Hi everyone! Let me start of by saying that any help from you guys will be highly appreciated, thanks. I could go on forever about how I know she’s the one, but just trust me on this one. We’re meant to be together.
So we’re both teenagers, and this was the first relationship for both of us. It lasted 10-11 months or so. Everything was so good between us, almost as a dream. But there was these underlying factors that came into play at some occasions which led to fights. The fights were mostly emotional and draining, never physical… So what went wrong? We struggled very much with this, and I need to say that her life is in many ways screwed up. I feel very bad for her and have supported her all the way. Her dad has been cheating on her mom and her mom needs to stay with him because she needs money. And her dad strongly disapproved with her daughter to have any relationship, it’s part of that culture. To sum it up, we fought and loved each other like maniacs but it always seemed to be too much resistance, too much repairing after fights and to much mixture of different emotions. But we loved each other and we said that we’re going to be together forever, which i still believe is true.
So I went into a darker period where my self esteem started getting worse. So I was anxious and one day I wanted to talk to her about this but the words came out totally wrong, I sounded so demanding and delusional. So she thought that we were just standing still, things weren’t getting better and it seemed like we maybe had lost our spark.
She doesn’t talk to me for 3 days when she suddenly says that we need a break. I thought everything was over but we meet up and I ask her if she still loves me, she says she does. But she doesn’t want a relationship, it’s been associated with pain and sorrow in her mind.
–3 days passes with NC–
She contacts me and asks me what I’m doing. She then asks if she can come over and while here she kisses me spontaneously. She says that she can’t live without me but that she still is unsure about a relationship. We end the day on good terms and she even called me by the nickname we use for each other.
–6 days passes with limited contact. I still play it cool–
She suddenly becomes very angry due to me taking the same bus as her. She becomes super weird and likes these inappropriate things on Facebook. I shook it off and left her alone.
–6 days passes without any contact–
She takes contact and says “Sometimes I need time alone to realize that I can miss you like hell.” She says that maybe we should cut off the break and that it’s about time. But then this guy from our past shows up and he’s just an asshole, he’s destroyed so much for us. But I didn’t realize that my ex actually tried to get rid of him, just that she temporarily accepted his friend request to make him stop whining about forgiving him. So we misunderstood each other, I could dwell in the past and regret it till the day I die, but that won’t help. So we hade an argument and she decided that it’s best if we’re just friends.
That was a week ago and I’ve tried to be nice and ask her out to watch a movie and we’ve been fairly civilized. But I haven’t cut off communication for more than 2 days. I’ve decided to follow the plan because she obviously has a hard time coping without me for more than a week. So how’s 4 weeks going to be?
So what do you guys say? What’s your take on the situation?
would you mind giving me your opinion on my situation? thanks 