Ive wrote my whole history in another topic, but now Im having the worst time… I know shes with someone else (got together with him 2-3 weeks after I moved out), I unfortunately saw what they are writing to each other… Flirting at its best, it makes me so angry and sad, cant even describe it. They havent met so far, but its clearly going to happen. They got to know each other thru internet, been “friends”, but it moved to another level.
Im planning to ask her out for a coffee next week to show off my changes (we live in different places, i have work stuff in her town next week), but… I dont know if im just lying to myself that i have a chance… I kinda need encouragement, last time she contacted me was monday 26.01 and well, she used to contact me every monday with casual “whats up”, but guess what, not even a text today. I dont what is more painful, the fact that she is slowly forgetting me (no contact in her usual monday) or that she has someone else.
It looks like she moved on, at least I see it that way. Having hard time believing its just a rebound and shes still thinking about me.
We were together for 5 years… I moved out 18.12.2014. Not contacting her for 3 weeks or so.
I was in a similar situation. She was urged by her parents to split up from me and see another guy. She met up with him behind my back. Afterwards I was so worried and ended up going crazy at the thought of her getting with someone else so quickly. Eventually I drove her away with my obsessive texting and begging / anger.
It would have been a lot easier if she didn’t have someone else.
Learn from my mistakes. Do no contact for at least 31 days. If she contacts you, do not respond. She knows she can have you anytime she wants. Go away for a while, let her wonder. The more you try, the more harm it does. It sounds like a rebound with this guy. Keep strong.
Thanks for the answer, but I know for sure she is not being forced to anything. Its all on her. When I asked her if she has someone, she didnt hestitate and answered right away with “Yes”.
Back when I was in begging phase (before I found this site) she told me that we werent together even when we lived together, she stopped loving me more than a half year before moving out… Her words.
Im working on myself, thats another story. Im doing no contact for 3 weeks and well, nothing changed, like 3 texts from her with whats up. 
She is still in contact! That’s good. My ex never responds at all. Which means it is dead. If you have communication still, then anything is possible! Keep positive. Be the prize.
Hard to call it communication, our conversations look… no fun at all, like two strangers. I think she was just worried and asked how am i doing, thats all.
Well that at least shows she cares! You need to just go away and allow her to miss you more. Also, she needs to know you are having fun without her, or give that impression. Are you friends on Facebook?
We are not using facebook, I had to go back to my home town (300km from her), I moved to her when we got together. I havent seen her since the breakup, Im going to her town on a work trip next week and I wanted to ask her out for a coffee, but kinda afraid she will say no. It really looks like she is having good time with her new guy…
But remember, it could be an act. I think you need a longer amount of no contact, so that yoy can feel better about the situation and allow her some more time to regret what happene. This guy sounds like a rebound. Just stay strong. If I was the rebound guy, I would not be happy if she was texting you, even if it was to ask if you are Ok.
They didnt know I was reading that stuff, I wish I hadnt. She probably didnt tell that guy that she contacted me several times.
I was a dick for a year due to my addiction (im done with it now, no, not drugs/alcohol ;)), Im afraid she doesnt have anything to regret…
Well, in that case you need to prove you have changed. Once she sees you are a changed man, then she will start to have feelings again. Just stay positive. She is reaching out to contact you still. He is a rebound and it will end soon.
Keep up no contact and come back a changed man. Don’t worry about the other guy.
Well, he is giving her the things I didnt…Flirt, conversation, blah thinking of it makes me puke, literally.
Still no contact, slowly losing hope 
Hmmm, I felt the same way. But I had a different relationship with my ex. It was more romantic. She will miss the things you did.
Time is crucial. Stay distant. He is available to her anytime. You are not. That is a very attractive thing, I’d she thinks she cannot have you.
Time is key.
I understand your point of view, I really do, but Im being too emotional about it and well… her neighbour is not available for her anytime too and she isnt interested in him, I dont understand how would it work for me, she still has the bad image of me in her head.
I am in the same situation. She has a bad image of me in her head. I feel highly emotional. There is this other guy, who she is getting closer and closer to.
The only thing you can do is give it time. That is the key for removing all the bad memories and for her to miss you
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Break up is one thing, but break up + her getting new guy is… another level of it. Im feeling devastated inside after she told me that, I realize it might be a rebound, but my brain tells me only bad things about it (stuff like - shes happy with him, shes plans with him, she doesnt think about me). Same as in your situation they are getting closer, they havent met, but it is going to happen, I feel it (goddamn valentines soon :)).
Yep. I found the same thing. Basically, one night she is going mental and crying above t how I ruined it and is trying to break up.
The next day I look at her apparent ‘deleyed’ Facebook account and see she added this guy recently who changes his relationship status to with my girlfriend…
I go mental and eventually talk to the parents, when the truth comes out about how I apparently have no respect for their daughter and how they urged her to break up with me and consider others. Apparently she always ‘heeds’ their advice. She cries saying she didn’t want to see him.
But there they are now, getting into a relationship. I agree, the pain was unbearable. First knowing my lovely girl didn’t want to be with me, secondly the parent’s involvement, and the most devastating of all, knowing she had replaced me and was dating something else. He was texting her before and capitalised on my mistakes and her parent’s wishe. It is so unfair.
I keep getting told it is a rebound, but they are getting closer now and she ostrcacised me e. It is pure hell.
The only thing I can say is pretend to be Ok with it. Otherwise you will push her away. Being Ok with it is attattractive. You can do it!
Good that she cried and she doesnt want to be with him, my ex havent got emotional since we broke up… The break up was very emotional, we both were miserable for the last two days, we both cried, but she kept saying that she doesnt love me anymore and we cant be together, even thru tears. I still hear her words “you were my whole world but u disappointed me”, most devastating thing to hear… Since then… not even one “i miss you”, just “whats up”, “how are you”, not even one emotional outburst from her (we broke up 18th of december). Thats why I keep thinking she is serious about it and I have no chance.
Also we live in different places, we dont use facebook, I dont have many ways to bump into her or just talk.
Hmmm. Well she is seeing him now. And ignored me since October, although I bombarded her with texts.
My advice would be to give it time. It seems like she is playing a game to see if you will break. Don’t play her games. She didn’t fall out of love with you, as is evident from her words to you.