No I hadn’t moved on or anything, we had a brilliant relationship, we went through his cancer together, we lived in a city I loved and suggested we moved somewhere else when he got Sick which was closer to his family so I agreed.
It was going amazing but I started to hate the place I was in, so I met some friends and went out drinking with them once a month and when I got back I would lash out verbally at him not physically this went on for 6 months and he finally said he couldnt cope and walked out.
After he left I flew home to my family and he came back a couple of weeks later and we tired he said he was madly in love with me, so we flew back and forward for a few months and I was getting the help I needed as to why I lashing out.
But in December he said it wasn’t working, he loved and cared for me but wasn’t in love with me, we had contact for 4 months, so I send a text 7 days ago apologising for it all and I wanted to let go of the hurt, pain, anger and not going backwards all the time, I got no response and I’ve cut all contact.
Well, he was very sensitive when you lashed out. You’ve been through cancer together. I could imagine that he was just feeling really sad in how you were acting. It may have broke his heart that you were acting that way. That is why it is important to become that person he fell in love with.
I feel the same. But we are both in new territory. Time heals a lot. It’s easy to think we have no significance, but trust me - they still think about us.
I think you are in a stronger position than me. Just be strong. I think you will get there.
I was abusive as well, but only after we split. I threatened suicide twice, and pretended to be someone else to pretend I was in hospital - just to get a response. I was so desperate for a response. I called her names, said horrible things, made things up, text her every second of the day. It hurts so much to think about. She was so crazy in the relationship, but I did not mind.
I suggested splitting up a week before we did, but just as a trial - and she cried, hyperventilated and complained of chest pains. The next week, she wants to split - two days after agreeing to take her parents’ ‘advice’ of dumping me and choosing another. It hurts so much to think of it all. She had to force herself to get over me.
She told me that I hurt her so much, that she didn’t want to invest anymore - because she was scared of how much more she could get hurt. Jeez, I was going to fix so many things. If only the parents did not interfere
Yes, I did read it. I believe anything is possible. Sometimes it feels remote though. I have faith time can heal - but I think I may be a special exception. She may be pleased I am gone. I was harassing her.
I done all of those things because we are so desperate for them to change their minds, but when I look back at it all he would have just took me back out of pity, would you like her to take you back of pity?
She is not over you if she is still in contact, she did listen to her parents but they gave her the confidence and now she doesn’t have that.
We all feel our ex’s won’t come back and he felt that way If you read his threads, when you invest so much time, love and energy into a relationship you feel that’s it but he looked after himself got himself back to him! you need to do the same.
My ex hasn’t spoken to me since 8th October. I have harassed her since, to get a response. She just ignores me
No, I wouldn’t want it out of pity. But I do feel that she was forced to try and get over me. She told me at the time that she would work constantly, and then lock herself in her room to get over me. But I fear she has taken her parents advice and started a relationship with this other guy, like I meant nothing.
I cheated to, but I made a point of never seeing her again, and I made my ex aware of this. I just don’t know why she wanted to hurt me so much.
The only thing which I could see of her facebook, from another account (as she blocked me) was a sad face, made public (the day when she couldn’t face seeing me for closure) and a picture of her with her hand in front of the camera, instead of her usual happy image. It was like that for 2 months. Now, both are gone. Everything else is on lockdown.
Honestly 4 months is not a long time, you cheated and she went into a relationship so quick, it won’t work with the new guy as you both have a bond, she was expressing her feelings on her facebook but possibly told to take them down.
Yes. Maybe, and then for the past 4 months, I have been constantly texting her every day. So bad. The other guy was pestering her before. I still can’t believe it.
She ended it, as she thought we would not work - because she would move to Australia, then came the truth that the picture with me and the other girl ruined everything and hurt her so much. We then decided to work on our relationship.
The next day I log into facebook from another account, to see if she did delete facebook as she claimed. But no, she had blocked me, added that guy - and I found his relationship status to with my girlfriend. She also had a happy picture of her and a dog - an inside joke they shared. It was so messed up. Then I heard the truth from the parents about them making her. I hear her hyperventilating saying she didn’t even want to see him, and that her parents made her. She tells me she is angry I cheated, but understood - but needed space. Then it just went so downhill.
She loved me so much, that at the beginning, she couldn’t even save my number to her phone, as she was scared I would leave her. She was petrified I would leave. And we were so in love. I just cannot reconcile her from what she was, to what she is now
