When I think about my ex do u think she’s thinking about me…
Don’t concentrate on things like that but yes she still thinks about you.
It’s been 5 days almost a week no contact today I got the urge to check her Instagram and twitter but I didn’t I fought the urge…it’s crazy how ur instincts try and take over and tell u what’s best for u when your brain knows other wise.anywAy I’m jus thinking about her wondering how she is while excluding the fact in my mind that she has a boyfriend. I wonder if she’s thinking.and my question is it bad that I blocked her and should I unblock her?
It is up to you whether to unblock or keep her blocked. Blocking her means that are less lines of communications open. There’s really nothing you can do about her current bf, try to focus on yourself and not think about what she’s doing.
School starts next Monday and me any my ex will be attending the same Skool like I said before. My only concern is I kno my heart will be racing a 100mph when I see her but I’m still gonna follow the NC rule set for me. How ever what if she tried to talk to me and I find out that her and her new BF have been having sex.how am I suppose to feel knowing how I feel about her still.
im not acting like that but yo have to realize things you do and say push me away even further and yesterday that all started over nothing, im not obligated to tell you anything. This is what my ex emailed me when I said something that was out of line about her and her new relationship wit her BF…what exactly does this mean I would jus like someone else’s point if view.because she made it official wit him a week ago but after she told me she wanted her space and stop talking she met him the next day and started getting serious wit him right off the back and then 3 weeks later they are in a relationship.WHAT DOES THIS ALL MEAN?
Things tend to move faster in a rebound relationship and she has probably started a rebound.Don’t concentrate on her life.Focus on yourself and don’t overanalyze her words.You should follow your plan.
What are the chances of my ex in her rebound relationship having sex with her new BF???
No one knows and you don’t have to concentrate on it.You should focus on yourself and your life.
I know it’s crazy but I really miss her a lot.im good as far as poppin up at her house and I’m able to focus and work out and do me.but I jus realize I do alot
Chances are high that she will have sex with her new partner. But be honest with yourself, if you could have sex with a new super model every night till you two got back together you would. So don’t hate on her for doing what you would do in a heart beat. Honestly, one sexual partner is one to many, so don’t worry about that stuff. Work on making yourself awesome.
Ok so school starts Monday and I believe that this system of no contact will work for me…my thing is what if she really tries to speak to me? And even tho she has a bf do u think she will still be thinking about talking to me.i understand this is college and all but these are jus my thoughts.im excited to maybe even see her Monday but knowing that I mustn’t speak to her is t my issue.my issue is what if her seeing me around makes her want to come up and try n talk to me?
Make sure you keep your cool here man. You need to show her that you are fine and that you are moving forward. Be assured, she is thinking about you. You should avoid contact if you can, but if you do end up in a situation where you need to interact with her, keep it very light and don’t think much of it. You need to display a bit of coldness here so she understands the distance you are putting between you guys. Relationship Rewind really helped me understand where I am in the whole thing, not that I mean to pitch a book at you here, but it is really good. I am currently about 2 weeks into the no contact and still feel the pain every day, but I know that if I don’t focus on myself then I will never get her back. I pushed this girl right into the arms of another guy. Was really messed up the way it played out. It is starting to get a bit easier, and after this no contact month I will decide if I am going to re-connect and try and get her back. I feel that I will try it, but the only chance I have is to suffer through the no contact first, so you need to keep it together man. I hear ya, and feel that pain.
We’ll I wrote her a short letter and dropped it off at the post office…I kept it short and simple and didn’t give to much intel about me at all…I jus kno it’s gone make me feel some type of way seeing her get picked up from school and seeing her get in the car and kiss her new bf…it jus seems like to me like she using him I’m not sure tho
Kevin Thompson emails really make my day go a lot more smoother. I jus felt that I should acknowledge this… Right now I’m not happy or mad jus tired I think ima jus workout really hard and take a shower
Ratedrkidd,
I feel your pain. it is very common. As everyone is telling you here, your best move is stay cool and treat her like anyone else if you are together. The hardest part is not thinking about her, I KNOW, but the better you can keep her out of your head, the better off you will be. Especially if you see her.
Don’t think about what she may be doing.Its tough but you do have a chance to change everything and get her back.
I do believe you are strong and confident.Keep up the good job and be cool about everything.Wait for her to contact you.Even if she doesn’t,you can contact her again after 1 or 2 weeks.You can use one of the text versions.
Be patient and keep us posted.
Best of Luck
No problem I will keep u posted and do u really think I should contact her even after she Recieves the letter I sent today…and what do u mean text versions???
Yes you can contact her again.But its really up to you.you can wait until she contacts you.
I meant the text versions mentioned in the 5step plan.
The key to using text messages is to be very subtle. Never ever directly talk about your feelings or about your relationships. You want them to associate text messages to something positive and fun. Here are the rules for texting your ex.
Never send them an empty message. An empty message is something that doesn’t say anything and doesn’t give your ex anything to talk about. For example
“Hey”
“Hey, How are you?”
“I miss you”
“:)”
Never ever talk about your feelings and about getting back together.
“I love you”
“I miss you”
“I want you back in my life”
“I am miserable without you”
Never argue or say something negative over text.
“If you had just shown a little more effort, we could have been great together.”
“Your child misses you. You are terrible father to leave him like that.”
Now here are a few things that you should do while using text messages.
Something happened in your life that reminded you of them.
“Hey, I just watched the new season of Arrested Development. It reminded me of you. I actually had a smile on my face. :)”
“Hey, I just read the new Harry Potter book. I am so glad you never told me the ending. Thanks :)”
Remind them of good moments you had together.
“Hey, I was just thinking about the time we went skydiving together. Man, that was exciting. I am glad we did that. “
“Hey, remember the little restaurant where we had our first anniversary date? I just crossed it and it looks like they are closing down. It’s a shame because we had such a great time that day.”
Let them know you are having fun with your life and meeting new people.
“Hey, I just saw a romantic movie with a friend. The ending reminded me of you.“
“Hey, I am going to Hawaii for the weekend with a friend. Do you remember the name of the hotel we stayed in when we went last year?”
Now there are tons of other things you can do with texts. But the key point remains the same. Be subtle. Be positive. Be fun.
OR you can say
I know its random but something crazy just reminded me of you :))))))))
Remember the time we went to (A place you went and you had a really good time there so it can remind her of the good memories you had) ?
I went there with a friend today/tonight and i saw (something/someone you know is funny/interesting for her.it can be a funny thing,A person,A cat,A dog,Food,Something that makes her laugh,Something you used to laugh about… Check your memories,Her interests and select your words.It has to be something that reminds her of your good old days).It reminded me of you after a while.It actually put a smile on my face.Hope you are doing good.
You can use them one by one or combine them in one.The more you make her think about the good times you had,the most powerful it will be.
The text doesn’t have to be too long.