Everyone on here can agree we have all done stupid things when out ex’s broke up with us, we’ve all gone crazy and messaged people who are closest to them to make them see sense and how angry that they had any influence.
Thank you @libertine1 means a lot to know I have support from people who are going through the same thing and not been told “move on” “he’s not worth it” they don’t understand that he’s MY ONE
Exactly, I feel the same. I had mixed responses from friends, some told me to leave it and that there is no hope. But I think we have both been alive long enough to know when someone is special.
I think my case is extreme, texting non stop from early Oct until Mid Dec without a response, sometimes obsessively and threatening suicide, telling her parents we had sex, even though I knew how much this would hurt her and her family. At one time I pretended to be a friend texting from my phone, saying I was at hospital because of her. I later apologised and told her it was a lie. It makes me cringe when I think of those things.
When someone goes through heart break its the mind that plays tricks, we are so needy for that person to leave us we would do anything to have them not leave us. It makes you cringe now because you see the error of your ways but now you know it wasn’t good and you can focus on this!
Of course, but she will speak to me again, do you think?
She will but in time, you have to back away now for her to see what you meant to her and get rid of all the negativity.
Thanks, your words mean so much to me 
Day 10 tomorrow! Only 2 more periods like this and we are onto 30!
And yours do to me! Exactly we can do it
Surround yourself with positivity and positive things happen…one step at a time
We are on day 10! How do you feel?
Today, I am a lot better. I am thinking of the harm I can do with angry words, but also taking her down from the pedestal and realising how insecure and badly she treated me.
Also, I am looking for signs that tensions may have thawed, including on Facebook, such as her unblocking me - or even stating she is in a relationship with the other guy with no fear or repercussions from me.
I think it is a good thing if she is still with him, as the only reason behind it was m. And the only reason they are probably still together is due to my behaviour. But rebounds mostly end, so we will see.
Hey @Libertine, I know we are doing really well, GO us.
I’m feeling ok, I got the job that I wanted which I wouldn’t have done if we were still together, so positive. I also have a date tomorrow How are you?
Your right angry words can destroy a lot, I send a lot of angry texts when we broke up but now I know it just pushed him further away.
She will soon come to realise it was just a rebound and was just replacing you with her loneliness, all rebounds do end.
@Libertine I’m very please that you are feeling better
I also have a date tomorrow! So fingers crossed. I am open minded, but I do realise that my ex and I did have a special bond and chemistry together.
I just hope she speaks to me again. I do hope for this so much.
Bit I think our dark days are over and that we are moving forward to a position where we can make them happy again!
Good for you? We really are doing things in sync, it’s not to have the support, it will be hard as we will look for things about our ex’s but our dates have no idea what we have been through and they need to be treated like a new person.
She will speak to you but all in time.
We are in good positions and working on ourselves, once they see that were the people we were before we met them maybe they will reconsider.
Me & my ex had a brilliant bond and his illness brought us closer, but like they say “if you love them, let them go, if they return it’s meant to be”
Exactly, and they did not fall out of love with us - we drove them away and circumstances dictated the rest.
Three days until it’s two weeks! I have done a number of things, I have lessened facebook privacy, so that she can see friends and know I deleted the girl I cheated on her with. But I have also protected all of my tweets, as I know she used to look at them.
They do say that it needs to feel like you have stopped existing during NC. But I realise I have to build up that trust too - so that she knows I deleted the girl and that I am not adding other random girls.
Feeling stronger. Plus, good luck with your date today!
We did drive them away with our actions and will prove to them we have changed, they can still have access to your facebook and other social media accounts you just don’t contact them at all even if they contact you.
I can’t believe it’s nearly 2 weeks, sometimes I do fear that if I keep this up he will move on and he thinks that I am moving on aswell.
Im so happy your feeling stronger and moving forward.
Thank you same to you just keep thinking “today is my masterpiece”
He won’t forget. People value things that do not come easily. By keeping no contact, our value rises.
Thanks! Don’t get me wrong, I will still have weak days, but I feel so much better than I did before.
I’m afraid to much damage has been done and he’s happy moving forward without me! but not going to worry about that and get out and enjoy myself.
Of course you have your weak days I still too but I am glad your feeling better.
We can do this, even if we don’t get our ex’s back we will become strong again
I have the same fear, that she is happy I an gone. But we had special moments with them that cannot be replaced. As I said. They did not fall out of love with us, so we are in a good position.
We will get our exes back Caz. Have faith. They are human, they will miss us when we go away.
I do feel bad that she could not give me closure though. She could not meet up with me afterwards, so that we could discuss things. It would have been so much easier.
We do have the memories and hopefully in time they won’t see the negative ones just the positives. Fingers crossed we do but we need to be 100% in a good place.
It is sad that she didn’t and maybe thought that if she didn’t see you it would be easier for her, she will want to see you in time when she has it all figured out.
I am so confident that she will have feelings for me if we regain contact. I am sure things will be the same for you when you come back!