I’ll try to make this as short as possible. But I am in some dire need of assistance here.
My ex and I dated for 4.5 years, shared pretty much everything together during those years, both went through our grandmothers passing together which brought us extremely close.
On March 16 of this year I made what seems now the biggest mistake of my life by breaking up with her. I told her I made a mistake on April 7, laid it all on the line and told her how I felt, and we talked for a few days after that, only to cut off all contact on April 11. That was the last time we spoke. It ended ok. She has recently blocked me everywhere and is in what seems to be a rebound relationship only weeks after we’ve broken up. Moreover, the guy is the guy she dated for a year before we got together almost 5 years ago, that SHE ended it with because she said it wasn’t working. So why go back to that?
There was never infidelity in the relationship, however she did say she felt as though she was chasing me during the relationship. Those feelings were most likely due to her suffering childhood trauma at the hands of her parents, they were never there for her the way she needed them to be, and I was always there to help her cope with the severe anxiety that they caused in her, as well as depression. It would always end with her telling me I mean the world to her and thank you for being so understanding. So when our relationship ended, she is now claiming our relationship was toxic beyond belief and that I was the primary reason behind her anxiety/depression, yet it hasn’t really gone away to my knowledge. I saved text of where the anxiety stemmed from and the things she would say about her parents and wanting to move out and cut communication with them. Problem is that pay for everything and even threatened to cut her off multiple times, even if she got back with me. Seems fair.
Few questions here. 1. Opinions on her new relationship and what you guys think about going back to her ex that she broke up with!? 2. The only chance at contact would be next week when she is taking her finals, I would leave a note on her car with a rose that I always gave her, one rose. Is this a bad idea? Should I just forget about it and hope she contacts me? What are the chances she sees it as a negative? 3. If anyone suffers anxiety here, what is your opinion on why she would try and twist the feelings of her anxiety to our relationship when, 1. I have most of the proof of where it came from and 2. She knows deep down where it comes from. Thank you in advance