Should i give up?

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Hi Kevin,

My boyfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago, in the first 2 months i made all the mistakes; trying to stay friends, texting him angry messages, getting jealous of the other girls he was talking to. About 3 weeks ago i started your NC method, so we havent spoken in 3 weeks, but last week he started acting very odd. He already had me deleted off facebook and privatized his instagram account so i couldnt see anything he was up to. Then last week a friend told me he had started liking alot of post about exs that were slightly insulting, he also deleted all the photos he has of me off his social media. He then deleted my whole family off facebook and unprivatized his instagram. I’m very confused as it seems as if he is angry at something i have done even though we havent spoken in 3 weeks and prior to that we werent on bad terms. It also seems very counter intuitive to remove my family (increasing his privacy) at the same time as unprivitizing his instagram (decreasing his privacy). He’s really not one to get caught up in situations or get angry about things so i dont know why he’s gone to all this effort. I’m starting to wonder if i should bother trying to contact him ever, i feel like i cant see it ending well and i really dont want to get hurt, on the other hand i really dont want to loose him.

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Hayley,

Your ex appears to be furious and he is taking revenge by deleting your contacts and other things. Do not let this affect you. He may do it on purpose to hurt you. He is the one who broke up with you so there is not much you can do right now other than step back and allow him to cool down. That’s where the benefit of the NC comes in - both of you can take time apart and reflect on the causes of your breakup and how you can make things better the next time around. Time heals many wounds; if true feelings exist on both sides, your ex may try to get back in touch later on. If he does not, then you will need to accept the reality and move on with your life.

If I were you, I would stay away from the social media madness for a while - because it plays with your mind to the extent that it can get obsessive to keep checking on him and his activities. This will only stall your progress in moving on.

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I tend to agree with laurah. It’s best to remove tour self from social media all together. All the speculating and guessing only sets a person back. Keep on with your no contact and work on yourself and see what time brings