Long story short I reconnected with a man I was in a relationship with 10 years ago. His sister and I use to work at the same place and from that point on I allowed the wound to be reopened. So now that I have connected the dots that he is the same as he was 10 years ago. I decided to go no contact. I gave him good love then and I just feel so stupid that I still and probably will always love him. I have to do this for me it will be 7 days tomorrow and it’s so painful. I don’t even want him back because I did all that I could to get him to come my way but im just plain exhausted. I know he doesn’t want nor love me anymore and it’s hard to accept.
From what you’ve written here, it sounds like no contact won’t get him to want a romantic relationship with you and he hasn’t even tried in 10 years. If connecting with him is painful, you need to distance yourself from him for your own sake and get to a point where you can love him as a friend and nothing more. You even said you don’t want him back, so work on yourself to get over the past hurts. Go out and enjoy dating other guys. Look for the good they can offer you either in terms of friendship or a possible relationship. Maybe pray to God to heal your wounds and give you strength to overcome your obsession with him. Best wishes always:)