What to do after the meet up?

Breakup Help reconciliation
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@patricia12 Hello, so i have good news, last sunday she invited me to go to the beach with her, her daughter, her sister and the daughter of her sister.

We spend 4 hours in the beach and then i went with them to the supermarket, but I had to go to my aunt house so I left them in the supermarket, we are talking almost everyday, and now she seems to be excited with me, also she text me first some days, but most of the days I start a conversation (i think is normal).

This weekend I think she is coming to my house, to watch a movie or maybe we are going out idk yet, and I bougth some tickets for a Venezuelan Party (she is from Venezuela) here in Uruguay for us and her sister,on the 16th of this month, cuz I said to her that there was a venezuelan party here and she asked me if I want to go there with her, and her sister wanted to join us.

For now we are going normal, slow i think, no sex no kisses like you know when you use the thongue odk how to say it in english lol

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@santiis2010 Yes, take it slow and don’t smoke weed when you’re with the children! Kissing with tongue is called a French kiss. Try not to argue and don’t hop into bed too soon…

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So we were talking for two weeks everyday, today i asked her if she wanted to drink a coffee with me, so we went to a coffee shop for 1.5 hours, I bought a present for her son, cuz tomorrow he is going to be 2 years old, and also I bought a mandalas book for her, she loved it! so we talked and laugh all the afternoon, we hold hands till we went to the bus stop (i insisted in going with her a couple of blocks further till she was near her house but she insisted saying that she dont want me to walk all that just for her), and then i wanted to give her a kiss in the mouth, but she put the cheek and i asked her “why don’t you kiss me?”

“I don’t wwant you to get confuse” and i said but i thought you want to go out with me cuz you want to be with me, and she said i dont want to be with anybody, i just want to go out and meet people, so i said it’s okay, but im not saying to have a relation ship, we can still kiss each other, have sex, and she said i just want to be quiet, so then i say to her come on in all this time dont tell that you didnt have sex with others, i know you did, we can do those things, then she told me that this is not time to talk about that, that we could talk on the coffee shop before so i told her it’s ok, but we need to talk about this things, because i thought that you wanted to be with me, with the invitation to the beach, and next saturday to the party…" oh and she told me that afther that dinner we had 3 weeks ago, i was asking what she was doing, why she didnt reaply me, that i was intense and she dont want that.

But we ended the conversation in a good way, she left, and texted me that she arrived at her home, and said "
I’m dying of love, you are so sweet with the mandalas present" and “my son loved your present” “Did you arrive at your house?”

I cried a bit when i arrived at home, because i was so happy and exited to see her, and having coffee, and spending time thogeter, but that conversation was sad for me…

Also what im gonna do in the club at the party, with her??? i really want to kiss her, and i know her and she loves to have a lot of sex, and i really want to have sex with, her cuz since August that we dont sleep togheter…

What can i do? how do i have to act with her in the party? what im gonna do if other guys try to get her in the party if im there?

PS: afther all that i asked her if we can start with the right foot and you can unblock me from instagram, i mean is not important by the way, she answered, yes it’s not important…

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Oh a small update, she posted a picture of the book I gave to her everywhere in all her social network, and I wish I could talk about this with my friends but they will only say just forget about her… You have so many girls after you. There are 5 girls that text me every fucking day, but I don’t care I just want to be with my ex ?

PS: she is still texting me about the stupid book and sending me photos about that…

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@santiis2010 You are coming on too strong. You should not ask for kisses or sex! You need to control yourself! Take her on proper dates and treat her with respect. Most women do not sleep with guys who aren’t the “boyfriend”.

You told her:“…dont tell that you didnt have sex with others, i know you did, we can do those things, then she told me that this is not time to talk about that…” It’s so disgusting that you would say this to her and you shouldn’t have done it. Her dating or sex life is none of your business.

At the party, be kind and respectful. You can’t control what other guys do.

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I always take her on proper dates, but now she is playing with me, i didn’t ask for sex or a kiss is just tried to kiss her like a normal person does when you feel attracted to somebody. Always treat her with respect that’s a basic thing to do…

And yes women they do sleep with other guys just for fun, or whatever, the thing here is that i know that she had sex with other guys just for fun, i also did the same with other girls (And i’m OK with that, im not jealous or mad), i mean is just a normal thing, nobody can spend months without sex, because is a basic need. What i said to her is common sense.

If she wants to date with me we need to do everything if not, what am I? a toy? because we are not friends… We go on dates because she is bored at her home? I think those are just normal questions for everybody.

Maybe i’m trying too hard? I think she go on dates with me cuz she still have feelings for me, but don’t want to feel controlled by me, she wants to see other people, that’s what she tried to said to me.

Also she spend the whole night texting me about the mandalas, posting shit about that, sending me hearts and been really nice to me, but i was a bit distant, cuz i dont like her game of “I Don’t want to give you everything, but i want you close to me…”

So my conclusion is this.

She wants to spend time with me, but don’t want to get intimal because she will feel like im gonna start to control her like if we were a couple, and she don’t want to be in that situation were she need to explain where is going, what is doing, etc…

I don’t want to be like that, i always told her that she can do whatever she wants that i trust her. But how can i prove to her that we can do everything without her think that im gonna be like that? I mean to prove to her those things we need to get intimal first, right?

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I never care about this things, but she posted this text on instagram (a friend follows her so i can see her stuff, she doesn’t know)

“Love is like this: Comes when you are ready, goes away when is not real, comes back if belongs to you, but never, ever, killed somebody.”

My best girl-friend told me that maybe is for another guy and not for me… or maybe is nothing.

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It’s not normal to sleep around and people who do it have low moral values. Most people casually date (no sex) until they find someone special who feels the same way and they become boyfriend/girlfriend.

You’re obviously controlling and jealous because you asked her about sex with other guys.

I wish you the best and maybe someday you will understand what I’m trying to advise you.