hi, when we were togehter i was a bit flirty and too nice. especially for guys i have history with. when all of my mistakes blew up, i promised to change and i did. i was absolutely perfect. after one month when he was cold and distant and i tried to regain his trust and full affection, he broke up with me, saying it’s too late and he can’t go back to who he was with me before. i wasn’t cheating, just too much “nice” and “caring” for other guys, and didn’t keep proper distance. it was all happened on social media and stuff, never touched anyone or something.
do you think there’s a chance he will be back? im doing the contact rule for 4 days now.
i told him not to contact me when we broke up. will it have an influence?
NC is a good idea but the guy needs to understand that you don’t understand what they expected or that you might be willing to change behavior if it is talked out, if you are. Did he give specific examples about what upset him or was it just a general feeling of his? Are you willing to work that through with him?
If so, my 2 cents would be to continue no contact after sending him something explaining that you might have been doing things that upset him without knowing what it was and you are willing to talk it through and change your behavior so you can both be happy in the future, if that’s the case. This puts the ball in his court in terms of the relationship.
Guys can be difficult to understand sometimes when it comes to how they feel about other guys, especially when it comes to their girlfriend and interaction with other guys.