Basically, my ex broke up with me back in August. Since then, I took two and a half months of sadness, followed by 30 days of no contact, which went well. Then I messaged her and she seemed nice and happy to hear from me, but then the more I messaged her (Bout a week apart) the more she seemed to just not care, or ignore me. The last message I sent (bout two weeks before Christmas) she ignored and she never, at any point, during all of this actually contacted me (Minus a favorite or two on my twitter status, but this was before the last message I sent her)
All in all, she seems like she’s completely moved on. She seems happy now, which is wonderful but it also seems like I’ve become nothing more than a relic of the past now. We dated for 7 months and she said some pretty wonderful things but once it was all over she had really bitter feelings toward me. Aside from being clingy and insecure I don’t believe I deserved the criticisms I received. I certainly never did anything to dishonor her or hurt her, though I’m pretty sure she thought I was using her as some sort of trophy for romanticism. It’s really sad to think she’s basically fading away. I suppose with her being long-distance I never had much of a chance anyway.
Hey ratpacker28,
It’s a terrible feeling of helplessness but I feel your pain! I don’t know if I should just give up too. My ex has been in 2 relationships since we finished. The second one started sometime around the end of November or begining of December. We have a baby together too. I’ve been told over Christmas that my daughter is better off with my ex and her new partner. She’s turned poisonous towards me. I’m just hoping in time it sorts it’s self out. I’m 21 into NC. I haven’t given up on my daughter by any means! I’m just hoping some NC will help her calm down and at least be civil towards me. Easier said than done, but try and stay strong.
Thanks for the encouragement. I really hope things turn out well for you as well
I may have to face the music. It just hurts so much to know she is probably leaving my life completely. But she doesn’t care, so I suppose I shouldn’t. At least that’s what everyone is telling me.
Me and my ex were together 2 years and 8 months, we broke up on September 16th 2014. She started talking to someone else a week later and they together December 1st. My ex is with someone who flirts with everyone and is cheating, I’m a rapper/ singer and coming out with a album to get her back. Can y’all please give me advice? the 20th we would have made 3 years
“One of the most courageous decisions you will ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul” - Brigitte Nicole
Letting go does not mean giving up, it just means letting things be because we have zero control on anyone or anything, at best we have some control over ourselves. And who knows sometimes when we let go is when things come to us. We just have to be open to receiving them.
Think about it this way, let it go and if she comes back on her own then you will be much happier for it
keep us posted on how it goes.
Is great that you are coming out with your own album, but I am not sure that getting her back that way will have the outcome you are looking for… she may come back just to be around the attention and may leave after.
What you should do is follow NC and focus on yourself and see what happens after that. If you are a driven to succeed type of person, she should come back and ask you to take her back, as long as the relationship was not horrible.
Thank you, Maria. That eases me a bit and I think it makes a lot of sense I feel like I am just about ready to do that. I just… if I know her, she will never be the one to reinitiate contact, but at the same time she doesn’t seem too interested in me contacting either. I think she’ll just see it as the final signs that I don’t really care either, which isn’t true.
But I suppose I have no choice. I just have to let her fade away.
