Ok so my ex girlfriend friend and I were together for over two years…we fell madly in love and were living together within two months and we lived together for over two years and most of it was wonderful… she is the love of my life. I am 47 she’s 56.we broke up do to my insecurities several times, but she would always take me back… but about 11 months ago she broke up with me for good but we still talk frequently and I know she loves me… I just don’t know what to do… I did all of the things you’re not supposed to do such as beg,cry,plead ECT. For the first few months and she said we are best friends but not getting back together anyway I deleted her number a couple of months ago but she still calls me about every 10 days or so…we have hung out a couple times as friends. She called the other day to just check up and I said if you ever want to get a drink to call me…she said we’ll talk soon that was 3 days ago…I just don’t know what to do neither one us has bad mouthed each other and neither one of us are dating as far as I know…I would appreciate any incite thanks
@Thomas 72 You wrote:“we broke up do to my insecurities several times”. What insecurities and how did you display them??
Her breaking up with you several times for behaviors she didn’t like and you not changing for the better is a bad sign. Now she’s only interested in a friendship and I’m sure you’re sad about that. And yet, it’s good that you two are on friendly terms because it gives you a chance to improve your insecurities and stop doing whatever it was that drove her away from you!
Because she gave you several chances to change and you didn’t, you might need professional help through therapy sessions.
Three days ago you suggested going out for a drink and she said " we’ll talk soon". Apparently you’re already getting tensed up, but it’s only been 3 days!! You have to be more patient!
Don’t beg, cry, plead or make any more suggestions! Let her be the one to suggest meeting up etc…
PS: I suggest you don’t put a space between Thomas and 72 because the site won’t send an email notifying you of responses to your post.