Success with NC worked for me

After I decided to start NC when my ex broke up with me it was very hard & I was so heartbroken. I could not eat, sleep or even move from my bed. I thought the world was ending. Finally I came across this site and it gave me hope. After reading everyone else’s stories I decided to give NC a shot. After 2 weeks my ex text me but I did not respond. He text me every day after that asking why I wasn’t responding and that he missed me. After the 30 days I reply and it was as if I had him wrapped around my finger. He did everything he could to win me back and is still to this day grateful I gave him a second chance. The NC period gave him time to miss me and to think about all the good and not the bad. With me not responding it opened his eyes to the fact that maybe he had lost me forever. I know how hard NC is but I promise it will make YOU feel better about yourself. Yeah getting my ex back was a plus but the NC period gave me time to heal and get my mind straight. Our relationship has been 100x better because of this.
Good luck to everyone who is doing NC :slight_smile:

I am currently on NC right now. It’s been a week and 2 days. He called me on Friday but I ignored the call and he hasn’t tried since. He cheated on me and the break up wa nasty. I’m thinking I should go longer than 30 days but we did live together and we have some thing that are in each other’s names. Do you think I should go the 30 days or longer?

I think the 30 days is just fine. I don’t think there is any need for you to go longer than 30 days unless you decide during NC that you no longer want to be in a relationship with him. If after the 30 days you have evaluated the pros and cons and have decided you still want to be with him then you should go ahead and contact him. See how he is feeling after the 30 days and go from there. He has probably forgotten all the nasty things that happened during the break up at that time. My break up was also very messy and a lot of hurtful mean things were said, but after having time apart we both had pushed the negative thoughts to the back of our minds. NC truly saved our relationship!! Hope the same goes for you:)

It’s great news to hear … hope that everything will be good for you now …
but can you give me your opinion on my story?
Can i get him back again like you did?

https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/i-ran-into-him-he-acted-like-im-a-stranger/page/7/#post-14704