About 5 minutes ago. she didnt really say anthing. All the email contained was;
X
no subject heading or anything.
I honestly didnt think shed message me at all. what do you guys think?
okay she just sent me another email telling me i have post at her old house and where it is.
wtf?
Don’t reply. She just wants to talk to you maybe otherwise she wouldn’t send you a blank email.
Can you give your views too?
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/confusing-situation-hard-to-figure-out/
i really dont know how to explain that im not replying to her. i mean, shes being nice by telling me about my mail though its not too important. i think she may be a bit emotional lately. i was thinking about responding later today just saying thank you for letting me know and if theres anything good there or if its just junk. or should i ignore it and wait til she either messages me again or i message her later when im read? i guess id tell her that i thought we both needed space or time to figure out how im feeling?
and of course ill help
wasnt exactly a blank email though. it was an x, or to be assumed, a kiss. -.- why do people have to be like that?
you guys? what should i do? im feeling ill reply today like i said i would. its close to a month since weve been apart and a minor contact in that time. shes being nice, and it says to support positive actions (such as her messaging me and helping me with my mail). i am worried about how it could go but i know in the end, it would be hard to make things worse than they are really. she must forgive me to offer to help me out. i knew of people that she received mail for and she just threw it out.
i wonder if she felt that messaging me was a risky situation and i wonder if shes agitated over it, since its been a while since she sent it and she checked her emails regularly after sending it, assumingly to see if i had replied. im worried that if i dont support her positive interaction with me at all, she wont do it again. like i said, didnt think id get a message from her. as far as i know, im the only boyfriend shes ever had that shes made contact like this after with (her exs contacted her but she wouldnt reply)
i know shell be wondering why i havent replied if i dont, but i dont want her to thinkim ignoring her as i said id be there for her when she needs (for something serious, im not gonna drop everything and anything if she didnt really need it, unlike her ex, which i know she doesnt respect things like that)
do feel like i have an advantage over anyone else in her eyes. im pretty certain she views me as the best for her but also the worse (which i dont exactly think is justified, as i caused her emotional pain (worse than anyone else has ever because of how close we were) but others both caused her emotional and physical. but she was never too hurt by the emotional stuff with her exs before me because she knew what theyd be like, that theyd probably cheat and they did and she cheated on them with me (we were best friends [if thats what you can call it] for 4 years)
so input would be nice as to whether its thought that me responding is the right thing to do? i feel it is and i know that goes against what it says in the guide… but im ready to deal with the post break up with her.
seems like your answering your own questions, lol. if you feel ready to do so then I say go for it. 
seems like you know what your doing already. keep doing what your doing. could you give me your input on my situation? thanks
okay so well i replied
i said
Thank you for letting me know. Do you know if its just junk or anything good at all?
she said
Voting for the new Mayor.
and this is what im thinking of replying.
Disappointing! Well thank you again. I assume the studio is locked? I’ll come pick it up sometime if that’s okay, or you can ignore it/trash it/forward it to me if you’d like. Let me know what’s convenient for you.
what do you guys think?
I say go for it.
gah, i know timing is a big thing… i dont know how long to give it til i reply… and i dont want her to end the conversation… i can see she checks her emails frequently after she messaged me, she obviously is waiting for a reply. there isnt much substance to her emails. it concerns letter i dont need, i dont know if she knows that or thinks theyre important… i think shes looking for any reason to have messaged me. wish it had more substance…
yes it seems she is looking for a reason to contact you. maybe wait a few minutes or reply when shes not expecting it. if you want to continue talking to her I say do it while shes on if not wait till later to reply. good luck.
thank you. ill give it more than a few minutes. more like hours. i want her to be waiting to hear from me! every moment (hopefully) she’ll be wondering why i havent responded… straight away. thank you again. i just dont understand. she hasnt exactly given me much to respond to. like i said, letting me know about my mail seems pointless… why would she tell me something so pointless? the conversation cant go far. what is she doing? -.-
I agree with aamls, I would wait before you respond. It seems to me that she is reaching out to see if your still there as it really is a trivial thing to email. So really that’s a positive. Good luck
so did you ever email back? what happened? I think she was trying to reach out to you?
yeah i did email back… she hasnt responded yet ahaha hmmmm… maybe shes playing the waiting game too
I think when she replies back, you should be emotionally reserved and let her wonder where she stands with you. My ex contacted me and I became as emotional wreck and just told him everything about how miserable I had been. Big mistake, as it just gave him an ego boost rather than being intrigued and wanting to know where he stood. So, I had to start nc all over again and not sure, if it’ll work now.
Be strong, don’t reveal your feelings. But do wait for her to reply, don’t send her another message till she replies.
thank you. i was getting a bit… anxious because she still hasnt replied but youre right, i have to wait til she replies. i guess i have kinda thrown a lot in her face, i thought she was doing that to me but maybe she didnt realise that telling me about my mail, wed kinda have to see each other or sort it out some other way so maybe that effected her… but yeah i wont be giving her emotional power over me
okay so she replied saying this;
It’s in the studio on the floor. The studio is open. I’m not going back to the house so you can get it or Jayne will throw it out. Do not touch ANYTHING else.
what should i do?