@RustyRed It’s hard for me too, but the only way to have her back, to talk and see her everyday again is to go through this NC
Yes it is hard. She’s all I think about. How do u cope? Some times I feel no contact won’t work. How do we know no contact is the trick to try and win them back?
That’s what I think too. What if I don’t contact her and I slowly erase myself from her life?
But firstly, from what I’ve gathered - NC is to help you heal and become a better person. Take this time to change yourself. Get to know other people. If you get over her, good for you. If not, at least you’ve become a more attractive and confident person. Hopefully in the meantime she starts to miss you.
Once you’re done with that, I all for using the relationship rewind techniques to try to get her back.
I’m struggling to get through NC too, but it beats doing things and messing everything up.
Relationship rewind techniques???
You haven’t heard about it? It’s mentioned in Kevin’s emails.
Oh ye, I have sorry. I thought that was all a scam
Yeah I thought so too. But you can just google it
You’ll see all that again if you just stick with it!
The thing about no contact to me is like a game! We are not computers that have to follow a program? I feel as if this website is more about a little situation and how to get them back! I feel as if it doesn’t focus on a big situation and what to do!
@ellie96 I hope so, I thought she might txt me while Im doing my no contact. She did like a picture I posted on instagram. But I might have mad her mad on the weekend when I excepted a friend request by two girls on facebook. I didn’t think because I was out on the drink. Then when I looked the next day I was upset that I had done such a thing. I’m trying to keep my facebook activity down to a minimum.
@mj doesn’t relationship rewind tell u different things to this website ? Do u have a link to a free version of it!
@sheldon21 your right we are not computers and maybe we shouldn’t take all the information we recive to heart and maybe use it as a guide line. Breakups are hard
just google relationship rewind step 1. its a pdf and there are 3 in total. yeah nc is supposed to work for yourself - to help you heal and not be ‘addicted’ to your ex
@RustyRed You are single now. You can do whatever you want. Its only going to draw her in into trying to get you back. Don’t revolve your life around what will upset her and stay loyal. I did that, and now look where I’m at? Trust me.
True but I still don’t want to hurt her. I want to win her back remember
Does anyone know if relationship rewind actually works? @Mj have u been using it?
How is everyone today? @shelded21 how are u copeing with all the confusion?
I’ve thought similar stuff too to be honest.
I spent a lot of times thinking why he lost interests and initiated the break up.
During the past two months, I’ve changed a bit, both internally and externally. I started to understand a lot of things he said before and why that made sense. I started to go to gym everyday to make myself feel better and good in shape.
I think the changes on the outside is easy to be recognized. However, I just don’t know how would my ex recognize my internal changes. He seemed not willing to meet up. So there would be no chance for him to see my changes inside.
Please HELP!!!
It’s good that you have changed, stay strong! Good things will come your way. Are u doing no contact?
I am.
But surprisingly he messaged me yesterday to say that why he didn’t show up for my ceremony. And also told me about his decision for his future career.
I thought that he wasn’t gonna contact me no more.
But I don’t understand why he told me all of this all of sudden…