Hey Guys,
Today marks the 30th day since I tried to communicate with my ex (28/f). I’m (30/m) not sure if I should reach out or not. It was a bad break-up: Tons of fighting… stemming from her jealousy, insecurities and trust issues… but through it all, there was love there. She broke up with me, via email, citing her depression… but I think that was a smokescreen. She said she’d always love me and that our ‘riding off into the sunset’ wasn’t in the cards for us at this time.’ I reached out immediately after, trying to reconcile (trying to see her [she wouldn’t see me], next day sending her a belated birthday present [no thank you or response] and two weeks later an email summarizing all the ways I’d be there for her if she was open to talking again [absolutely no response]. Clearly, she wasn’t/isn’t having it. Candidly, because of her personality and low self-esteem, I think she likes the power/control she now has over me. And yes, I know I fucked up royal.
It’s been 30 days. So… do I continue to move on, past this date, or do I reach out to her with a casual ‘across the bow’ text? My gut says don’t reach out until she reaches out to me… but you all know what kind of mindset that puts us in.
Thoughts?
S
P.S. Thanks in advance for all of your wisdom.