My ex and I have been broken up for over a year now and have had some rocky situations through out it. I am struggling to get on to a medium ground with him. Long story short, we met up twice after not speaking for a while, it turns out he is in some sort of “not serious” and open relationship with someone he had known for a while. I am struggling with the info as even I have been seeing a few people here and there but this seems odd. I still care about him and would like to get to some level but there is a lot of hurt there. I am afraid complete no contact with create further tension and distance. How can I close the gap and get to something steady and to maybe evolve with this other thing in the background now?