I’m wondering if I should break no contact! I’ve done 11 days now and in the last few days my ex has started to like my pics on facebook and instagram. Also she txt me on thur about our final bill’s on our old flat. At the end of the txt she hoped I was ok. I replied with a quick txt just about the bills. But now after her liking my photos and the txt I’m starting to think this might be her way of reaching out. I think she thought I would txt her back to start a convo. Am I over thinking or do u think it’s her way of reaching out. I was thinking of txt her to see how she’s doing or should I wait another week at least that would make it 18 days no contact. Help!
Keep strong. her liking your pIctures doesn’t really mean its ok to reach out. I say keep going with NC. If she really wants to reach out she can do it. Shes the one that called it off right? But at the moment you are the one that has to stay strong or else she’s going to notice that by a simple like on FB you give in. things might stsy the same and your progress is going to go down the drain. Its hard but keep hanging in there you should be ok.
True I never thought about it like that, yes I will stay strong. Had a weak moment. my mind was thinking maybe she was reaching out!
I kno it happens sometimes a little simple thing like that gives us so much hope. NC is working for u shes missing u. But if she let u go she can miss u more and reach out to u. I think u should be ok.
if I like her photos should I like it or should I just ignore them @juan10
I would keep going with no contact. She if she reaches out again. If she really wants to make contact she will. If you don’t hear from her after the 30 days are complete I would maybe send a simple text. Immediately after my break up my ex would not take me text or phone calls. I did the 30 days of no contact and when I finally did text he did respond. I’ve made some progress since, but unfortunately nothing significant (see my posts). I know it’s hard, but I would try to do the full 30 days of no contact. Leave her wondering where you went and give her time to miss you.
No dont like her stuff. If u can i suggest stay away from fb. The minute u like something of hers shes going to have the poweR over u. Trust man girls do shit to mess with our heads. Just keep going NC she will reach out for u.
I know thanks. Now I’m thinking maybe she’s just happy for me. Because the pics are of me at gigs and enjoying myself. Im not sure why she would like my pics. I haven’t liked any of her’s since the split. 30 days is a long time, I’m only on day 11 now but I have to stay strong and not txt or contact her. I had a plan to send her a letter after 30 days of no contact here’s a rough draft of it
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/heres-my-letter-what-do-u-think/
Can u guys read it and tell me what u think. Cheers
I dont think u will need it. Just give it time and the NC should work. If you get to 30 days and still the same give it another few days and send the letter. U want to see where u stand before you send the letter just in case you dont need it you will have some amo for the future .
So if she hasn’t contacted me in 30 days you think I should wait a few days then send the letter. A written letter has a special meaning to us as a couple, when we were doing long distance I would regularly send her hand written letters. So I was hoping by sending one after no contact it might have an affect on her to reach out.
dont break NC. if ur ex is starting to like ur posts, and text u it means she wants ur attention. if you give it to her she will get what she wanted and give u the cold shoulder. Its like a junkie. Once they get their fix they are okay for some time. let her miss you more…stay strong. I did NC first 2 weeks, broke it… after a week i broke it again and another 10 days and broke it again. And it didnt get me anwyhere but being ignored. so 55 (really 55 days of NC) finally i got a response.and now we are kind of togehter, not official and just for “fun”. but also that will turn into official and serious relationship. trust me you need to do NC and complete it. for your best !!! Good luck
@tami420 thanks your right, I had a moment of weakness and got excited when she started to like my photos. I forgot the bigger picture. Thanks for the advice. My plan was always to complete 30 days of no contact then send my letter, wait a bit more then reach out. I’m hopeing by her starting to like my stuff that means she’s thinking of me.
I’m glad to hear that things are working out for u. I hope to be in your situation soon
I fully agree with Juan10 and tammi @
She is liking your picture either to get your attention,or she started missing you and playing with your head.
I have been well played with my ex g/f and not sure what to do.I was in 4 yrs relationship and started my NC on Jan 13,after almost 45 days my g/f emailed me and asked me for her resume and how I am doing which I replied after couple of hours that I am doing good,please find resume attached and now her friend texted me for some house that I should find for her to rent as I do real estate.
So I was very hoping that this is good news so than after reading the posts I came to know that she is playing mind games and I should not get very excited and stop NC,so I am still on NC and completing my 60 days on March 13 and I don’t plan to send any letter at all,if she is interested she will find the ways to talk,she is the one who dumped.
So continue NC and this is the last option left,dont like her pictures and also don’t show off too much on facebook either.OK ?
I mean not stop by NC above
Cheers. I’m going to continue with no contact for 30 days then send the letter.
yes i think she is thinking of you and she wants your attention definetly. When an ex doesnt want ur attention he/she will act like u dont exit(like my ex did for three straight months). So ya she sure thinks of you and that is her way of showing you you are on her mind. But I think you are strong and will complete the 30 day challenge (i call it like that cause it really is a challenge lol ) so keep up the good work and see the results after the NC period is over. I wish u the best of luck. and also some days are going to be hard and u will feel bad, but dont text, better if u write a friend or let it out here. and i hope u will be in my situation sooner than i was 
good luck
Ye I hope so, I hadn’t heard from here for a while then all of a sudden she started liking my photos of the gigs, nights out etc. I’m not actually in the photos so maybe she’s liking them because it’s what I’m doing and not that I’m in them. Or am I overthinking now. Ye I tend to use this site if I’ve had a bad day. Knowing that ppl are in the same situation helps. I get mixed replys from my friends some are helpful some arnt. I’m glad your doing well I hope it continues
I’ll wait and see if she contacts me soon, in the mean time I will continue to work on myself. After all 5 years is a long time, surely she won’t forget me over night. I need to show her ive changed for the better when we reconnect
Yes I agree the way u think is great and now the idea you have needs to be true. It is hard i know i understand. but also remember if she reaches out dont respond. if she gets mad for u “ignoring her” then tell her;“sorry but i need some time for myself” and thats it. nothing more. and yes, SHOW HER not tell her and promise her u are different. if u will be she will see it herself
maybe the photos she liked is her way of telling you that she doesnt get why u dont contact her or something similar. ex’es usualy start to wonder what happened and if their ex moved on or doesnt care anymore and that usualy is the time when they start thinking if they did the right thing. if u ask me… but im not sure i neither a a specialist… i just give advices i think are the best regarding ur situation. tay positive and strong 
I will, thank you. Tomorrow’s another day closer to the magic 30