My girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago. For some background I graduated college in may and she still has a year and a half left. The thought of me leaving was hard for both of us so it created some problems. Also she had intense summer school so she was very stressed. Finally I got a job in the same place as her but when I told her she told me she needed a break. She thought i made the whole decision based on her and it scared her a lot. She then broke up with me saying that she needed to focus on herself because she doesn’t like herself. Since then I have broke a lot of the deadly mistakes because I am just now reading them. I sent her a letter about two weeks after but she hasn’t read it yet due to being busy with sorority recruitment and not a happy person. So while i’ve had a lot of free time to think about what when wrong and better myself so it wouldn’t happen again she doesn’t seem to have done the same. Since that i have backed off a lot even though I struggled with the no contact rule until reading this website yesterday. And even recently i only texted when i had questions about non relationship things. I’ve read a lot of things and how to get her back but I still want some advise on where to go from here since I have made a lot of mistakes in the process.
@notthatlucky - How long were you together and were you both mostly happy? You wrote:“…what went wrong and better myself so it wouldn’t happen again”. Better yourself in what way and what won’t happen again? She’s the one who broke up with you, so don’t contact her at for a few months for any reason. Try to live a happy life doing things you enjoy and dating other girls. Don’t put your life on hold for her!