What's my next move?

So, I think I’m in a similar situation to pretty much everyone who’s posted here on this site.

I want my ex back (obviously) I had been in a 2 and a half year long distance relationship with her where i had gone to meet her probably 7 or so times for each about a two weeks until she broke up with me in mid December, I am in the military so being separated from her was part of my situation. I had just seen her for thanksgiving about a month before she broke it off. And I totally understand why she did what she did, at the time I had become very complacent with my life as it is and for her it looked like there was no end in sight for us being separated and she essentially lost hope in our future together. Part of it was because at the time I was planning on continuing my military service and there was no conceivable point in the near future where we would be geographically close. Another was that we lost connection and to her it didn’t feel like we were in a relationship for her unless I was physically there. When the break up happened I went into a phase of denial like, it basically didn’t even phase me at that moment and i agreed and said it was probably for the best and continued my life as I had before.

That was until about 3 weeks ago I saw she posted a picture of her and a dude she was talking to toward the very end of our relationship out on a date and my whole world shattered. like I panicked and texted her pretty relentlessly for a day, not quite asking for her back but telling her how much that hurt me. After that I found this place and went into a no-contact period and had been doing the healing worksheets as instructed. Like my heart was really broken, I experience really bad highs and lows over the past couple weeks and probably would have hurt myself if it weren’t for my sister counseling me via text. all this time I have made huge lifestyle changes, I cut out videogames pretty much entirely, I decided I am getting out of the military and I am going to the gym again and more than I ever have before.

So yesterday at like 1 AM I wake up and am thinking about everything and have an absolute crying tearful break down the hardest I have cried in ages just because I am so broken inside despite the fact that I feel so good about myself and what I am doing to improve other times. I go back to sleep somehow after that and then go out on a limb and text her basically the elephant in the room and at first she didn’t even look at it and then i went to her DM’s and honestly got a little fucking needy. but she did look at it eventually that day and responded somewhat neutral/positively to it and we had a short conversation about where we were at after that over the course of about three hours due to delays in her responding. later that day I sent her something amusing in her insta DM’s and she thought it was funny. Note that up to this point she had been liking all of the positive things I had been posting on social media. Afterwards she hasn’t liked anything I have posted and when (i dunno why i did) sent her something in her DM’s she just left me on read and completely ignored me.

Like I feel like talking to her put me in a much better state mentally. I don’t feel like human garbage but at the same time I am very confused as to my next move, should I start no-contact again. Like go dark on social media completely this time and cut myself off from her? Do I continue trying to talk to her?

My current plan is to wait a couple of days and try the good memory text, like on Friday or Saturday. But I am not sure what is the best move from here. What I am sure of is that while I know I can be happy without her and I’ve been chatting up a few other girls on social media, I want her back to start a new more adult relationship. and this time I want to be physically close to her something i’ll have the opportunity to do that when I get out of the military in a few months.

Yeah, send the good memory text and let her know you’re leaving the military.