask me… I’m having a bad Saturday and am considering going to my ex house right now…. and I’m only on day 33 of NC…
How many days of NC has it been? (of course i do remember the gym incident)
How do you know for sure she’s leaving?
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