As much as I agree that you need time away to heal and make your ex miss you. Just ignoring messages, especially if your ex has sent you several might send the wrong message to them. I’m thinking in that case it’s fine to just say " I’d like some space" or something simple like that
Yeah, many ppl on these boards will tell you that a simple statement about needing time and space is appropriate if your ex keeps attempting to contact you.
In your case…say that you need space… but be very expressive with your feelings as to why. Nothing needy but show her you are capable. Leave her something to think about.
hey man i just went through this a few days ago, and i decided to give in and respond to her. DONT do it man, she is trying to bait you in to see if youre still needy. I wish I hadnt restarted contact with my girlfriend, she was texting me and calling me like crazy after 2 days of NC, if i had simply told her “listen i think its best to not talk for a while” im sure she would have continued and kept me going in her head for a few weekd, once i answered to her, we ended up in a long conversation over the last day and a half that ended up with her taking back the "control per say as we started arguing about our whole situation. Dont engage her man, honestly, if you must answer keep it short and make it non need as you can, try to make it sound like youre busy too.