Should I ignore messages from my ex saying they miss me?

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Me and my ex broke up because he felt like I didn’t show I loved him enough. We live a couple of hours apart and when I had an important uni deadline I didn’t show him I loved him as much for a while and he began to doubt being with me. I was insecure then because he wasn’t sure about being with me at one point. These insecurities caused us to breakup.

My question is: I’m doing the no contact rule, but if he texts me saying he misses me should I message him back? Because if I ignore him he might just think I don’t love him and use that as a reason to move on and give up with me since me not showing I love him is what caused us to break up. Also, because of this I feel like if I went on a date I’d betray him and if I did he wouldn’t trust me enough to have me back. So should I not go on a first date in this time period? I don’t want him to use it against being with me and I only want to date him anyway.
Thanks!

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how long were you guys together for. . if you don’t want to go on a date then don’t. but just make decisions that are good for you not for anyone else… who broke up with who? if he does I wouldn’t text bak but if he texts again I would just tell him to give mii some space and if the feeling is mutual then say the felony is mutual but still need space

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Sounds like he is the one who broke up with you, so going out on a date with someone else just to have fun wouldn’t be a betrayal. I’m not clear on how the insecurities were manifested on both sides, but there should be a way to calmly discuss it and come to a meeting of the minds so to speak. Starlight asked how long you were together and I wonder how long ago you broke up. If he texts you saying he misses you, doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to get back together, but you could text back a short courteous reply and take it from there…