well...what to think anymore??

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Hello to everyone again…well my ex visited two friends in their hometown, and he said to his profile, “I came for meeiting girls, but I am late”… I read his friend’s comment that we forget the girl…

Ok…maybe it is just a joke, but he knew that I will see it, he knew that I will be jealous by reading that he went somewhere to meet girls, also, it is the first time that he is writing something like this on social media, neither with me neither with his ex girlfriend had wrote something like this, I mean he was keeping all the time his relationships secret because of personal thoughts…

So now what??? I didn’t wrote him something, my last message was before days and i was telling him that i love you, i don’t know why you don’t want to speak to me, I am jelaous by thinking you with other girl, but ok, we broke up, but still I am thinking of you…

So now what??? why he uploaded this???he knew that I am gonna be sad because of his post…and I became sad while he is out with friends and having a great time…

Ok, time will show me what it is going on but do you think that he did it for me???

His behavior is liking…hating me?? I don’t know…he broke up with me, and was a good breking up no bad words, he missed me…and now this??? and while he is in another city he is on social media, i mean ok, you go a trip to visit friends and you are sticking on social media, ?? It does not make sense on my eyes…really…ok, he is searching for other girl, and he is writing this on social media, it is the first time he is doing this…

Can you explain me why he is doing this???and if his behavior means something???

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Hey Sky…I don’t know why he did that…and to be honest, it likely has absolutely nothing to do with you, even though you are obviously hurt by it. Since you and he are broken up…he is allowed to do and say whatever he likes on his social media page. I know that stinks, but it is the truth. I think you need to unfriend him for a while…you are so focused on what he is doing and saying that you aren’t able to focus on you and what you need to do to move forward. It is also keeping you a bit stuck. If unfriending him is too scary…then you need to stop looking at his page.

You are worthy to be loved by someone who wants to be in a relationship with you…right this moment, that is not your ex.

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@KR hello KR and thank you one more time for your advice!!!Well in my last message before days before he to upload whatever I wrote, I was telling him, it is hurting me thinking of you with other womens,… In the other hand, even if in my language his post is for laughing I mean both of girls and boys we can tell it, and I suppose they are many people who are in relationship by meeting someone who is friend of a friend, or like in old times when a man was with a woman without love and the woman was a girl who was the favorite of the mother of the man and his son and girl were married…you know how I mean it…in our ages this is just a joke…

But, he knew it that I am gonna see it, and I am gonna be hurting,he knew how I feel by thinking him with womens and he wrote it, i supposed maybe he wrote it because of my message ok, we broke up and he can write whatever he wants, but it is like to see a different person anymore and not my lovely one!!!

I try to focus on me and sometimes I do it with success, but some days i feel this sadness in my heart…Me too I can write whatever I want, but really until now I never did something on social media about him…

I feel better when someone is flirting me and sometimes I am thinking well I will be with someone else, new dreams, new life…but when I am alone I am thinking the life that we would have with my ex, I am missing the things which we didn’t live because of distance…and still they are things in my heart which hurt me…example…“do dreams baby”, and after two days “I can not tell you anymroe lies, , we must break up”…or when I am thinking of his behavior all that months after breaking up…

Anymroe I am not writing him, I mean after my alst message I didn’t sent him something else, he wrote for meeting other girls, so why to write him??

And in the end, ok he made me sad by posting this, and he is like to not respecting me, he knew I am gonna see it…so if he is happy about this well what to say???ok maybe he does not have love for me anymore, but he did this and broke my heart again…can you tell me which is the benefit in his soul by writing something like this, and to knew that I am gonna be sad???

I will try to make my life happy, I don’t know what is gonna be with him, maybe he will return maybe not, I don’t have hopes that he will return, but maybe I will find the love of my life…i will let you know…

Thank you so much for everything!!!

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Hello to everyone!!! I have a little update…well i asked him did we broke up cause of a very important reason which I knew it from the beggining that is important for you??? He answered me and said me " No it was not this reason, take this reason out of your mind, please, don’t make yourself sad by thinking this important reason…be happy"

So i told him…what it was then?

No answer…so…I didn’t send something else, i am not gonna send him again, just in birthday , I did everything, i did many things, so it’s time to ove on I suppose…

I read something very beautifull which makes me strong these days " It is better to have a hope, than to return in a past which made you sad"

I don’t have hope for me and my ex…but right now, really i feel better, It is the no contact which I had to did before months…anymore I just don’t give him attention, Ok, I will be hurted if I see him with other girl, but I feel better…

Many thanks to everyone who helped me all that months!!! ( @mr_the_ex @patricia12 @KR )

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Oups in my last post I was meaning it is time to move on!!!

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@sky - Sorry it didn’t work out, but now you can move on and find someone else who will give you the attention and love you deserve. Good luck.

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@patricia12 Thank you patricia!!! Well I had to listed you for the second no contact I didn’t listened you but now I am fine…I am just hoping for something new, , I mean by having this hope in my heart I can move on, i started to not thinking so much my ex, neither to see his social media…I am just thinking my “hope”…soooo…maybe my post will read it by other people here…soooo lets all of us having a hope, this “hope” mad eme strong , i mean hoping that i will find love, I started to be more close to my job i mean to be happy again with my job, with my hobbies, with my friends, and the most important to be happy for my life!!! Whatever is gonna happen , me i am justing hoping and "hope’ really can make us strong!!!

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You are very lucky because you love so deeply.

When you find someone who loves you as much as you love them, you will be so happy :slight_smile:

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@mr_the_ex thank you so much for your kind words!!! I wish it with all my heart!!! In my heart there is a hope …we will see!!!

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@mr_the_ex @patricia12 well my friends, as I was writing to you about hoping etc…my ex after so many days I mean, last conatct was before 23 days and I changed my photo in my social media and he did “like”…ok I know a "like’ doesn’t mean something, I mean by a “like” he wants me back??Not of course! Maybe he liked how I was in photo (beautifull and happy hahahahaah) but he did "like’ and I started again to think why he did it…of course me I didn’t did something to him, no message, no likes, nothing…and of course i saw in his friend’s profile like to a song …the song was exactly for us and our breaking up, lyrics …i still love you, it was my fault, don’t go, you are mye verything…

I know he can do whatever he wants and by a song also he doesn’t want me back…

But his "like’ to me…made me to think about eveyrhting, and I try to not be again in the hell which i was all that months…

what’s your opion???

Me I am thinking if he wants something he can write to me or calling me…

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(oups last contact was before 13 days not 23 days…)

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@mr_the_ex @patricia12 hell to everyone and here is the continue. He had name day so i wished him “good evening. happy name day. Wish you to have a great day!!!”… I didn’t expected an answer but he answered me, "thank you very much my (and here he wrote my name with “my” example “my sky”), wish you also the best in your life.

I just read the message. His answer was like all the others answers in his social media, me I sent him a private message, and to other people he didn’t used names…

I don’t know what to say, but was strange he did me like, he wrote my name with “my”…After breaking up he just call me with my name only two times and then he was cold…

I know an answer in a wish message does not mean something because if he wants being with me he have to start talking with me …we will see…

(probably it is the second time that I am writing the same message, sorry but I don’t see if I wrote it twice)

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@sky - It makes me sad that you are still obsessing about him. You’re looking at everything to try and figure out the meaning. The only thing that would mean something is if he asked to see you or get back together, but he is not doing that!! I suggest you stop stalking social media and stop chasing him. That way, you will heal faster.

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@patricia12 By sending him a message with wishes doesn’t mean that I am chasing him. Above all we were together for 7 months and at least i am a human and I wanted to wish him,I am not gonna be another person and forgeting my behavior all that years to wish to someone even if we are together or not, he did it also before a month , so what was meaning that he was chasing me??? I am not talking to him anymore, and it is normal to want to know why he divorced me, and it is normal to have him still in my heart, and to love him. And now that I said to myself that I will move on, HE started to do all that things. So i don’t know why you think that I am chasing him by wishing him…

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@sky - Okay. Continue to obsess about him, stalk social media, try to decode his actions, and message him if it makes you feel better. Wishing you good luck…

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@patricia12 thank you very much!!!

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I think it is part of the healing process and it is understandable. He is showing some affection towards her and he knows she still thinks of him. And he knows he didn’t give her a reason for breaking up and she wanted to have some reason.

He may be ignorant of what he is doing or feeling like he is just being friendly but he should also know better.

sky, I’m sure you will find someone new who cares about you more than he did. You wrote this a while ago:

“I feel better when someone is flirting me and sometimes I am thinking well I will be with someone else, new dreams, new life…but when I am alone I am thinking the life that we would have with my ex”

and that’s exactly how it goes. At night and when you are alone is when you think about what could have been. It happens to everyone after a breakup where two people were close. And the closer the relationship was, the more it hurts. The heart wants what it wants.

It gets easier to deal with the loss and the heart heals with time. And when you find someone new, you heart will move on and you’ll find that at night and when you are alone, you don’t think about him any more, you think about other things. I know you’ve partially moved on but I also know you probably still think about it when you are alone.

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@mr_the_ex hello and thank you very much for your answer!!! The strange is that when I deal with the fact that he is not gonna tell me the reason or to be again together, it passed 17 days without contact, and he started to do all that things, with the "like’ and then I wished him and he answered me as is aid above.

I had in my mind to wish him no matter if he had answered me for the reason…I am polite and this is how I am gonna be with him, I just wished him and he did what i wrote.

So ti was normal to think what is going on here, because all that months he is cold, and when I am not writing him he is doing all that with “likes”…and as you said he should know better why he is doing this.

He did it also in the first no contact period, 3 weeks no conatct, then I posted, then he did likes…

It shows me that he is here,.it is likes to make me think about him with his "likes’ on social media…and all of this happened when I try to move on…

yes, when someone is flirting me I feel very beautifull (who doesn’t feel ?hahaha) but whenmy ex do all that things, makes me to think about him, and really my life is better after the hell which I was after the break up…

Maybe he he is alone and he feels my absent in his life, who knows, but by writing me “my…” he knew that I am going to think about our love because he already knows how I feel for him, it passed 4-5 months after break up and still i was trying for us, so he knows how I feel…and he prefers to do all that things except to talk to me…Maybe he thinks that ok it passed days from her last message so i will friendly with the “sky”, maybe he thinks that I found someone else, and he wanted to show me that I am here…

Whatever is the reason of his last actions, he knows better, and he knows that I am not gonna be here for ever for him…

Because if he wanted to talk to me, he should had tell how are you and to start talking…he didn’t…

Of course me I didn’t respond to him, I am not going to do it…I thought of no contact again, but I started to do it before 15 days, the wish message was because he has name day, and as I see in the page here, you can write him a wish message and really I wished him not for chasing him or to show him that I exist, I did it because I am person and it is normal to wish…I didn’t expected answer…or I was expecting just "thank you’ because he is more cold than the weather all that months…

To say the truth If he wants something with me, he must start talking me because if I talk to him again probably he will be again cold and no answer…

All his actions makes me to think that maybe he still thinking of me, but there is something which keeps him back and does not make him to do a step…or he is doing this just for having me as a “window” whenever he wants to come back if he will not find someone else…

Me I am trying to move on, I almost did it and then he shows me that he exists in my life…

Really I try to do whatever I love, but he is in my mind but I am not in the way i was when I came here in the page, I feel better…it would be great if he wanted to be togetehr again, because I have feelings for him , but it seems that he just want to do 'like" so the best for me,…is to move on with my own life…

If he really loves me and wants to be together but for a special reason which I don’t know he must be far away from me, then what to say???

As you said mr_the_ex… he knows how I feel for him and that I am gonna thinking the normal…that he did “like” he called “my…” and of course he knows that I want him as a boyfriend, not just friend, If I wanted him as a friend probably we would not never be a couple…

It would be great being again together without our past, with new hopes, with new relationship, but in a relationship it needs two person not one…all that months I was alone trying for us after the break up…maybe now he is thinking of what we had…

but the question is why he is not doing a step if he feels as i feel and what I must do to make him do a step???maybe he moved on and overed me…

Me I did everything and really now I don’t have anymore the strenght to do something else, I try to move on…even if he is on my mind, even if I try the same plan for getting him back I mean the plan of the page…maybe I will be again sad…

He has to do something now…not me…of course if he wants to do something…