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[RAED]

Daniel
Yes, you cannot be just friends with an ex. If you want a friend then find someone new. I mean, why would you still want to be friends with someone who has hurt you? That is what I have been telling myself. There are billions of people to be friends with. Why should I settle to be friends with an ex?

It is hard to reconnect too because when she rejects you, you might have to start the hurt all over again which is undesirable. So the only safest thing you have to do is to really move on and put the past in the past. You have to be real selfish this time on what would be good for you.

The past is a good place to look at at times kust to see how far you’ve come, but definitely not a good place to stay.

Yes, I will unfriend her, bro 🙂

[Daniel]

Yep! I know raed. Im over hwr anyway. Lets move on! Do you drink? Lets have beer after your exam! Rue bourbon! 🙂

[a.z]

Hey Raed and Daniel,

Raed i totally understand you but thats kinda normal.you need some more time.I think its kind of an obsession.Get yourself busy.Doesn’t matter if you dream being with other girls.Do anything that helps you not think about your ex.And if you think that being friends with her is hurting you,yes.You should unfriend her.

Daniel,you are doing the right thing.I wasn’t ready for being friends with my ex thats why the falsefrienship never worked and you know how i screwed up.Just give yourself some time and keep up the good job.

Love you oldies xoxo

[Daniel]

Thanks az. Thank you for encouraging. Love you too. Get well soon! How you feeling today btw?

[Edward]

Honestly, you guys should know that you guys deserve better. Like a.z said, if being friends with your ex hurts you too much, you should unfriend them. Before I got back with my ex, I was ready to move on and just accept it. I couldn’t be just friends with her because of my feelings for her, love. I was thinking, maybe one day we could be friends, but I wanted my moment of life to be happy and you guys should be thinking the same. I was ready to move on and she suddenly started giving signs that she wanted to be with me, first missing me then planning to go places with me in the future. If I were to let her go, I wasn’t going to resist fighting with the moments we had together, but to cherish them. It was a wonderful experience and I’m lucky to still have another chance to be with her. Even if I wasn’t able to, I’m glad that the breakup has brought me this far. It has let me meet wonderful people like you guys and learned how to better myself. I would have never known without the breakup.

[Khine]

Dear Edward,

You give me some data like ” I was ready to move on and she suddenly started giving signs that she wanted to be with me ” . And I also agree with you that we could learn how to better our-self. Wow ~ I need to train myself to move on well. I have to expect both results, good and bad.

[Khine]

Dear a.z,

Thank you for your advice. It also helps me. But in my case, my ex block me on fb.
Should I block his friends who are in my facebook ?

I don’t wanna see my ex’s photo indirectly !
Facebook gave us ” Unfollow button ” , Should I unfollow them ? So, I won’t see their newsfeed although we are still friends.

[a.z]

Daniel,
I’m good,i think i can go home today:D xoxo

Khine,
Doesn’t matter if he’s blocked you or anything.You should continue NC for 2-3 months.The situation may change anytime soon.You should work on yourself and focus on your own happiness.Yeah thats a good idea.Unfollow them so you won’t see anything from them.
Best of luck

[Robot 3]

Khine,

Don’t remove (or “Unfriend”) your ex’s friends from Facebook. That’s not really a good thing to do.

[sunshinegirl]

Read,
Wow! Where are you from?

Khine,
I totally agree with the idea of unfollowing them. Actually I just unfollowed my ex and his friends and family on Facebook and man I feel relieved! I love checking social media but I don’t have to worry about seeing their pictures/posts anymore, which would make me sad.

Also I turned out the chat function on web/phone, so I won’t accidentally see how long ago my ex just got on Facebook.

It’s really helpful if you want to focus on yourself 🙂

[sunshinegirl]

a.z,

do you feel any better today? It’s really, really nice to see you help so many people here 🙂

[Daniel]

Sunshinegirl,
Im glad youre feeing better now. I can say that unfriending thwm on social media is a big help. You’re doing yourself a favor. Its your only way to healing. Dont worry. We’re here for you while your struggling. As long as you need company. Godluck! 🙂

[sunshinegirl]

Daniel,
I didn’t unfriend them, I can’t do that, both emotionally and rationally… They’re all nice people and also I feel like unfriending is a little bit immature. (I’m a little bit immature tho..haha) Anyway I just unfollowed them 🙂 Feels like I can really start to focus on myself better!

Not know how us would be, not know what I will be like after NC, all I know is I have to pass my certified exams, for my own sake and/or for us getting back together! Hope I can keep this faith until I get over my exam!

Thanks again Daniel, you’re so sweet 🙂

[a.z]

Sunshinegirl,
Thank you very much,yeah i’m really getting better.I’m fine.You are doing a great job.Keep it up and i’m sure everything is gonna be fine.
Good luck with your exams xoxo

[Robot 3]

There is something strange! When my ex is around, like a couple of days ago in the gym, I can sense it. I spotted her so easily among so many people around. On the other hand, I checked the photos of an event and I expected to see pictures of her. Well, I looked into a picture with 6 people in it including her and 5 other colleagues. I did not recognize her at first. I recognized her on a second or third look. That’s strange! It also made me think! I think I have a strange character. When I don’t miss her, I look for something to miss her and when I miss her, I look for something to forget her! I am crazy!

Also, when I bump into her, not only I don’t miss her but I feel good about myself. Yet, when I see a picture of her I miss her. That’s crazy too!

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