I am on day 18 of no contact and it gets easier yet harder as the days go by. We have been seeing each other for 6 years. However, we have since broken each other’s trust and it has been a constant back and forth since January. One month we’re fine, the next we’re not. The week of his birthday there was a lot going on, with work, his personal situation, visiting his dad in federal prison that weekend. He told me he didn’t want to lose me and our relationship was very deep. The same weekend, we made plans to meet and had fun talking and getting our minds off the hectic past few days. The next morning, we were talking about the situations in which we had been dishonest to each other. I got emotional and He got emotional and calmly asked me to get out of his car. which I did leaving my phone. I sat in my car for a little bit thinking to myself and then i realized i left it. Of course I tracked and located it and noticed that he was bringing it back. When he arrived he stated that he loved me more than I loved him… instantly making me feel like crap. He asked me to give him gas money for having brought it back from almost being in West V. I said no, you just kicked me out your car. In exchange for my phone back (yes, I get it. Very immature I know I know) I called his bluff and he turns my phone off so I can no longer track and claims he threw it on the side of the road (an iPhone X ?) long story wayyy short, I’m wondering what the hell is his issue, did he really throw my phone away? We normally go through stints where we don’t speak and block each other. I haven’t tried to reach out in 18 days bc of NC. Last time we did spoke I asked him if this was it. He said he guessed. I’m torn, I really miss him. But I’m afraid of the rejection and my pride will not allow me to reach out for some time.
He sounds very immature. Claiming that he loves you more then you love him, demanding gas money for returning your phone (why didn’t he just mail it to you) and saying he threw it out the car in what appears to be a tantrum. What were the breaks of trust between you two?
I would give him space to sort himself out and don’t contact him at all. I’m at the end of day 15 and I know what a roller coaster it can be. You are getting over them but you can’t help but think if they are getting over you and moving on. You want to reach out and grab them so they don’t move on but stay with you. However that has the opposite effect.
Keep doing what you are doing and enjoy your time. If his feelings for you are strong enough then he will come back to you.