What to do

Hi to all. I’ve been in a relationship with my ex for 5 years. It was me who did some bad things and now we’re no together anymore. I would like to get him back.

The breakup happened 1,5 month ago. He is not contacting me at all. He would like to be a friend with me, but still has a strong feeling. I was needy, desperate, but was not contacting him like 10 times per day. We’ve met several times, mostly on friends birthdays.

The only time we’ve met alone was 3 weeks ago and he stated that he needs more time. I was pushing too hard and at the end we break up again.

I want to start with no contact rule. I’m doing everything to fix my issues, and I’m proud on myself how much I"ve accomplished for 45 days. Will not stop.

The thing is that my stuff is at his place. He mentioned before that I need to pick up stuff, I was ok with that but we didn’t make a plan on how or when.

What do you think I should do? To call him and pick up stuff and start no contact? Or to leave stuff and start no contact?

Get your stuff back and then start no contact. You have to honor his request about needing more time, otherwise you just become a pest in his eyes.

Once you start no contact, don’t break it!