this one is difficult!

So my ex and i have dated for 8 month, within this time i’ve made her a better person and helped her threw tough times. (Her words) we broke up about 3 months ago.

She started seeing a guy about 2-3 weeks after our brake up. She has been official with this guy for a month and a half.

I’ve done a 30 days NC and started texting her again the conversations arent very long the biggest i got was 1h. She is hot and cold with me.

I tried setting up a date with her which screwed up because she was seeing her dad and then leaving for some further away place to go see family.

The guy she is with is her best friend, this guy was the source of our brake up since i was suspicious of their friendship.

She knows i’m a good guy, that im mature and that i know where i am going.

All i’m wondering is how do i get her back? She is very stubborn.

@samuel

Yes. Your ex gf is similar with my ex bf. And our situation almoost the same where our ex be with their best friend now for almost 2 months. But at least she said something positive about u to someone and she wish to say it towArds u rather than someone else unlike my ex bf. He didnt tell anybody about me or anything. U see. Its a good thing that she think positive about u. Not negative side and not about her new bf. She think about u. So u better maintain ur good side. Let her realized that u are not doing this for temporary but permenantly. She is still with him even u said she is not happy right?

@aryyan

Exactly she is still with him but i could not say why, her friends say he is not her type and she used to say the same thing she is probably trying to have someone by her side to support her!

@samuel

But u did mention that she is not happy with him even he is her bestfriend…u do have shot one day it takes time…while im like…oh my. I feel like i want to cry again but im too weak. I feel like giving up. They still seems very bery happy. He is completely smitten by her. How can it be…?

@aryyan

I know one day i will but the way my life is planned out i’ll be in the same city as her for 2 years and a half since im joining the RCMP and i dont want to wait so long thats why im doing my moves now ill give myself max 2 months not even and if it does not work well im finding someone who is worthy of having me in their life!

As for your ex well i cant say why he is so happy he probably isnt and it might go to shit since they are together everyday and their relationship is young.

@Samuel

U never know since she gave u a reAlly positive comment about indirectly. She is not talking about her boyfriend. She is talking about u. It means u are in her mind. But indeed she is stubborn but woman easy to get soft and u know what her weakness towards u. U know what she really love about u. Show it do it. But this time u put ur limit. Make her wanting more. And i believed she realized your new attitudes and tour new things.

Of course he is happy. He get the best of both world. He get his bestfriend as his girlfriend. All he wants is mutual and matured. I know they are still early stage but how can i do have hope or shot if he is completely happy with her. He is not like ur ex gf. I wish he is like ur ex gf a bit.

@aryyan

I believe he is, i dont think he is as happy as you think he is. I would stop getting updates work on myself and talk to him later.

@Samuel

I worked so hard to be better and shutting down my social medias. The update i got from my bestfriend. She told me because she has his social media. I just remain silence and smile and said its ok. But when she left, i cried silently. I tried so hard. I did my best. I even improve my self a lot. A lot of people said i look slim, im getting prettier, different and stylish rhan before. But i know its not good enough for my emotional problem. I work hard again and again. Yah i do feel give up but i try and i do work on myself again even im very weak right now due to some health problem. I do hope he is not happy right now as it shows. I have no idea why they keep update but yah i know it sounds bad but i really hope he realized that she is not his type like he used to say And hope he is not happy by that

The fact that they keep posting stuff is to me a sing of self proving that their relationship is going good. They want to “prove” whats the point there is none when their is a good relationship going you wont find shit on social media because they dont need people approving their situation.

By seeking approval your ex shows that he is not as comfortable as you think

@Samuel

But dont u think it sounds like annoying or immature by updating like every little things? Perhaps it looks sweet but if they keep posting, i dont know how the audience feels like. Perhaps they are so amazed by how my ex bf treat her. He is very charming and that girl is harsh an boyish.

I mean if u, do u really need to update every little thing about ur new gf?

Sometimes i found that funny because he knows that we split up less than 2 months and right now he is keep tagging her and she keep updating about him. I mean, as a guy, do u guys feel a bit guilty or its just for satisfaction to make your ex gf see it?

@aryyan

Me i would not feel good about that and wouldnt do it,but like girls we are not all the same you know but he probably does it to piss you off and i dont know why

@Samuel

Another one day…tomorrow is the day. Contact my ex bf back. Its better to send msg during day or night? He usually free at night but maybe he will busy texting his new gf -.-"

@aryyan

Text whenever i texted my ex in the morning haha i dont think it matters realy

Also im all confused some girl told me that my ex was bragging about how much she was in love with the new guy :confused: when someone else said she wasnt happy and at breakfest with my mom she did not say whether or not she was happy with him :s

@Samuel

She just said it because she just dont want to look that bad. Perhaps their friends mutual with her boyfriend. She is definately confused with herself. Maybe she is not trust with other girls thats why she need to show that she is ok.

Well, i try my best tomorrow…or boxing day. Sigh. Im scared. Huhu

@aryyan

Dont be just wish him a merry christmast wish him well dobt do more then 3 texts and thats it. Then you dont text him for 2 days after you text him every other day just so your not needy and then when you feel yall are good you can text the very next day :slight_smile:

@Samuel

Did u text your ex gf like that? Hows your situation going on? How are you today?

@aryyan

Well since yes she did since i congradulated her on getting her drivers liscences.

And my situation isnt so great i mean i think i did a mistake i invited her on an other “date” too soon i tried getting to see her on the 31st she couldnt she was with family and then i tried again for the 2nd she did not reply :confused:

@Samuel

For how long she didnt reply?

@aryyan

Texted her last night at 9

@Samuel

I think its better not to ask “date” after the first cancellation date. Its better to wait few weeks. Maybe wait until u guy feel better.

Well, today this is it! Im nervous very very much…