So after 22 days in NoContact the time gets near when I should start texting her again. One week after the breakup she texted me and asked me how its going an some unimportant stuff about a kayaking tour that i went on. I answerd her questions and said to her that im very busy in this Moment and that i cant talk but if she wants to meet me she can. She doesent wanted to Interrupt me in my busyness and wished me much fun. It was a very short conversation and everything was filled with Smileys. I guess she was a bit down and sad, because she answered like she is always doing when something is not good in her life.
That was the only conversation we had over the NC Phase.
I started with NC 3 Days after the Breakup Because we had to see us in this 3 Days again.
Now where the Month of NC is comming to an end, and she is not texting me again I guess ist time for me to write her. But I dont know if i should stick to NC and still wait on the day when she will be contacting me or if i should start texting her.
And if I start texting I really dont want to give her the Impression, that I am writing because I want her back. No really I am not depressed anymore and found my old life again, I evolved myself in a much more better Person and I started again to talk to other women.
I want to text her but I am afraid of giving her the Feeling that I am only texting because I want her back and that i Need her. No. What shoul I do?
Short Update: I think she is starting to making me jealous over Instagram and groupchats. She is writing when shes going on Partys and on her Instagram she has a Picture with a new dude i never saw before…
ok Maybe last Thing.
Next week the 30 days are over …
but my birthday is 20th…should i wait for it or contact her before? or wait that she might contact me on my birthday
@SunManShine - Since your birthday is on the 20th, stay no contact until afterwards. Hopefully she will send a happy birthday note, but if she doesn’t don’t stress about it and don’t mention it to her. Simple contact her a few days later and take it from there… Stop looking at her social media as it only causes confusion for you.
Ist getting worse and worse… I hope soo much that she will contact me. it hurts so much. I guess i understand more and more that she is moving on and I maybe just fu**** it up. Oh it hurts so mmuch. Actually she wanted to stay friends. But even that she is not texting me. I dont know what to do. what if she started also with no Contact? Sorry but after that Long NC Phase now to the end ist starts again to feel worse because she did not text me. Im so afraid that she will not text me on my Birthday and i guess that will be the end?
@SunManShine - I completely understand your sadness and hurting. Whether or not she wants to get back together with you has much to do with how long you were together and what caused her to break up with you. The no contact was mostly for you to accept that the breakup could be permanent and to try and get over the hurt and high emotions. If she doesn’t contact you on your birthday, wait a couple of days and call or text her to ask for a meeting to talk about the situation as it is now and maybe what she thinks of a possible reconciliation.
Should i Just ask her about the meeting? Or should i start with these text messages i could find on this site? I dont know if a straight question for the meeting could be to harsh