Hello,
Me and my ex were together for 4 years.
I was having personal problems and taking it out on him. I pushed him away and he asked for a break. Me being my negative self told him he had to make a decision does he want to be with me or not? His answer was am I stupid? Why would I rush something like that and I said please I need to know?
He then split up with me. I was devastated but I believe I forced him into this.
This was 8 weeks ago.
Since we speak nearly every day and it’s positive and sometimes flirty. He is still affectionate and asks me do I need any help with anything to let him know?
I work in his small business and he hasn’t tried to get rid of me or tell me to look elsewhere and even his business partner has offered me more hours.
He keeps stalling on exchanging belongings but his words are different to his actions he says he’s sorry and for me to not prolong things when he is the one who is doing that by still having me work for him and still having belongings in each other’s house.
He is still affectionate he was stroking my arms the other day in work.
8 weeks on I’m remaining upbeat and not getting upset infront of him to show I’ve changed as I was miserable all the time towards the end.
He however, is still crying when I even mention something minor and hasn’t eat for weeks or slept. He is very heartbroken.
He told me he wouldn’t try win me back because he wouldn’t insult me and I deserve better than that and said he had to go because he was crying.
I know we had a very strong relationship. Before Christmas he messaged me to see if I was ok. I didn’t reply as I was sick.
He then rang his brother upset and said I had not messaged him back. So I haven’t gone away yet because we constantly speak and he sees me most days in work.
I know it will hit him the most when I eventually leave and get my belongings back.
We was only planning on having a baby . It’s upsetting.
He messaged me saying he wishes I weren’t nice to him, because he doesn’t deserve it. But then asks me to be nice to him when I see him?
He sounds so confused …
Do you think it would be best if went no contact to make him miss me as he hasn’t experienced that yet it’s like I’m still there?