Okay boys and girls what do you make of this pickle? I met a girl traveling through California this fall and we fell in love harder and faster than anything I’ve ever experienced. We traveled around together for a while, did Turkey with my family and then went to my hometown for a while. The entire time we were together shit was just magical. Like we had known each other for thousands of years. We joked about being soulmates or twins etc. She was saying crazy shit like we were going to be together for a long while hits of children, marriage and future stuff. Any way she went home for Christmas with the intention of being back by mid January-Febuary but not set date was given and I wasn’t pushing for one. We were in contact daily, miss you love you all that blah blah blah and then one day she was just gone. Normally I wouldn’t over think no contact for a few days but it happened to be NYE when she disappeared. Left a voicemail and text wishing her a happy new year and that was that. Followed by 3 days of silence. So now im worried. So I check in with her friend on FB just to see if shes okay. Her friend replied that she was fine and she would let her know I was trying to get in touch. 4 more days go by and I’m pissed! Sent a few wtf messages and spoke with the roommate again. Finally she pops up via text and says “I’m fine, just been busy. I thought you were against daily conversations. Stop acting like a mad dad” and that was it. Another week goes by and now im just pissed! messages voicemails rants. Everything im not supposed to do. She pops up via text again explaining that I was distant for a few days on the phone and it made her feel needy so she pulled back and then she pulled further back with my attempts to contact her. She said she was having concerns about moving here and having to depend on me to get settled in. (She has dependency-control issues and doesnt really like dudes, I’m the first guy shes been with in a while.) She said shes not ready to talk. Doesn’t know when shell be ready to talk and would just like some time to process everything…So I’ve been no contact for like a week now and that’s all I can do…Thoughts?
@jackstraw - Where does she live? Where do you live? Where and how long was the traveling around together? Guess you haven’t seen her in person since before Christmas. Only thing for sure right now is she’s not ready to talk. So stay no contact and stop contacting her friend! You almost seem like a stalker by what you’ve been doing to get in touch… You say she doesn’t like dudes, so does that mean she’s gay?
She’s in Ohio and Im in New Mexico. We traveled for a few months. She defiantly sways towards the ladies…And yes I totally flipped my shit and that was dumb on my part for sure. But when someone is encouraging you to rent a new place and packing their stuff one day and just vanishes the next its pretty unsettling.
I just feel like her exit was super cowardly and cruel really. She could have just voiced what was happening but she went ghost and I flipped.