UNDECIDED EX

a brief preview: my ex and i were together for 3 years, its been 3 months since we broke up. one day he left for the weekend stopped answering texts and calls and when he came back i found out he was with another girl. The girl has slept with all his friends and i nothing compared to me. he has texted me several times for the past 3 months saying that he wants me back that he has made a huge mistake. i left for spring break and before that i went to his house to say hi to his fam. There he told everyone we were getting back together. A week into my trip he asks this girl to be his gf. That was a month ago. Since then he has texted me 3 times with the same story.

Ive been going through a really rough time right now.
Last saturday my ex was all over me on a high school reunion. He proclaimed his love publicly in front of all our friends. Told everyone he had made a huge mistake and that wanted me back. Some friends of his told me that they were together but that it looked like a forced relationship. That the day he asked her to be his gf he did not sleep at all. The whole day i kept telling him that i did not believe in his words, that if it was true that he had to prove it to me with actions. That night he texted my mom apologizing for everything. On sunday night he called me and said that he had broken up with the girl that what else did he have to do to get me back. He deleted the picture form instagram and she deleted all of hers with him also.

On tuesday my mom wanted to speak to him face to face because she noticed i had been seeking to him and she didnt know he had broken up. He came to my house and my mom even told him that if he wasn’t sure that he should take some time to be by himself and be with other girls and party etc. He told her no a million times, that he wanted to be with me and that he had already done all that. That night he wanted to go out with me, but i said no. I told him where i was going to be in case he wanted to show up. He did. I left with him and 2 friends to eat something. There he spent the time hugging me and telling me sweet things,making plans and everything. He took me home that night and we spoke a lot. He said he was never going to leave me again that he had made a huge mistake and didn’t want to lose me again. The way he looked at me i can’t even begin to explain. He took my head and really said those things, i tried to look away but he was very convincing.

The next day he woke up and texted me eveyrhitng was ok. I was playing tennis when i got a text of him saying that he wanted to be alone for a while, that he was sorry and that he had to leave for the weekend (to the same place his gf has a house) and that he knows i won’t like it but that he’s really sorry and that he hopes everything turns out ok with my life. I was shocked. He then blocked me.
At 4 pm he unblocked me and sent me a text saying that he wanted to be with the other girl, that we should live our lives separtly and that he didn’t want to talk anymore.

I couldn’t believe it, i still can’t. Im really devastated. He’s changed me for her 3 times now 3!!! i can’t take it anymore.

any advice anyone. I know i have to show him that i give up completely in order for him to react. he can’t see me with any guys, because he goes crazy and knows y every move. Right now he deleted me from everywhere, so he can’t see what i do.

his family told him to never take the other girl to the house. that they don’t want to see her. they love me and told me that i have to let him go completely and live my life that he’s going through a face and that he will get over it.

But it hurts a lot, because he plays with my feeling and my family is really pissed.

It’s one thing to mess with you and that’s bad in itself cause he already hurt you bad but it’s anther to involve your friends and family. It not only makes things awkward but makes him look like a bit of a fool. That being said he being very hot and cold which can be a sign however these changes are of drastic proportions so that confuses me a bit. I have no doubt this is extremely hard for you I know cause I’m also experiencing it :p. However given how he changes if he does this again do not answer him. Though that might scare you you’re allowing yourself to be walked over by him and if you not responding caused him to walk away for good then it’s probably for the better rather than him continuing to mess with your feelings. Tell him to not directly contact your family mainly and involve them in your problems as its affectin them hearing such things and having hope for you two as well. Would love your opinions on my latest post though :slight_smile: I just met up with my ex yesterday. Very confused