Hello
I’m 40 and trying to reorganise the things that have happened to me.
My girlfriend was a wonderful person at the beginning of the relationship and we had a lot of fun together.
At a certain point, the situation changed and I became a supplicant in the horizontal and therefore uninteresting to her. I had the feeling that I had to do something all the time to make her happy and to make the time as good as it was at the beginning.
She then started an affair that didn’t last but never really broke off contact with me, yet ended the relationship.
I want her back but I’m empty and insecure…
Go in NC-rule and start your live again… become independent. Take your time and do what you did before you had the relationship with your gf. Read on Kevins website.
Now I still feel guilty That’s exactly what I’m doing. I was on holiday and did something completely different, and I feel good.
Then I think that it would have been good for my ex to do something completely different too. Not what I did before…
Sure they should, but it depends on you. Don’t be a dog, don’t be child. You‘re adult so act that way. Develop yourself further. The key word is confidence.
Yes, during the no contact period, you must focus on healing from the breakup and figuring out if you want to get back together. As time passes by, your thoughts will get clear and you will understand if it’s worth pursuing your ex. If it’s not, then simply move on.
That’s exactly what I’m doing. I was on holiday and did something completely different, and I feel good.